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11-26-2014, 08:41 PM
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Operations Operative
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: in hiding
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Just letting you know
My situation has become very difficult and I am now officially separated from my husband. I'm am posting as anonymous in the hopes that he wont bother reading here and I can talk to you guys about things and not have him use it against me at a later date.
I asked him to move into a different room last Sunday after discovering stuff on his computer which shocked but didn't surprise me if that makes any sense. He hasn't been having an affair (that I know of). it was something else, but equally detrimental to the tenuous state of our marriage. Anyway, today I started making official arrangements for the kids and me. At this stage we will stay put because three of the four of them have schools they need to attend in the area. Even if we do move, it wont be far. He said yesterday he wasn't sure if he wanted to separate, but I am tired of him being the one to call the shots, so as far as I'm concerned, we are no longer a couple. Whether or not things follow through to the likely conclusion, only time will tell. He says he's talking to a psychologist as well as a psychiatrist to try and sort out his issues, but he's been at it for 6 months and so far nothing has changed. if anything, things are worse (obviously). I know I own part of the blame for this failure, largely that I have just turned off my emotions as far as he's concerned. I just don't give a shit what he does anymore. He could walk out the door and never come back and I really don't think I'd care except for the effect it would have on the kids. Six months ago, I didn't think we could afford to separate. Obviously things are worse, because now I'm finding ways to make it affordable. So now you're up to date. I may decide to get a new name on here, but who knows. If any of you want to chat, you can find me on facebook or send me a PM. |
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11-26-2014, 08:58 PM
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Goon Squad Leader
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Seattle
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11-27-2014, 03:08 AM
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We have to go back, Kate!
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Yorkshire
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Damn
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11-27-2014, 07:45 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Arlington, VA
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Sorry to hear it has gotten so bad, but I'm glad you are taking steps to get control of the situation and hopefully it will eventually be better for you.
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11-27-2014, 08:44 AM
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still says videotape
Join Date: Feb 2001
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Good luck with it.
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11-27-2014, 09:05 AM
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Encroaching on your decrees
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland
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11-27-2014, 09:49 AM
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polaroid of perfection
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: West Yorkshire
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Sorry darling.
It must hurt like hell. Never had kids to consider myself, but I remember what breaking up is like. No way back I assume? Would he tell a different story? No criticism implied. Just checking bridges really have been burned. |
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11-27-2014, 11:05 AM
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To shreds, you say?
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet!
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I hear you.
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11-27-2014, 01:11 PM
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Person who doesn't update the user title
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: La Crosse, WI
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I am so sorry.
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11-27-2014, 01:13 PM
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Werepandas - lurking in your shadows
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: In the Deep South
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Sorry to hear things are so bad, especially with the holidays here. Don't know what to really say ....
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11-27-2014, 04:03 PM
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The Un-Tuckian
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: South Central...KY that is
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I actually haven't figured out who you are yet, but...
...Good on ya that you're taking steps to make things better for you. 
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11-27-2014, 08:41 PM
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Back in 10
Join Date: Aug 2008
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One day at a time....
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12-04-2014, 10:12 PM
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The future is unwritten
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God damn it, I go away for a couple days and the world goes to shit... can't leave you alone for a minute.
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12-05-2014, 06:54 AM
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Makes some feel uncomfortable
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