My ex-nephew dead of overdose in early 20s

Undertoad · 12-08-2008, 02:58 PM

It's my ex's nephew; for 11 years, he was my nephew, he was family.

Born to a coke-addicted mom, and a coke-addicted dad who departed two years in.

Mom was able to kick coke long enough to be sensibly employed by an insurance agency for quite a while, starting to make a life for the kids. But addictions never really go away, and once mom started drinking, when the kids were about 10, it was all over.

She was relentlessly drunk, lost her job, lost her teeth, lost her money, lost her home, moved back with mom and dad and for a while; could not be trusted around any cash for five minutes, because she would take it to the nearest booze store.

Her girl, the younger, unfortunately developed breasts early and as a young teen was going out with 21 year olds. Don't know what she's doing now.

Her boy, the older, seemed to do OK for a while. He was a good pitcher and got a scholarship to a good school for it. But once he got there, as it will do at about that age, signs of schizophrenia set in. Kicked out of school, he moved back in with mom for a while I think, but somehow wound up back with grandma and grandad. Neither very sharp, I imagine they were mystified by this young man who was bipolar and had schizoaffective disorder. And they were completely unaware that he had become a massive opiate addict, perhaps in an attempt to self-medicate. Apparently the opiate of his choice was a fentanyl patch, an oxycontin of sorts; addicts will cut the patch up and eat it.

Grandma found his dead body over the weekend.

Shawnee123 · 12-08-2008, 02:59 PM

I'm so sorry, UT.

Cicero · 12-08-2008, 03:10 PM

Bah. That's unfortunate...Didn't quite have a chance did he?

Sorry UT.

lookout123 · 12-08-2008, 03:13 PM

Rough end to a horrible beginning. Sorry toad.

glatt · 12-08-2008, 03:14 PM

Wow, that sucks.

Aliantha · 12-08-2008, 03:23 PM

What a horrible thing to happen. Words fail me.

Elspode · 12-08-2008, 03:57 PM

That's horrible. My condolences to you and your ex-family members.

sweetwater · 12-08-2008, 03:58 PM

Sorry, Undertoad. I hope the sister breaks the cycle.

binky · 12-08-2008, 04:18 PM

Oh God, UT I am so sorry.

limey · 12-08-2008, 04:22 PM

Ouch. so sorry UT. Sending hugs your way.

classicman · 12-08-2008, 07:06 PM

Condolences and prayers to the family. I'm very sorry to hear that UT. Thats just awful.

DanaC · 12-08-2008, 07:21 PM

God, UT, that's tragic. I'm so sorry.

Clodfobble · 12-08-2008, 08:01 PM

I'm sorry, Toad.

jinx · 12-08-2008, 08:02 PM

Condolences Tony, that's just incredibly sad...

Griff · 12-08-2008, 08:06 PM

I'm sorry brother.

12-08-2008, 02:58 PM	#1
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	My ex-nephew dead of overdose in early 20s It's my ex's nephew; for 11 years, he was my nephew, he was family. Born to a coke-addicted mom, and a coke-addicted dad who departed two years in. Mom was able to kick coke long enough to be sensibly employed by an insurance agency for quite a while, starting to make a life for the kids. But addictions never really go away, and once mom started drinking, when the kids were about 10, it was all over. She was relentlessly drunk, lost her job, lost her teeth, lost her money, lost her home, moved back with mom and dad and for a while; could not be trusted around any cash for five minutes, because she would take it to the nearest booze store. Her girl, the younger, unfortunately developed breasts early and as a young teen was going out with 21 year olds. Don't know what she's doing now. Her boy, the older, seemed to do OK for a while. He was a good pitcher and got a scholarship to a good school for it. But once he got there, as it will do at about that age, signs of schizophrenia set in. Kicked out of school, he moved back in with mom for a while I think, but somehow wound up back with grandma and grandad. Neither very sharp, I imagine they were mystified by this young man who was bipolar and had schizoaffective disorder. And they were completely unaware that he had become a massive opiate addict, perhaps in an attempt to self-medicate. Apparently the opiate of his choice was a fentanyl patch, an oxycontin of sorts; addicts will cut the patch up and eat it. Grandma found his dead body over the weekend.

12-08-2008, 02:59 PM	#2
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I'm so sorry, UT. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

12-08-2008, 03:10 PM	#3
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Bah. That's unfortunate...Didn't quite have a chance did he? Sorry UT. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

12-08-2008, 03:13 PM	#4
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	Rough end to a horrible beginning. Sorry toad. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

12-08-2008, 03:23 PM	#6
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	What a horrible thing to happen. Words fail me. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-08-2008, 03:14 PM	#5
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Wow, that sucks.

12-08-2008, 03:57 PM	#7
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	That's horrible. My condolences to you and your ex-family members. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

12-08-2008, 03:58 PM	#8
sweetwater lives inside a Mobius strip Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,120	Sorry, Undertoad. I hope the sister breaks the cycle. __________________ I knew I shoulda taken that left turn at Albuquerque! - Bugs Bunny

12-08-2008, 04:18 PM	#9
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	Oh God, UT I am so sorry. __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

12-08-2008, 04:22 PM	#10
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Ouch. so sorry UT. Sending hugs your way. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

12-08-2008, 07:06 PM	#11
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Condolences and prayers to the family. I'm very sorry to hear that UT. Thats just awful. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

12-08-2008, 07:21 PM	#12
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	God, UT, that's tragic. I'm so sorry.

12-08-2008, 08:01 PM	#13
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I'm sorry, Toad. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

12-08-2008, 08:02 PM	#14
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Condolences Tony, that's just incredibly sad... __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

12-08-2008, 08:06 PM	#15
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	I'm sorry brother. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

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