The Sex Thread - Page 66

piercehawkeye45 · 08-27-2007, 09:04 PM

http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralse...unnilingus.htm

jinx · 08-27-2007, 09:09 PM

Buy her this.

Perry Winkle · 08-27-2007, 09:10 PM

Yeah, I've read that guide and a dozen others.

She's pretty self-conscious about her inability to come, so I try and do as much as I can to get her into the zone. It helps when there's nobody else in the house.

There's probably no strategy other than "keep trying." It just gets frustrating and I needed somewhere to vent...

Perry Winkle · 08-27-2007, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by jinx

Buy her this.

She's been planning on going to a toy store with her friend, but she still hasn't gone. I'm not sure if it'd be appreciated if I took the initiative there. I think she sees it as a very personal decision...

Clodfobble · 08-27-2007, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

She's pretty self-conscious about her inability to come, so I try and do as much as I can to get her into the zone. It helps when there's nobody else in the house.

If she's self-concious, oral sex may not be the surest way to go at first. I mean, she'll enjoy it, but many women fundamentally feel weird having something done to them rather than with them, if that makes sense. She's more likely to be thinking about the fact that you're trying, which is going to make it more difficult.

As for surefire techniques, there are none. I've talked to women who went nuts for things that did nothing for me, or even felt downright uncomfortable.

DucksNuts · 08-27-2007, 10:13 PM

Her being self conscious and aware that she hasnt come, will be what is holding her back from orgasm.

Does she cum from self pleasuring? Thats the key to her figuring out what she needs and where to concentrate to achieve the mighty goal.

Other than that, a few drinks to take the edge off and keep up the good work

lumberjim · 08-27-2007, 10:26 PM

two words. vigorous anal.

Perry Winkle · 08-27-2007, 10:53 PM

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Originally Posted by DucksNuts

Does she cum from self pleasuring? Thats the key to her figuring out what she needs and where to concentrate to achieve the mighty goal.

I guess I wasn't clear, she hasn't had an orgasm. Ever. Period. She doesn't know what it feels like to come... It's definitely a big thing in her mind.

I have notice that the closer we've become the easier it is to get her into the "holy shit" realm of pleasure.

We'll figure it out, no worries.

One of my favorite things about sex, so far, is waking up all horned up and already grinding against each other (when it's cool we sleep naked and spooning). There's something about the lack of control when you're in that just becoming conscious fog that I love. It's almost solely physical reaction. When this happens we both think it's the other person that initiated the fuck.

Perry Winkle · 08-27-2007, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by lumberjim

two words. vigorous anal.

Anal doesn't hold much appeal for either of us... maybe we'll try it someday, who knows.

I'm thinking playing with a blindfold and perhaps a feather (or ice cubes) might be fun for our next experiment.

DucksNuts · 08-27-2007, 11:03 PM

arse hole

Iggy · 08-27-2007, 11:41 PM

I have a friend who was in the same boat as your gf. She hadn't ever had an orgasm. My suggestion is she needs to play with herself, alone. Until she figures out what it is that does it for her, almost nothing you will do will take her there. YMMV, but in my experience most women have their first orgasm by themselves when they are just exploring their body.

I find that when I am stressed or worried about something it makes it exponentially harder to orgasm. If her inability to orgasm is a big deal then it will take a very long time for her to get there since she is constantly worrying about getting there, and not how good everything feels. How old is she?

Oh, and the reason I suggest she plays by herself is that it should remove the performance anxiety she is probably having. After all, if she tries and doesn't get there, no one has to know. I also suggest one of these. This one in particular looks good as it has a dial to control the speed. As long as she starts slow she should have fun.

kerosene · 08-27-2007, 11:44 PM

PW, with the oral thing, make sure she knows how much you enjoy doing it with her. I know I have been self conscious about it in the past. Help her focus on herself and what she is feeling down there at the moment. It is easy to get distracted with thoughts like "do I smell/taste funny?" or "Is he getting annoyed at this, right now?"

DucksNuts · 08-28-2007, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

I guess I wasn't clear, she hasn't had an orgasm. Ever. Period. She doesn't know what it feels like to come... It's definitely a big thing in her mind.

Oh yeah, then she definitely needs to spend a bit of time getting to know herself....for *most* women, its a focus thing (or lack there of?).

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Originally Posted by DucksNuts

arse hole

That was directed at LJ too, I thought I posted it, but got distracted at work

lumberjim · 08-28-2007, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by DucksNuts

arse hole

ballooooon knot!

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2007, 08:18 AM

It's pretty simple with men, but when a woman says she's never had an orgasm, with or without a partner, how does she know?

08-27-2007, 09:09 PM	#977
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Buy her this. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

08-27-2007, 10:26 PM	#982
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08-27-2007, 11:41 PM	#986
Iggy Back and ready to tart up the place Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 850	I have a friend who was in the same boat as your gf. She hadn't ever had an orgasm. My suggestion is she needs to play with herself, alone. Until she figures out what it is that does it for her, almost nothing you will do will take her there. YMMV, but in my experience most women have their first orgasm by themselves when they are just exploring their body. I find that when I am stressed or worried about something it makes it exponentially harder to orgasm. If her inability to orgasm is a big deal then it will take a very long time for her to get there since she is constantly worrying about getting there, and not how good everything feels. How old is she? Oh, and the reason I suggest she plays by herself is that it should remove the performance anxiety she is probably having. After all, if she tries and doesn't get there, no one has to know. I also suggest one of these. This one in particular looks good as it has a dial to control the speed. As long as she starts slow she should have fun. __________________ Chock-full of naughty goodness.

08-28-2007, 08:18 AM	#990
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	It's pretty simple with men, but when a woman says she's never had an orgasm, with or without a partner, how does she know? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

08-27-2007, 09:04 PM	#976
piercehawkeye45 Franklin Pierce Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Minnesota Posts: 3,695	http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralse...unnilingus.htm

08-27-2007, 09:10 PM	#978
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	Yeah, I've read that guide and a dozen others. She's pretty self-conscious about her inability to come, so I try and do as much as I can to get her into the zone. It helps when there's nobody else in the house. There's probably no strategy other than "keep trying." It just gets frustrating and I needed somewhere to vent...

08-27-2007, 10:13 PM	#981
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Her being self conscious and aware that she hasnt come, will be what is holding her back from orgasm. Does she cum from self pleasuring? Thats the key to her figuring out what she needs and where to concentrate to achieve the mighty goal. Other than that, a few drinks to take the edge off and keep up the good work

08-27-2007, 11:03 PM	#985
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	arse hole

08-27-2007, 11:44 PM	#987
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	PW, with the oral thing, make sure she knows how much you enjoy doing it with her. I know I have been self conscious about it in the past. Help her focus on herself and what she is feeling down there at the moment. It is easy to get distracted with thoughts like "do I smell/taste funny?" or "Is he getting annoyed at this, right now?"

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