R.I.P. momwolf - Page 2

Trilby · 10-27-2009, 11:00 AM

:hugs and prayers: to you and yours, wolf. Bless you all. Take comfort in each other. peace.

SamIam · 10-27-2009, 11:12 AM

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Losing your mother is very hard. May you carry her in your heart, always.

bbro · 10-27-2009, 11:16 AM

I am very sorry to hear about your loss wolf. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Clodfobble · 10-27-2009, 11:34 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss, wolf.

capnhowdy · 10-27-2009, 11:57 AM

Just saw this thread. Condolences from the capnhowdy camp.

wolf · 10-27-2009, 12:05 PM

Thank you all so much.

I've been making a lot of calls this morning, still avoiding the calls to the momwolf's survivng siblings. She was the youngest of 9. One was stillborn, another died in infancy, and a third died in the influenza epidemic. She also had a sister who died in her teens of lukemia.

Several people have been kind of taken aback when I tell them, "No, there won't be a memorial service or a funeral. siswolf and I are doing things on our own."

I don't go into it further, since most of momwolf's friends since unclewolf and twinuncle wolf (momwolf was a fraternal twin) really won't understand why a Native American Shaman will be doing a releasing ceremony (So, in answer to the question, no Jazz, but there will probably be drumming and chanting).

One thing I learned this morning is that funeral directors will come to you, rather than making you come to them, which is good because the weather is appropriately miserable today.

He was very kind on the phone, but has already attempted to up-sell us. He should be here in half an hour or so.

We do need to figure out what sort of container we want her cremains in. I was looking at some of the options on the funeral home's website, and really am not sure. We don't want her in cardboard (too many possibilities to spill or lose her) and most of the actual urns are far too elaborate. I did get a weird laugh moment, because there was a pink cloisonné urn that was just WAY too Meet the Parents.

Juniper · 10-27-2009, 12:10 PM

The funeral director didn't come to me. I had to drive clear across town.

I am so sorry, Wolf. I'm sure you're having all those mixed relief/grief/guilt feelings; been there done that. But you're much braver than I am. You did your absolute best for your mom, I'm sure she knew that, and I hope that brings you comfort.

morethanpretty · 10-27-2009, 12:26 PM

I'm sorry to hear about momwolf. Peace to you and siswolf, it seems like y'all can work together on this which makes the process easier.
Do you have a friend who is a woodworker or a ceramics maker? If you can wait a bit, they might be able to make an appropriate container to your liking. I know my dad (woodworker) make the urn we used for my mom's biological dad and was a nice piece. Also affordable considering he had no money left and we weren't in the best position to pay for it all.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-27-2009, 12:37 PM

Funeral parlors are thicker than ticks on a hound, around here, and competition is pretty strong. A friend, who recently buried his Mom told me, some had a price list, take it or leave it, but most would negotiate.

Choosing an urn, do pick something they would have liked, or something to suit your taste since you're the one that will be seeing it?

dmg1969 · 10-27-2009, 12:59 PM

I'm very sorry to hear of momwolf's passing. My condolences to you and your family.

Radar · 10-27-2009, 01:05 PM

Wow, that sucks man. I'm very sorry for your loss.

SteveDallas · 10-27-2009, 01:07 PM

So sorry to hear it, Wolf. You truly did everything possible to ease her final weeks.

classicman · 10-27-2009, 01:29 PM

Oh wolf... I am so sorry to hear of momwolfs passing. You stayed steadfastly by her side and helped her through so much lately. May she finally rest and be at peace.

monster · 10-27-2009, 02:02 PM

Sorry for your loss, wolf. I was wondering how you all were doing.

limey · 10-27-2009, 02:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolf

...Several people have been kind of taken aback when I tell them, "No, there won't be a memorial service or a funeral. siswolf and I are doing things on our own."

I don't go into it further, since most of momwolf's friends since unclewolf and twinuncle wolf (momwolf was a fraternal twin) really won't understand why a Native American Shaman will be doing a releasing ceremony ...

I found focussing on arranging my brother's funeral to reflect his personality (as far as we could) was very comforting, and meant that the service had meaning for everyone there.

Quote:

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

... Do you have a friend who is a woodworker or a ceramics maker? If you can wait a bit, they might be able to make an appropriate container to your liking. ....

This seems like a really lovely idea if it could be done.

10-27-2009, 11:34 AM	#19
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I'm so sorry for your loss, wolf. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

10-27-2009, 11:57 AM	#20
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	Just saw this thread. Condolences from the capnhowdy camp. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

10-27-2009, 12:05 PM	#21
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Thank you all so much. I've been making a lot of calls this morning, still avoiding the calls to the momwolf's survivng siblings. She was the youngest of 9. One was stillborn, another died in infancy, and a third died in the influenza epidemic. She also had a sister who died in her teens of lukemia. Several people have been kind of taken aback when I tell them, "No, there won't be a memorial service or a funeral. siswolf and I are doing things on our own." I don't go into it further, since most of momwolf's friends since unclewolf and twinuncle wolf (momwolf was a fraternal twin) really won't understand why a Native American Shaman will be doing a releasing ceremony (So, in answer to the question, no Jazz, but there will probably be drumming and chanting). One thing I learned this morning is that funeral directors will come to you, rather than making you come to them, which is good because the weather is appropriately miserable today. He was very kind on the phone, but has already attempted to up-sell us. He should be here in half an hour or so. We do need to figure out what sort of container we want her cremains in. I was looking at some of the options on the funeral home's website, and really am not sure. We don't want her in cardboard (too many possibilities to spill or lose her) and most of the actual urns are far too elaborate. I did get a weird laugh moment, because there was a pink cloisonné urn that was just WAY too Meet the Parents. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

10-27-2009, 12:26 PM	#23
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	I'm sorry to hear about momwolf. Peace to you and siswolf, it seems like y'all can work together on this which makes the process easier. Do you have a friend who is a woodworker or a ceramics maker? If you can wait a bit, they might be able to make an appropriate container to your liking. I know my dad (woodworker) make the urn we used for my mom's biological dad and was a nice piece. Also affordable considering he had no money left and we weren't in the best position to pay for it all. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

10-27-2009, 12:37 PM	#24
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Funeral parlors are thicker than ticks on a hound, around here, and competition is pretty strong. A friend, who recently buried his Mom told me, some had a price list, take it or leave it, but most would negotiate. Choosing an urn, do pick something they would have liked, or something to suit your taste since you're the one that will be seeing it? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-27-2009, 11:00 AM	#16
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	:hugs and prayers: to you and yours, wolf. Bless you all. Take comfort in each other. peace.

10-27-2009, 11:12 AM	#17
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	Very sorry to hear of your loss. Losing your mother is very hard. May you carry her in your heart, always.

10-27-2009, 11:16 AM	#18
bbro Insert witty comment here Join Date: May 2004 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,182	I am very sorry to hear about your loss wolf. My thoughts are with you and your family.

10-27-2009, 12:10 PM	#22
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	The funeral director didn't come to me. I had to drive clear across town. I am so sorry, Wolf. I'm sure you're having all those mixed relief/grief/guilt feelings; been there done that. But you're much braver than I am. You did your absolute best for your mom, I'm sure she knew that, and I hope that brings you comfort.

10-27-2009, 12:59 PM	#25
dmg1969 I got nothing Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Central PA Posts: 486	I'm very sorry to hear of momwolf's passing. My condolences to you and your family. __________________ Void where prohibited. Your results may vary. Not intended for resale. Do not remove tag. Objects in mirror are closer than they appear.

10-27-2009, 01:05 PM	#26
Radar Constitutional Scholar Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Ocala, FL Posts: 4,006	Wow, that sucks man. I'm very sorry for your loss. __________________ "I'm completely in favor of the separation of Church and State. My idea is that these two institutions screw us up enough on their own, so both of them together is certain death." - George Carlin

10-27-2009, 01:07 PM	#27
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	So sorry to hear it, Wolf. You truly did everything possible to ease her final weeks.

10-27-2009, 01:29 PM	#28
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Oh wolf... I am so sorry to hear of momwolfs passing. You stayed steadfastly by her side and helped her through so much lately. May she finally rest and be at peace. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-27-2009, 02:02 PM	#29
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Sorry for your loss, wolf. I was wondering how you all were doing. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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