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orthodoc · 06-12-2012, 10:02 PM

Thank you. Sorry to keep bringing up his assholistic behavior ... it's the combination of aggressive asshole abuser and cringeing victimized drama-king that drives me to drink. I suppose ... the more this happens, the easier I will find it to locate the most aggressive pit-bull lawyer I can find to defend what's left of my ability to carry on my life. Falling into the pit has its romantic attractions, but only at 2 am after one too many single malts. Rising above the pit and seeking equilibrium is a better alternative.

classicman · 06-12-2012, 10:03 PM

Oh, and what Infi said.

Clodfobble · 06-12-2012, 11:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

How long have you known him?

OMG, no way. It couldn't be.

Could it?

I need to stop seeing connections where none exist.

orthodoc · 06-12-2012, 11:32 PM

Shit. Too much. Leaving now. Check in later - thanks everyone, thanks.

Known him 34 years. you'd think I'd know better. But jerks dont' always declare themselves right away. This one took 10 years.

BigV · 06-12-2012, 11:59 PM

There's a time for drinking, to be sure. When you're together does NOT seem like a good one though.

I'm with classicman, at least as far as reading with dumbstruck miscomprehension that he actually suggested that course. It will be effective, but it leaves a smoking crater of no return.

orthodoc · 06-13-2012, 12:22 AM

Wasn't drinking tonight actually, just a general sort of reference ... but I left. Couldn't take the harassment, the sleep deprivation. Guess that smoking crater is there now ... all I want is some sleep

limey · 06-13-2012, 06:16 AM

Ortho - please find the details of a refuge. Now. If you don't use it, fine, but if you do, won't you b glad the details are in your purse, phone or brain already? Please.

infinite monkey · 06-13-2012, 07:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

OMG, no way. It couldn't be.

Could it?

I need to stop seeing connections where none exist.

Let me in on it because wtf?

monster · 06-13-2012, 07:43 AM

*snortle*

orthodoc · 06-13-2012, 03:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by limey

Ortho - please find the details of a refuge. Now. If you don't use it, fine, but if you do, won't you b glad the details are in your purse, phone or brain already? Please.

Thanks - I did leave last night and took refuge with friends whose location stb-x doesn't know. I can't stay there forever but have found out about the local women's shelter ... although they publish their address on their web page!!

Years ago when we lived in a bigger town/city and I had to go to the shelter there, its location was absolutely secret. This one's openness doesn't fill me with confidence, although honestly I don't see stb-x appearing there demanding to see me. He'd be too embarrassed; this is a very small town, he'd be recognized.

But I do have the address and will use it if/when necessary.

limey · 06-13-2012, 04:01 PM

I'm glad to hear you've thought this out, Ortho. Good luck!

orthodoc · 06-17-2012, 12:05 AM

Got some great information from an attorney a couple of days ago. Turns out I'm entitled to much more than I ever thought - enough to make it possible to keep the kids in college, if stb-x reneges on his financial support of them. I sat in the car and cried after leaving the attorney's office. Couldn't believe I have a way to protect my kids, and shouldn't have to exist on eggs (one daily, which is what I ate in first year university when I had no money) for two years while I get my training.

I'm stoked. The thought of being able to protect the kids, of NOT being held hostage to ensure they get what they need, is infinitely empowering. I don't intend to set everything in motion until I am physically out of the house, which is in six days. His threats, from years past, of the many ways he can kill me (with his anesthetic drugs and medical knowledge) still disrupt my sleep (although honestly, he'd probably just buy a gun and use it), so I'll keep the peace for six more days. But June 23 is my freedom date.

plthijinx · 06-17-2012, 01:08 AM

be the fuck careful. recently here in houston some jackass took out his wife, errrr soon to be ex-wife then himself with his kids in the next room. be careful and don't let your guard down.

DanaC · 06-17-2012, 06:12 AM

Whs.

Good going Ortho. You're handling this brilliantly.

Be careful though. Leaving, organising custody, divorce etc, all potential flashpoints for violence.

classicman · 06-17-2012, 11:10 AM

Good for you orthodoc. Remember to stay focused.

Plan the work and work the plan.

06-12-2012, 10:02 PM	#8011
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,876	Thank you. Sorry to keep bringing up his assholistic behavior ... it's the combination of aggressive asshole abuser and cringeing victimized drama-king that drives me to drink. I suppose ... the more this happens, the easier I will find it to locate the most aggressive pit-bull lawyer I can find to defend what's left of my ability to carry on my life. Falling into the pit has its romantic attractions, but only at 2 am after one too many single malts. Rising above the pit and seeking equilibrium is a better alternative. __________________ Cancer: it's better not to have it. - Trilby

06-12-2012, 10:03 PM	#8012
classicman Chock full O' facts Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 21,215	Oh, and what Infi said. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

06-12-2012, 11:32 PM	#8014
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,876	Shit. Too much. Leaving now. Check in later - thanks everyone, thanks. Known him 34 years. you'd think I'd know better. But jerks dont' always declare themselves right away. This one took 10 years. __________________ Cancer: it's better not to have it. - Trilby

06-12-2012, 11:59 PM	#8015
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 18,326	There's a time for drinking, to be sure. When you're together does NOT seem like a good one though. I'm with classicman, at least as far as reading with dumbstruck miscomprehension that he actually suggested that course. It will be effective, but it leaves a smoking crater of no return. __________________ Remember: Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones. -- Marcus Aurelius, philosopher and writer (121-180)

06-13-2012, 12:22 AM	#8016
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,876	Wasn't drinking tonight actually, just a general sort of reference ... but I left. Couldn't take the harassment, the sleep deprivation. Guess that smoking crater is there now ... all I want is some sleep __________________ Cancer: it's better not to have it. - Trilby

06-13-2012, 06:16 AM	#8017
limey Sassenach Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 4,609	Ortho - please find the details of a refuge. Now. If you don't use it, fine, but if you do, won't you b glad the details are in your purse, phone or brain already? Please. __________________ A wandering mind living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-13-2012, 07:43 AM	#8019
monster only 99c Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Tena City Posts: 24,152	snortle __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

06-13-2012, 04:01 PM	#8021
limey Sassenach Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 4,609	I'm glad to hear you've thought this out, Ortho. Good luck! __________________ A wandering mind living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-17-2012, 12:05 AM	#8022
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,876	Got some great information from an attorney a couple of days ago. Turns out I'm entitled to much more than I ever thought - enough to make it possible to keep the kids in college, if stb-x reneges on his financial support of them. I sat in the car and cried after leaving the attorney's office. Couldn't believe I have a way to protect my kids, and shouldn't have to exist on eggs (one daily, which is what I ate in first year university when I had no money) for two years while I get my training. I'm stoked. The thought of being able to protect the kids, of NOT being held hostage to ensure they get what they need, is infinitely empowering. I don't intend to set everything in motion until I am physically out of the house, which is in six days. His threats, from years past, of the many ways he can kill me (with his anesthetic drugs and medical knowledge) still disrupt my sleep (although honestly, he'd probably just buy a gun and use it), so I'll keep the peace for six more days. But June 23 is my freedom date. __________________ Cancer: it's better not to have it. - Trilby

06-17-2012, 01:08 AM	#8023
plthijinx as filthy as a good set of beer goggles Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Friendswood, Tx. Posts: 4,072	be the fuck careful. recently here in houston some jackass took out his wife, errrr soon to be ex-wife then himself with his kids in the next room. be careful and don't let your guard down. __________________ Philthyism #69.1 - trust me on this one. Don't EVER masturbate after slicing up fresh jalepeno peppers! Philthyism #69.2 - WARNING reading Infinite Monkey's posts maybe hazardous to your beer's health! oh. and your keyboard and monitor too because of said beer.

06-17-2012, 11:10 AM	#8025
classicman Chock full O' facts Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 21,215	Good for you orthodoc. Remember to stay focused. Plan the work and work the plan. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

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