Single again...... - Page 4

jujuwwhite · 02-04-2010, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by bbro

you need to be able to be comfortable being with just yourself before trying to date. That way, you won't need to be with the other person 24/7.

I agree 100%. Before I met Capnhowdy, I was single for almost 5 years and I learned to 'date' myself. (already folks, not just the dirty kind of self dating. HAHA) But I would make a time for myself, get dressed up and go out to eat at my favorite resturant or movie. I even got brave enough to go to some musical events by myself and found I actually enjoyed myself. Being alone at some of the events gave me the opportunity to meet new people without worrying about neglecting a date.

In fact, it was at one of my 'self dates' when I met Capnhowdy by chance and the rest is history!!

Big Sarge · 02-05-2010, 07:39 PM

Hey TG. I've been there. I'm still recovering from my ex running away with another man while I was in the hospital. It's hard, but everyday it gets a little easier.

I highly recommend you not try to contact her & avoid any place you might run into her at.

jujuwwhite · 02-05-2010, 07:41 PM

AMEN Big Sarge!

disenchanted · 02-12-2010, 04:01 AM

TG, it's not too far back from me recanting my own trainwreck in this same corner of the cellar. However things are going for you, here's my words of advice: Take some time and figure out who you are today; if there isn't the "us" anymore in your life, get to know the "me" again (cut the snickering, I'm being sincere.) Find something to do with your time, capitalize on all of that emotional wreckage. My distraction was buying a bicycle and riding the crap out of it. (bonus, distracted myself quite a bit, and got into way better shape than I was, which did a lot for my confidence, which turned out to be good armor about trying to be rational about things rather than sitting around blaming myself for everything (yeah, could've done things differently, but at least it wasn't thoughts of "I deserved to be treated even worse than I was" 24/7)) It turns out if you go see a movie on your own, nobody around you cares, they're watching the movie. You go on a trip alone, nobody notices, they don't know you anyhow. Go to a restaurant alone, no big deal. If they make a comment while seating you, walk away if it bugs you. (preferably before ordering/being served.)

All I'm saying is find yourself again. Or meet yourself as you are today.

limey · 02-12-2010, 10:14 AM

Great advice here, TG, from dis.

02-05-2010, 07:39 PM	#47
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Hey TG. I've been there. I'm still recovering from my ex running away with another man while I was in the hospital. It's hard, but everyday it gets a little easier. I highly recommend you not try to contact her & avoid any place you might run into her at. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

02-05-2010, 07:41 PM	#48
jujuwwhite Capnhowdy's #1 smasher Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rentz, GA Posts: 339	AMEN Big Sarge! __________________ I don't suffer from insanity...i enjoy every moment of it.

02-12-2010, 10:14 AM	#50
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Great advice here, TG, from dis. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

02-12-2010, 04:01 AM	#49
disenchanted Resident President Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 81	TG, it's not too far back from me recanting my own trainwreck in this same corner of the cellar. However things are going for you, here's my words of advice: Take some time and figure out who you are today; if there isn't the "us" anymore in your life, get to know the "me" again (cut the snickering, I'm being sincere.) Find something to do with your time, capitalize on all of that emotional wreckage. My distraction was buying a bicycle and riding the crap out of it. (bonus, distracted myself quite a bit, and got into way better shape than I was, which did a lot for my confidence, which turned out to be good armor about trying to be rational about things rather than sitting around blaming myself for everything (yeah, could've done things differently, but at least it wasn't thoughts of "I deserved to be treated even worse than I was" 24/7)) It turns out if you go see a movie on your own, nobody around you cares, they're watching the movie. You go on a trip alone, nobody notices, they don't know you anyhow. Go to a restaurant alone, no big deal. If they make a comment while seating you, walk away if it bugs you. (preferably before ordering/being served.) All I'm saying is find yourself again. Or meet yourself as you are today.

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