What do you regret? - Page 2

hot_pastrami · 07-06-2004, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hot_pastrami

I think I regret the original-sticking-up-for-him and the eventual-unpleasant-dismissal just about equally.

Incidentally, that bit was spoken in jest... I don't regret sticking up for him. My regret for not having done so would be much greater.

LabRat · 07-06-2004, 03:33 PM

when i thought about the things i regret; the big things; they had one thing in common...i didn't follow my heart/gut/instinct*. IOW i had 2 or three options, one of which i felt was the right choice, and 1 or more that others, parents, friend etc. thought were better choices. and i went with someone else's idea of what was right. there are only a couple of times that this has (probably) affected the overall outcome of my life, but i do think about what it would have been like if i had _____'d instead. usually only when i am in a depressed mood. overall i feel like i am a very lucky person however in that i learned from these 'mistakes' and therefore want to teach my daughter to trust herself above all others (even me!) when it comes to something she feels is important.

*OK, so there have also been a lot where alcohol was involved, but since i can only remember the good parts

they're not really regrettable

dar512 · 07-06-2004, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Trillian-zz9

I regret NOT spending my childhood running through grass and mud and putting worms in my pockets...

Doing that now I would just feel stupid.

You're never too old to have a happy childhood.

jaguar · 07-06-2004, 03:37 PM

Ah sodit.
I regret being a lazy little bugger and relying on decent brains and a silver tongue until I came a cropper a few years ago. I regret spending a couple of years doing stuff I didn't enjoy because of the cash. I regret telling a lot of people to get fucked, and not telling a lot of other people to get fucked. I regret losing contact with so many people.

LabRat · 07-06-2004, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Trillian-zz9

Doing that now I would just feel stupid.

why?? i played in the rain last night, and didn't give a hoot what my neighbors thought. it felt good, like it did when i was a kid...

i learned a long time ago to screw what other people thought of me, turns out they weren't there for me when it really counted anyway.

lumberjim · 07-06-2004, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jaguar

Ah sodit.

welcome back. how was your vacation. you didnt really miss antything interesting here

jaguar · 07-06-2004, 03:46 PM

Well, been accepted into my new uni so I'm now a very bored photojournalism/graphics student waiting to get the hell over there. Thus the combination of extreme boredom (cannot even open photoshop at the moment without feeling ill after the last couple of weeks) and excellent mood drove me back.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-06-2004, 05:51 PM

Regret? The things I didn't do for fear of getting in trouble, not necessarily with the law, but with family, friends, peers, employers.

And a whole lot of things I did do. Wisdom don't come cheap.

Crimson Ghost · 07-06-2004, 10:32 PM

"Regrets? I've had a few, too few to mention....." - Ol' Blue Eyes

Anything I have done in my life, good or bad, has served to make me who I am today. So, no, I don't regret anythiing I've done.

There are a few things I wish I'd have done different........

Sun_Sparkz · 07-07-2004, 12:21 AM

Bearing the knowledge that all I have done has brought me to be who I am today (whom I am happy to be) I can say I have some regrets:

- I regret going out with my 1st boyfriend Mick. He was a dickhead. I should have listened to my dad!

- I regret the way Tim and I broke up, although I am very happy in my current new relationship, I just wish I could have handled things better.

- I regret not attending my brothers funeral. I was angry at the time but now I wish I had of gone to say goodbye.

- I regret not keeping in contact with all my old mates from school, I really only still speak to a small handful now.

- I regret how I treated my dad when I was ages 15-through-17. I was a total bitch to him and he is the most precious thing in my life. I will never be able to make up for that, and I'll never be able to thank him enough for being such an awesome dad.

ladysycamore · 07-07-2004, 12:07 PM

Hm...after reading a couple of posts that mentions, "But I would be a different person now", I'm like, "and that's a 'bad' thing?"

I *know* that I'd be a different person if I had not had bad eating habits as a child, later on, been more compliant with my diabetes care and had gone to the docs a bit more. Oh yeah: I would have been different, and I think I would have been better (health-wise) for it.

And I *kindasorta* regret not leaving home at an earlier age (like most of my friends).

OnyxCougar · 07-07-2004, 12:17 PM

Well, I think I wouldn't be as strong, or as independant as I am (which is scary), or have the same outlook on life that I do. Those things certainly shaped me for the better, even though I had to go through hell to get here.

It's kinda like the thing with Kelle right now (Sticky Situation thread)... there are a bunch of actions she would do differently now. Hindsight is always 20/20 and all that. But going through this fire right now is honing her...shaping her...teaching her that hard lesson about consequences. I told her not to go to Croatia until the divorce was final, but she didn't listen and now finds herself where she is. She admitted I was right, but that doesn't help her now. *shrug*

Trillian-zz9 · 07-07-2004, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by LabRat

why?? i played in the rain last night, and didn't give a hoot what my neighbors thought. it felt good, like it did when i was a kid...

i learned a long time ago to screw what other people thought of me, turns out they weren't there for me when it really counted anyway.

Haha, well I don't like my niehbours anyway, so mud it is. It's raining now but I won't go, in Britain there will be PLENTY more oppotunities to play in the rain...

glatt · 07-07-2004, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Trillian-zz9

It's raining now but I won't go, in Britain there will be PLENTY more oppotunities to play in the rain...

The grass is always greener.... in Britain.

Elionwyr · 07-18-2004, 09:48 PM

Mm.

* I regret trusting the man that date-raped me when I was 16.

* I regret not going to college.

* I regret a great deal of how I handled my first serious relationship.

* I regret getting myself into credit card debt.

07-06-2004, 03:37 PM	#19
jaguar whig Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5,075	Ah sodit. I regret being a lazy little bugger and relying on decent brains and a silver tongue until I came a cropper a few years ago. I regret spending a couple of years doing stuff I didn't enjoy because of the cash. I regret telling a lot of people to get fucked, and not telling a lot of other people to get fucked. I regret losing contact with so many people. __________________ Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. - Twain

07-06-2004, 03:46 PM	#22
jaguar whig Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5,075	Well, been accepted into my new uni so I'm now a very bored photojournalism/graphics student waiting to get the hell over there. Thus the combination of extreme boredom (cannot even open photoshop at the moment without feeling ill after the last couple of weeks) and excellent mood drove me back. __________________ Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. - Twain

07-06-2004, 05:51 PM	#23
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Regret? The things I didn't do for fear of getting in trouble, not necessarily with the law, but with family, friends, peers, employers. And a whole lot of things I did do. Wisdom don't come cheap. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

07-06-2004, 10:32 PM	#24
Crimson Ghost Larger than life and twice as ugly. Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 5,264	"Regrets? I've had a few, too few to mention....." - Ol' Blue Eyes Anything I have done in my life, good or bad, has served to make me who I am today. So, no, I don't regret anythiing I've done. There are a few things I wish I'd have done different........ __________________ We must all go through a rite of passage. It must be physical, it must be painful, and it must leave a mark. I have no knowledge of the events which you are describing, and if I did have knowledge of them, I would be unable to discuss them with you now or at any future period. Don't waste your time always searching for those wasted years

07-07-2004, 12:21 AM	#25
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	Bearing the knowledge that all I have done has brought me to be who I am today (whom I am happy to be) I can say I have some regrets: - I regret going out with my 1st boyfriend Mick. He was a dickhead. I should have listened to my dad! - I regret the way Tim and I broke up, although I am very happy in my current new relationship, I just wish I could have handled things better. - I regret not attending my brothers funeral. I was angry at the time but now I wish I had of gone to say goodbye. - I regret not keeping in contact with all my old mates from school, I really only still speak to a small handful now. - I regret how I treated my dad when I was ages 15-through-17. I was a total bitch to him and he is the most precious thing in my life. I will never be able to make up for that, and I'll never be able to thank him enough for being such an awesome dad. __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

07-06-2004, 03:33 PM	#17
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	when i thought about the things i regret; the big things; they had one thing in common...i didn't follow my heart/gut/instinct. IOW i had 2 or three options, one of which i felt was the right choice, and 1 or more that others, parents, friend etc. thought were better choices. and i went with someone else's idea of what was right. there are only a couple of times that this has (probably) affected the overall outcome of my life, but i do think about what it would have been like if i had _____'d instead. usually only when i am in a depressed mood. overall i feel like i am a very lucky person however in that i learned from these 'mistakes' and therefore want to teach my daughter to trust herself above all others (even me!) when it comes to something she feels is important. OK, so there have also been a lot where alcohol was involved, but since i can only remember the good parts they're not really regrettable

07-07-2004, 12:07 PM	#26
ladysycamore "I may not always be perfect, but I'm always me." Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: In Sycamore's boxers Posts: 1,341	Hm...after reading a couple of posts that mentions, "But I would be a different person now", I'm like, "and that's a 'bad' thing?" I know that I'd be a different person if I had not had bad eating habits as a child, later on, been more compliant with my diabetes care and had gone to the docs a bit more. Oh yeah: I would have been different, and I think I would have been better (health-wise) for it. And I kindasorta regret not leaving home at an earlier age (like most of my friends). __________________ "Freedom is not given. It is our right at birth. But there are some moments when it must be taken." ~Tagline from the movie "Amistad"~ "The Akan concept of Sankofa: In order to move forward we first have to take a step back. In other words, before we can be prepared for the future, we must comprehend the past." From "We Did It, They Hid It"

07-07-2004, 12:17 PM	#27
OnyxCougar Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Kingdom of Atlantia Posts: 2,979	Well, I think I wouldn't be as strong, or as independant as I am (which is scary), or have the same outlook on life that I do. Those things certainly shaped me for the better, even though I had to go through hell to get here. It's kinda like the thing with Kelle right now (Sticky Situation thread)... there are a bunch of actions she would do differently now. Hindsight is always 20/20 and all that. But going through this fire right now is honing her...shaping her...teaching her that hard lesson about consequences. I told her not to go to Croatia until the divorce was final, but she didn't listen and now finds herself where she is. She admitted I was right, but that doesn't help her now. shrug __________________ Impotentes defendere libertatem non possunt. "Repetition does not transform a lie into a truth." ~Franklin D. Roosevelt Last edited by OnyxCougar; 07-07-2004 at 12:20 PM.

07-18-2004, 09:48 PM	#30
Elionwyr Coronation Incarnate Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 89	Mm. * I regret trusting the man that date-raped me when I was 16. * I regret not going to college. * I regret a great deal of how I handled my first serious relationship. * I regret getting myself into credit card debt.

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