Adultery - Page 2

Sundae · 07-19-2008, 06:01 PM

Sweet, I think that it is Binky's sister who is claiming her paramour's wife is a real bitch. Therefore absolving the two of them from any blame, which is one of the reasons Binky thinks her sister needs to grow up.

binky · 07-19-2008, 06:13 PM

thanks SG, I was going to just point out that I was being sarcastic, but that is a much better answer.

sweetwater · 07-19-2008, 06:15 PM

Thanks, SG - with binky acting merely as relay, that statement makes better sense.
[I've been sick most of the day and my logic is always the first thing that that goes... maybe 2nd or 3rd - *sigh*]

jazzmusicluvr · 08-01-2008, 01:04 PM

Never pork a co-worker...

binky · 08-01-2008, 11:32 PM

exactly! How does the old saying go? "Never get your meat where you make your bread" Particularly appropriate since they worked in a grocery store

classicman · 08-02-2008, 08:29 AM

If you do, one must leave.

BrianR · 08-02-2008, 09:09 AM

I prefer "Don't fish in the company pond.", myself.

Cicero · 08-02-2008, 09:31 AM

Yea. Well it is just a grocery store. The real rule of thumb is to just try not to have tryst's with the married guys unless everyone is aware, and complicit.

I've seen some of the hot bagger boys at whole foods, and if I were a young cashier I might entertain the idea of a date. Some look like they would make good couples and everyone knows that those types of positions aren't forever. As long as you remain professional at work it's no one's business really. It's better not to date co-workers but really, that doesn't always apply.

Yes, I am a wife and a complete bitch. I have a hands off rule. Put your hands on my husband and yes, I will be a complete bitch. The fact that I would be a bitch isn't quite the point.

I think your sister knowingly screwed the wrong guy, and maybe even made a habit of it. And still isn't sorry. She should be making an apology instead of name calling. After an apology, (accepted or not) she could then, forgive herself for doing something so stupid.

Married and a co-worker, well that spells doom. People have always met at work and they always will. I don't care. But screwing a married co-worker is definitely a no no.

glatt · 08-02-2008, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by jazzmusicluvr

Never pork a co-worker...

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Originally Posted by binky

exactly!

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Originally Posted by classicman

If you do, one must leave.

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Originally Posted by BrianR

I prefer "Don't fish in the company pond.", myself.

It worked out well for me. Although a year or so after we got married, my new wife did leave for a better job.

Cicero · 08-02-2008, 06:34 PM

I rest my case, your honor.

Juniper · 08-02-2008, 11:51 PM

Never dip your pen in the company inkwell.

I don't understand people who screw around with someone who's married, or otherwise committed. What's the appeal? Competition? Lack of self-esteem? Worse yet, so many of them believe that the married person will leave his/her spouse to be with them...which is the height of delusion. If they'll cheat on their spouse, they'll cheat on you too.

Oh well. Sorry about your sister.

Hope she figures it out soon.

Clodfobble · 08-03-2008, 09:35 AM

Just wanted to pipe in as another happily-married couple who met at work. We had both moved on to better jobs before we actually got married, though. Also, another good pair of friends met at work, continued dating after that company went under, and later ended up both getting jobs at the same company again.

If both parties act like grownups (i.e., never date married people and aren't prone to nasty, dramatic breakups) then it can easily work.

Cicero · 08-03-2008, 10:30 AM

Yea, like I said, people have always met at work and always will.....I think it's normal. Why wouldn't you date a peer? If you are in the same business you probably at least have a lot in common. Not everyone meets at church.

The married guy fetishists are not normal I don't think.

One of my ex's sister's was like that. Always trying to be with very married guys. I always thought that always showed a lack of character. She didn't like single guys. Only very married ones. I can understand mishaps and screw ups, but to repeatedly date the same married guy with no conscience about it is beyond me. Then they end up blaming the guy's wife for something trivial.

Maybe it's the thrill of taboo and secret meetings.

Clodfobble · 08-03-2008, 04:45 PM

I imagine it's also an ego-boost; the chick is so awesome that she's worth risking his marriage over. That's a roundabout compliment, I suppose.

Tink · 08-05-2008, 10:14 AM

As a recipient of this being done to me, speaking from the "other side" and not the bitchy wife (two-way street here)....the deep seeded hurt and pain that adultery causes the one NOT cheating is wrenching. It is devastating. To be able to trust that person again is a long, long road. That trust may never be regained. It's definitely not a wise choice for anyone to make.

Three words: don't do it.

07-19-2008, 06:13 PM	#17
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	thanks SG, I was going to just point out that I was being sarcastic, but that is a much better answer. __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

07-19-2008, 06:15 PM	#18
sweetwater lives inside a Mobius strip Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,120	Thanks, SG - with binky acting merely as relay, that statement makes better sense. [I've been sick most of the day and my logic is always the first thing that that goes... maybe 2nd or 3rd - sigh] __________________ I knew I shoulda taken that left turn at Albuquerque! - Bugs Bunny

08-01-2008, 11:32 PM	#20
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	exactly! How does the old saying go? "Never get your meat where you make your bread" Particularly appropriate since they worked in a grocery store __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

08-02-2008, 08:29 AM	#21
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	If you do, one must leave. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

08-02-2008, 09:09 AM	#22
BrianR Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Dallas, TX Posts: 3,338	I prefer "Don't fish in the company pond.", myself. __________________ Never be afraid to tell the world who you are. -- Anonymous

07-19-2008, 06:01 PM	#16
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Sweet, I think that it is Binky's sister who is claiming her paramour's wife is a real bitch. Therefore absolving the two of them from any blame, which is one of the reasons Binky thinks her sister needs to grow up.

08-01-2008, 01:04 PM	#19
jazzmusicluvr Person Who Has Posted Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2	Never pork a co-worker...

08-02-2008, 09:31 AM	#23
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Yea. Well it is just a grocery store. The real rule of thumb is to just try not to have tryst's with the married guys unless everyone is aware, and complicit. I've seen some of the hot bagger boys at whole foods, and if I were a young cashier I might entertain the idea of a date. Some look like they would make good couples and everyone knows that those types of positions aren't forever. As long as you remain professional at work it's no one's business really. It's better not to date co-workers but really, that doesn't always apply. Yes, I am a wife and a complete bitch. I have a hands off rule. Put your hands on my husband and yes, I will be a complete bitch. The fact that I would be a bitch isn't quite the point. I think your sister knowingly screwed the wrong guy, and maybe even made a habit of it. And still isn't sorry. She should be making an apology instead of name calling. After an apology, (accepted or not) she could then, forgive herself for doing something so stupid. Married and a co-worker, well that spells doom. People have always met at work and they always will. I don't care. But screwing a married co-worker is definitely a no no. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

08-02-2008, 06:34 PM	#25
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	I rest my case, your honor. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

08-02-2008, 11:51 PM	#26
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Never dip your pen in the company inkwell. I don't understand people who screw around with someone who's married, or otherwise committed. What's the appeal? Competition? Lack of self-esteem? Worse yet, so many of them believe that the married person will leave his/her spouse to be with them...which is the height of delusion. If they'll cheat on their spouse, they'll cheat on you too. Oh well. Sorry about your sister. Hope she figures it out soon.

08-03-2008, 09:35 AM	#27
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Just wanted to pipe in as another happily-married couple who met at work. We had both moved on to better jobs before we actually got married, though. Also, another good pair of friends met at work, continued dating after that company went under, and later ended up both getting jobs at the same company again. If both parties act like grownups (i.e., never date married people and aren't prone to nasty, dramatic breakups) then it can easily work. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

08-03-2008, 10:30 AM	#28
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Yea, like I said, people have always met at work and always will.....I think it's normal. Why wouldn't you date a peer? If you are in the same business you probably at least have a lot in common. Not everyone meets at church. The married guy fetishists are not normal I don't think. One of my ex's sister's was like that. Always trying to be with very married guys. I always thought that always showed a lack of character. She didn't like single guys. Only very married ones. I can understand mishaps and screw ups, but to repeatedly date the same married guy with no conscience about it is beyond me. Then they end up blaming the guy's wife for something trivial. Maybe it's the thrill of taboo and secret meetings. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

08-03-2008, 04:45 PM	#29
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I imagine it's also an ego-boost; the chick is so awesome that she's worth risking his marriage over. That's a roundabout compliment, I suppose. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

08-05-2008, 10:14 AM	#30
Tink Why oh why? Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seattle Posts: 186	As a recipient of this being done to me, speaking from the "other side" and not the bitchy wife (two-way street here)....the deep seeded hurt and pain that adultery causes the one NOT cheating is wrenching. It is devastating. To be able to trust that person again is a long, long road. That trust may never be regained. It's definitely not a wise choice for anyone to make. Three words: don't do it.

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