Question primarily for gay people
For our gay peeps: When people learn that you are gay, do they ask you if you know a particular gay person that they know?
Once in a while. I usually get the ones who HAVE to tell me about every gay person they know and how they LOVE to go out with them.
When I lived in Philly and DC, and I would mention that I'm from St. Louis, people would ask me if I knew someone they knew in St. Louis. What the fuck?! We're a bit inbred for sure, but St. Louis is one of the largest cities in the country...3 million people live here! I know a lot of people here, but not all of 'em!
And I've seen this happen with minorities too, particularly blacks. People will ask if you know a particular person or say something like, "Oh, I don't have a problem with (insert group here) at all!" right away. And I suspected that something like that might happen with gays and lesbians as well.
Just one of those subjects that I've thought about before but finally remembered to ask about...slow day around here. :)
On the flip side, my former (gay) roommate really did seem to know every gay person in town. I would be telling him about some random kid I knew when I was six and he would always say something like, "Oh yeah, I know him! He's gay now, by the way."
So, syc, I know this guy Bill. He's a real asshole. Do you know him?
As a matter of fact, I do know him...he says hello...and "Cock!"
So, syc, I know this guy Bill. He's a real asshole. Do you know him?
I actually laughed out loud when I read that.
Cock.
nothing personal....it was just set up so very well. i really would have felt bad if i hadn't
Cock
I didn't take it personally...cock. :)
good. oh, and i hope that the homos appreciate all the cock in this thread. we're trying very hard.....yes, hard....to make it homey.
I think the whole "You're an X? Do you know Y that is also an X?" thing is just a way to find common ground for conversation. I'm sure I could look it up in one of my socio-linguistics books, but I'm not going to get all geeky...
I also have a question that I don't think a straight person can answer.
Nature or Nurture and explain please.
On the flip side, my former (gay) roommate really did seem to know every gay person in town. I would be telling him about some random kid I knew when I was six and he would always say something like, "Oh yeah, I know him! He's gay now, by the way."
I have to agree, in that my bi-stalker seemed to know every lesbian in town. Or at least the ones who were "out". Walking through town with her involved a litany of spite as she spotted someone in every hairdressers, cafe, sandwich shop and told me the worst things she knew about them. Then wondered why I made excuses not to go out drinking with her...
Then again, small city, limited number of gay venues, it's not surprising that faces become known.
My dear sweet naive grandmother went to one of my brother's college football games in Indiana. My brother introduced his black roommate. My grandmother asked him if he knew the Boyds. This was a black family with a bunch of kids who lived near her. She meant nothing by it, and we still get a chuckle. She was the cutest lady, and I miss her.
I also have a question that I don't think a straight person can answer.
Nature or Nurture and explain please.
Nature. My Mom bought me a subscription to Playboy when I was 10 years old to teach me about female anatomy. Never interested me other than in the fact that some of my friends want me to bring the magazines over so they could rub themselves naked against the pictures. Now THAT interested me. ;-)
Y' know there's an awful lot of cock in this thread. just thought I'd mention. Incidentally, and probably the wrong thread, but in many parts of the UK, particularly the North, the word 'cock' is used as a term of endearment, a little like 'mate', or 'ducks'. eg. Awright cock what can I get you?
even if people do respond in such a silly way---silly is better than recoiling in horror, shunning you, or beating the crap out of you. At least they're trying to connect, if poorly.
Progress. of a sort.
Nature. My Mom bought me a subscription to Playboy when I was 10 years old to teach me about female anatomy. Never interested me other than in the fact that some of my friends want me to bring the magazines over so they could rub themselves naked against the pictures. Now THAT interested me. ;-)
Let me guess...you also had a gal throw herself at you at age 12. :)
I wish my mom would have been that cool...I always had to be covert in my quests.
Let me guess...you also had a gal throw herself at you at age 12. :)
Nope. I had 2 girls throwing themselves at me in 3rd grade though.
Damnit! Why do gay guys get the chicks?
Damnit! Why do gay guys get the chicks?
Because we're safe. No pressure.
It used to piss my friends off when a girl they had been trying to get with for a long time would just come over and sit in my lap when we went out. :D
snuggling close to a warm human being you like is almost always pretty pleasant, no matter what your orientation is
I'm sorry, but this thread title now contravenes the Equality Act, as defined by the commons and upheld by our peers...
Nope, because it was 'primarily' not exclusively for gay people:)
I'm sorry, but this thread title now contravenes the Equality Act, as defined by the commons and upheld by our peers...
We can remedy that. Bend over and take one for the team. :D