Danger Will Robinson! Danger!!

Big Sarge · 08-24-2011, 04:53 PM

Well most of you remember the saga of my ex. She's the girl who ran off with another man while I was hospitalized and I wasn't able to see my daughter for a year and a half. She broke my heart and yes, I'm still hurting.

She's separated from her husband and is being very friendly. Part of me is willing to give in. The other says I need to run like hell. What do you think??

classicman · 08-24-2011, 04:55 PM

RUN LIKE FORREST GUMP

monster · 08-24-2011, 05:08 PM

put on the panda suit and go hide at the zoo

limey · 08-24-2011, 05:14 PM

run
don't look back

Aliantha · 08-24-2011, 05:32 PM

I'd be pretty cautious if I were you sarge. Maybe she has changed. Parenthood can do that, but I'd be taking it very slowly.

Pico and ME · 08-24-2011, 05:39 PM

Stay away!. She's just looking for a safe haven until she finds another one.

Spexxvet · 08-24-2011, 05:51 PM

Sundae will kick your ass

Undertoad · 08-24-2011, 06:04 PM

you already know the answer

sexobon · 08-24-2011, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Big Sarge

... Part of me is willing to give in. ... What do you think??

I think we need to review your security clearance.

classicman · 08-24-2011, 06:17 PM

This ...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pico and ME

Stay away!. She's just looking for a safe haven until she finds another one.

but more importantly -

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

you already know the answer

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Originally Posted by Spexxvet

Sundae will kick your ass

zippyt · 08-24-2011, 06:34 PM

RUN !!!

BigV · 08-24-2011, 06:57 PM

Dear Sarge

I'm divorced. I have kids. My ex-wife and I, well, there was plenty of drama. Filing for divorce, restraining orders, living separately, living in my car, reconciliation, living together, refiling for divorce, plus a lot of drama, a lot of tears, a lot of damage.

I read your opening post and I can confidently say that there's no harm in being friendly, if you can do so safely. The safety of your kids' and your own mental health is what I am talking about. Being friendly's fine. But making commitments based on friendliness is not a good idea if her ACTIONS and her history don't match up.

Ever have a perp act friendly? I bet they can be reaaaal nice, especially when they're in a tough spot, and you have the power to make their life easier. Reformation is possible, rehabilitation is possible. But you know those fundamental changes in a person take strenuous and sustained effort. Only you can decide if the work has been done to make those changes possible.

Until you have good reason to believe the changes have already happened, you have a greater obligation to protect yourself, and protect your kids, because *no one* else is going to do that for you. If it's real, it will last. If it's a limited time offer, well, like those others said, you already know the answer.

Yours,

monster · 08-24-2011, 07:09 PM

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Yours,

OBAMA in 2012

?????

you'll need some make-up to try and pull that off.....

Big Sarge · 08-24-2011, 10:06 PM

Ya'll are right. If Sundae lived closer & this wouldn't even be crossing my mind.

ZenGum · 08-24-2011, 10:09 PM

I'm late, but ... what everyone else said.

08-24-2011, 04:53 PM	#1
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Danger Will Robinson! Danger!! Well most of you remember the saga of my ex. She's the girl who ran off with another man while I was hospitalized and I wasn't able to see my daughter for a year and a half. She broke my heart and yes, I'm still hurting. She's separated from her husband and is being very friendly. Part of me is willing to give in. The other says I need to run like hell. What do you think?? __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

08-24-2011, 04:55 PM	#2
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	RUN LIKE FORREST GUMP __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

08-24-2011, 05:08 PM	#3
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	put on the panda suit and go hide at the zoo __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

08-24-2011, 05:14 PM	#4
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	run don't look back __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

08-24-2011, 05:32 PM	#5
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'd be pretty cautious if I were you sarge. Maybe she has changed. Parenthood can do that, but I'd be taking it very slowly. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-24-2011, 05:39 PM	#6
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Stay away!. She's just looking for a safe haven until she finds another one. __________________ Jesse LaGreca in 2012 “Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Science without humanity, Knowledge without character, Politics without principle, Commerce without morality, Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi

08-24-2011, 05:51 PM	#7
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	Sundae will kick your ass __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

08-24-2011, 06:04 PM	#8
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	you already know the answer

08-24-2011, 06:34 PM	#11
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	RUN !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

08-24-2011, 06:57 PM	#12
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Dear Sarge I'm divorced. I have kids. My ex-wife and I, well, there was plenty of drama. Filing for divorce, restraining orders, living separately, living in my car, reconciliation, living together, refiling for divorce, plus a lot of drama, a lot of tears, a lot of damage. I read your opening post and I can confidently say that there's no harm in being friendly, if you can do so safely. The safety of your kids' and your own mental health is what I am talking about. Being friendly's fine. But making commitments based on friendliness is not a good idea if her ACTIONS and her history don't match up. Ever have a perp act friendly? I bet they can be reaaaal nice, especially when they're in a tough spot, and you have the power to make their life easier. Reformation is possible, rehabilitation is possible. But you know those fundamental changes in a person take strenuous and sustained effort. Only you can decide if the work has been done to make those changes possible. Until you have good reason to believe the changes have already happened, you have a greater obligation to protect yourself, and protect your kids, because no one else is going to do that for you. If it's real, it will last. If it's a limited time offer, well, like those others said, you already know the answer. Yours, __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

08-24-2011, 10:06 PM	#14
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Ya'll are right. If Sundae lived closer & this wouldn't even be crossing my mind. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

08-24-2011, 10:09 PM	#15
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	I'm late, but ... what everyone else said. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

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