ED Prescriptions

Laurie Henderson · 01-09-2009, 10:42 PM

So here's a question...

If a doctor prescribes Viagra or some other ED prescription, should the doctor be required to discuss the prescription with the spouse?

My spouse came home with free samples & a prescription - unbeknownst to me. It took about 15 minutes for me to tell a difference...

Am I wrong to feel violated because the prescription wasn't discussed with me (by spouse or doctor)?

And finally, should this issue be posted in "relationships" or "health?"

SteveDallas · 01-09-2009, 10:49 PM

Like it or not, if the man won't talk about it with his partner, it's not the doctor's job.

monster · 01-09-2009, 10:56 PM

No.

maybe you're not wrong to feel that you should have been consulted (and maybe you are), but it certainly isn't the doctor's job to tell you about it.

seems like your hubby was feeling bad about his performance and trying to suprise you -why on earth are you upset?

Beestie · 01-09-2009, 10:59 PM

The doctor is not at liberty to discuss that information with anyone but the patient and the insurance company.

Are you wrong to feel violated? That's up to you but if you haven't discussed it with your spouse by now then I think I understand why he didn't discuss it with you first.

lumberjim · 01-09-2009, 11:25 PM

i voted before i read the post

Dr required>? NO

spouse SHOULD? yes

smoothmoniker · 01-10-2009, 01:28 AM

The doc's job is to provide medical advice to the patient, not relationship advice to the couple. Not his job to inform you.

xoxoxoBruce · 01-10-2009, 02:19 AM

The Doctor doesn't have time for that shit unless you plan and go together.

If you know he got free samples and a prescription, I'd say you have discussed it. Sounds to me like your displeasure with him acting on his own, stems your failure to be able control him this time.

limey · 01-10-2009, 04:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lumberjim

i voted before i read the post

Dr required>? NO

spouse SHOULD? yes

What he said.

TheMercenary · 01-10-2009, 06:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Laurie Henderson

So here's a question...

If a doctor prescribes Viagra or some other ED prescription, should the doctor be required to discuss the prescription with the spouse?

Absolutely not. Should the doctor be required to talk with you before you get birthcontrol?

HIPAA prevents them from talking to anyone but the patient.

footfootfoot · 01-10-2009, 10:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

The Doctor doesn't have time for that shit unless you plan and go together.

If you know he got free samples and a prescription, I'd say you have discussed it. Sounds to me like your displeasure with him acting on his own, stems your failure to be able control him this time.

I think those x's and o's represent bullseyes.

(probably might have something to do with his ED too. Tough to get it up if you are concurrently being emasculated. Umm. I read that somewhere.)

Cloud · 01-10-2009, 10:32 AM

unanimous.

your question is a relationship one, not a health issue.

Undertoad · 01-10-2009, 10:50 AM

Another ditto for xoB and footer

SteveDallas · 01-10-2009, 10:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloud

unanimous.

Actually, it's not... we have two voters who disagree. Maybe they could post their thinking?

Pico and ME · 01-10-2009, 11:10 AM

It would be a waste of time for my husband, he just doesnt need it. But if he did, and he surprised me with it, I dont think I would be uspset about it.

Juniper · 01-10-2009, 05:35 PM

Well, let's see. Say I wanted to get birth control pills and my DH didn't want me to. Or meds for depression. Or meds for anything else, for that matter, that was optional, I wasn't going to die without them but they'd make me feel better about my life.

DH could very well sit in that doctor's office and say, hell NO, you're not putting my wife on the pill. I want her to have babies. Lots of babies! Barefoot and pregnant, that's how I like it!

I highly suspect you'd go to the doctor and get the pill anyway, or would at least defend a woman's right to do so.

Perhaps he was embarrassed to discuss it with you. I think many men would be.

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01-09-2009, 10:42 PM	#1
Laurie Henderson Sentimental Sentient Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Central PA Posts: 38	ED Prescriptions So here's a question... If a doctor prescribes Viagra or some other ED prescription, should the doctor be required to discuss the prescription with the spouse? My spouse came home with free samples & a prescription - unbeknownst to me. It took about 15 minutes for me to tell a difference... Am I wrong to feel violated because the prescription wasn't discussed with me (by spouse or doctor)? And finally, should this issue be posted in "relationships" or "health?"

01-09-2009, 10:56 PM	#3
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	No. maybe you're not wrong to feel that you should have been consulted (and maybe you are), but it certainly isn't the doctor's job to tell you about it. seems like your hubby was feeling bad about his performance and trying to suprise you -why on earth are you upset? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

01-09-2009, 10:59 PM	#4
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	The doctor is not at liberty to discuss that information with anyone but the patient and the insurance company. Are you wrong to feel violated? That's up to you but if you haven't discussed it with your spouse by now then I think I understand why he didn't discuss it with you first. __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

01-09-2009, 11:25 PM	#5
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	i voted before i read the post Dr required>? NO spouse SHOULD? yes __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

01-09-2009, 10:49 PM	#2
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Like it or not, if the man won't talk about it with his partner, it's not the doctor's job.

01-10-2009, 01:28 AM	#6
smoothmoniker to live and die in LA Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,090	The doc's job is to provide medical advice to the patient, not relationship advice to the couple. Not his job to inform you. __________________ to live and die in LA

01-10-2009, 02:19 AM	#7
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	The Doctor doesn't have time for that shit unless you plan and go together. If you know he got free samples and a prescription, I'd say you have discussed it. Sounds to me like your displeasure with him acting on his own, stems your failure to be able control him this time. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

01-10-2009, 10:32 AM	#11
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	unanimous. your question is a relationship one, not a health issue. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

01-10-2009, 10:50 AM	#12
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Another ditto for xoB and footer

01-10-2009, 11:10 AM	#14
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	It would be a waste of time for my husband, he just doesnt need it. But if he did, and he surprised me with it, I dont think I would be uspset about it.

01-10-2009, 05:35 PM	#15
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Well, let's see. Say I wanted to get birth control pills and my DH didn't want me to. Or meds for depression. Or meds for anything else, for that matter, that was optional, I wasn't going to die without them but they'd make me feel better about my life. DH could very well sit in that doctor's office and say, hell NO, you're not putting my wife on the pill. I want her to have babies. Lots of babies! Barefoot and pregnant, that's how I like it! I highly suspect you'd go to the doctor and get the pill anyway, or would at least defend a woman's right to do so. Perhaps he was embarrassed to discuss it with you. I think many men would be.

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