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Old 01-18-2014, 09:28 PM   #1
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What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

The Guardian suggests...

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What's the best question to ask on a first date? Many forests have been felled for books dissecting this question, but a few years back the dating website OKCupid.com made a startling intervention.

If you want to know the chances of a first encounter ending in sex, its analysts said, the question to ask is, "Do you like the taste of beer?" If you're concerned with long-term compatibility, the question is, "Do you like horror movies?"

When registering, OKCupid users answer hundreds of seemingly innocuous queries – the one about beer, it transpires, is most strongly correlated with positive views of first-date sex. Liking or disliking horror films, meanwhile, is a better predictor of a lasting relationship than beliefs about God.

We could invent theories to explain this: maybe people who score highly on "sensation-seeking", as psychologists call it, enjoy both casual sex and cheap ways to get drunk? But the point about Big Data is that you don't need theories. The correlations are there, whether or not they seem to make sense.
I would have said, ask what you want to know about them. No wonder I struck out so often.
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Old 01-18-2014, 09:36 PM   #2
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I reckon a good one is, "where do you see yourself in ten years".
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Old 01-18-2014, 09:37 PM   #3
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Also, you could ask how they feel about sex on the first date.
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Old 01-19-2014, 05:47 AM   #4
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if I want to know her taste in beer i'll ask her about beer, that decides where we drink.
if i want to know her taste in sex i'll ask her about sex, that decides how and where we shag.
surely nobody can be dumb enough to confuse beer with getting jiggy-jiggy?
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Old 01-19-2014, 06:47 AM   #5
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It seems rather desperate, to need to know whether you're going to get laid a whole two-three hours before you find out for sure. I understand wanting to know if you're going to get laid within the first month, or if you'll have to go so far as to marry her first... But asking about the first date on the first date smacks of impatience, it's like spoiling the end of the movie while you're sitting in the theater.
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Old 01-19-2014, 08:13 AM   #6
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I ask "How do you feel about buying jewellery?"
Funny how I've never even got to the sex part.
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Old 01-19-2014, 10:10 AM   #7
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best question for a first date:
"well, do you want a shag or not?"
get that out the way and then you can both get on with enjoying the date.

is that cool or what?
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Old 01-19-2014, 10:17 AM   #8
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It seems rather desperate, to need to know whether you're going to get laid a whole two-three hours before you find out for sure.
But how will I know if I should bother with that expensive toilet water, and unripped underwear?

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I understand wanting to know if you're going to get laid within the first month, or if you'll have to go so far as to marry her first... But asking about the first date on the first date smacks of impatience, it's like spoiling the end of the movie while you're sitting in the theater.
What? It's the first concern on every date.




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Old 01-19-2014, 11:30 AM   #9
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first date first question, both participants:

Did you bring condoms?
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:24 PM   #10
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What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

"WTF are you doing on a date with someone like me?"
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Old 01-19-2014, 02:50 PM   #11
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Old 01-19-2014, 08:56 PM   #12
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Q: What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

A: Do you have any questions?
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Old 01-19-2014, 11:47 PM   #13
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The OK Cupid blog is fascinating reading even though they haven't updated it in two years... even if you aren't in the dating game.
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Old 01-20-2014, 08:32 AM   #14
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But how will I know if I should bother with that expensive toilet water, and unripped underwear?
And the boner pill.

I thought the best question was "What's the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?"
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Old 01-20-2014, 02:36 PM   #15
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