The next 19 years

skysidhe · 07-28-2008, 01:35 AM

So you've spent 19 years being a mom then they grow up and there's this vacumn. One more year of transfer courses then it's off to a University. I am excited for him but excited I get one more chance to help by dorm items which I think is pathetic.

I feel pathetic. I don't want to be one of those old people who talk about memories without building any new ones but I do find myself missing the early years.

I want to do cupcakes at school, halloween trick or treating. It's really weird. This transition. It's the biggest peaceful empty bubble evah!

classicman · 07-28-2008, 08:00 AM

wow - you sound a lot like me last year. Its a tough transition, but it can be a great experience to relearn all about this wonderful human being you've guided this far into the world.

ZenGum · 07-28-2008, 08:49 AM

Don't worry. He'll move back in just as soon as he finishes college. While he, you know, tries to save for his own place.

skysidhe · 07-28-2008, 10:46 AM

I know you're both right.

classicman · 07-28-2008, 10:51 AM

I'll hopefully have downsized by that time and relocated to a place that is close enough for visiting, but far enough that they won't want to live with me.

Shawnee123 · 07-28-2008, 01:19 PM

Right before I graduated from college, I told my mom "Mom, you know, a lot of young people these days are opting to move back in with their parents for a couple years." My mom replied "A lot of parents aren't giving that option." My mom's a hoot. When I was a pre-teen, she told me when I got married she would give me a thousand dollars and a ladder.

Of course, if I needed to my childhood home would have been open, but they really did want me to be independent.

Hang in there, sky!

HungLikeJesus · 07-28-2008, 01:35 PM

I tried to go back to my childhood home, but the people who lived there had changed the locks.

Clodfobble · 07-28-2008, 03:06 PM

I would never have willingly moved back in with my parents, no way no how. Summer after freshman year was bad enough, from that point on I made sure to secure housing that didn't close for the summer.

skysidhe · 07-28-2008, 04:38 PM

lol @ HLJ and Classicman.

rat's clodfobble....most kids like free rent. Must have been rough

Clodfobble · 07-28-2008, 06:31 PM

Not rough--I just have a fierce sense of independence. Strange, I know. Free rent means it's not mine, to do with as I please.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-28-2008, 11:25 PM

The rent is never free... they make you pay one way or another.

Sundae · 07-29-2008, 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

Of course, if I needed to my childhood home would have been open, but they really did want me to be independent.

Same as my parents. They'd have me back in a heartbeat if they really thought it was my only option. But they'd make sure I had been through every other possible option first.

They love all of us, but as far as they are concerned we're adults now, and they are enjoying the life that they worked hard for, for 40+ years.

Oh and I paid rent/ housekeeping from the age of 16, as did my sister. My brother was in school til he was 18, but he paid from then. I'm not going to pretend it was anything like market rates, but it did impress on us that we were living in their house, not our house any more. In fact I paid 1/2 of the phone bill while I lived at home, because I was so fed up with my Mum locking the phone when she went out, as it meant my friends couldn't call me. They were quite shocked when I moved out and there was hardly a dip in the phone bill (these are the days before itemised billing). That was one of my few valid teen grips - I told you I hardly ever used the phone!

Shawnee123 · 07-29-2008, 07:40 AM

I was pretty independent too. When my parents and I dropped my older brother off at college (he is two years older than I) it was all sad and scary (of course, he is the oldest, so there's that) but when they dropped me off I was like "kisses, love you, careful going home...hey roomie where's the party?"

Living with the 'rents would have been hard for me...but I knew the option was there if I really needed it.

Griff · 07-29-2008, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by skysidhe

So you've spent 19 years being a mom then they grow up and there's this vacumn. One more year of transfer courses then it's off to a University. I am excited for him but excited I get one more chance to help by dorm items which I think is pathetic.

I feel pathetic. I don't want to be one of those old people who talk about memories without building any new ones but I do find myself missing the early years.

I want to do cupcakes at school, halloween trick or treating. It's really weird. This transition. It's the biggest peaceful empty bubble evah!

I am in no way ready for this. Good luck.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-29-2008, 10:51 AM

All that skiing, hiking, and mountain biking, boils down to patrolling the perimeter, eh Griff?

07-28-2008, 01:35 AM	#1
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	The next 19 years So you've spent 19 years being a mom then they grow up and there's this vacumn. One more year of transfer courses then it's off to a University. I am excited for him but excited I get one more chance to help by dorm items which I think is pathetic. I feel pathetic. I don't want to be one of those old people who talk about memories without building any new ones but I do find myself missing the early years. I want to do cupcakes at school, halloween trick or treating. It's really weird. This transition. It's the biggest peaceful empty bubble evah!

07-28-2008, 08:00 AM	#2
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	wow - you sound a lot like me last year. Its a tough transition, but it can be a great experience to relearn all about this wonderful human being you've guided this far into the world. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

07-28-2008, 08:49 AM	#3
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Don't worry. He'll move back in just as soon as he finishes college. While he, you know, tries to save for his own place. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

07-28-2008, 10:51 AM	#5
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I'll hopefully have downsized by that time and relocated to a place that is close enough for visiting, but far enough that they won't want to live with me. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

07-28-2008, 01:19 PM	#6
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Right before I graduated from college, I told my mom "Mom, you know, a lot of young people these days are opting to move back in with their parents for a couple years." My mom replied "A lot of parents aren't giving that option." My mom's a hoot. When I was a pre-teen, she told me when I got married she would give me a thousand dollars and a ladder. Of course, if I needed to my childhood home would have been open, but they really did want me to be independent. Hang in there, sky! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

07-28-2008, 10:46 AM	#4
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	I know you're both right.

07-28-2008, 01:35 PM	#7
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	I tried to go back to my childhood home, but the people who lived there had changed the locks. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

07-28-2008, 03:06 PM	#8
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I would never have willingly moved back in with my parents, no way no how. Summer after freshman year was bad enough, from that point on I made sure to secure housing that didn't close for the summer. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

07-28-2008, 04:38 PM	#9
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	lol @ HLJ and Classicman. rat's clodfobble....most kids like free rent. Must have been rough

07-28-2008, 06:31 PM	#10
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Not rough--I just have a fierce sense of independence. Strange, I know. Free rent means it's not mine, to do with as I please. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

07-28-2008, 11:25 PM	#11
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	The rent is never free... they make you pay one way or another. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

07-29-2008, 07:40 AM	#13
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I was pretty independent too. When my parents and I dropped my older brother off at college (he is two years older than I) it was all sad and scary (of course, he is the oldest, so there's that) but when they dropped me off I was like "kisses, love you, careful going home...hey roomie where's the party?" Living with the 'rents would have been hard for me...but I knew the option was there if I really needed it. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

07-29-2008, 10:51 AM	#15
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	All that skiing, hiking, and mountain biking, boils down to patrolling the perimeter, eh Griff? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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