What's upsetting you today? - Page 351

DanaC · 03-24-2010, 11:40 AM

Aww crap. Bad luck Moar

limey · 03-25-2010, 03:08 AM

Fuck cancer. Friends of mine lose their loved ones to it too often. That is all.

Griff · 03-25-2010, 05:23 AM

fuck cancer

morethanpretty · 03-25-2010, 06:42 PM

cancer...fuck it.

monster · 03-25-2010, 06:54 PM

stupid fucky fucking cancer.

classicman · 03-25-2010, 10:19 PM

A good friend lost his mother yesterday to cancer. 61 years old. Way too young to go and needlessly suffered for too long. The toll on the family was and still is a terrible burden. I am so sorry for their loss.

classicman · 03-25-2010, 10:19 PM

oh and FUCK CANCER!

Pete Zicato · 03-26-2010, 09:12 AM

And the bad news just keeps on coming. My uncle Frank - my mother's brother passed away on Wednesday.

jester · 03-26-2010, 09:38 AM

Wow – I haven’t been here in a while. So this sucks monkey balls, the company I’ve been with for 20yrs is closing. We’re a union mechanical contractor and most of our work was government funded contracts. Unfortunately, here in the south the govt. hasn’t had a lot of work going on this past year, well not what we do. Plus, it’s been an uphill battle for the past couple of years, because of a few bad decisions. Anyway, I’m talking with a welding inspection contractor who needs someone to work in their office and we’ve done work with them before so they know me and know the work I’ve done here. Hopefully, I’ll be able to make a smooth switch.

Pie · 03-26-2010, 11:40 AM

Man, Pete.

It sucks to have so many terrible things pile up like that. I'm wishing you strength.

Sundae · 03-28-2010, 09:46 AM

Compared to other people's sorrows, this is a whine.
I'm posting it to get it off my chest, and in the hope of some wise words.

Mum has a group of friends that meet up every month or so. Nothing official - some are still in the Police and therefore the meetings have to fit in with their shifts. But when they can, they host meals for eachother.

Mum decided it was her turn, despite misgivings - she is ashmaed of this house and what she has compared to people in a similar income bracket. I don't know if I hear this more because I live with her, or whether she just feels it more as she gets older and more bitter.

Anyway.

After various conversations about what other people have done and what Mum herself likes, we settled on a tapas evening. Yes - we. I was going to be involved up to the minute the guests arrived. I was completely happy with this - they are a group of friends of about five years standing, I had no intention of muscling in!

I had a couple of dishes already sorted - patatas bravas, meatballs, anchovies, dipping sauce and bread, rice, Spanish omelette. I talked Mum out of making a chicken casserole as a dish, because it doesn't work in a tapas menu, but agreed chicken wings would be appropriate. Once numbers were confirmed I was potentially going to look up a white fish recipe (something Mum loves when we eat tapas in a restaurant) and/ or a sardine dish.

I'd even been online looking at Spanish tablecloths - second hand eBay of course! - and various things to theme the evening without going overboard. I was even going to dye some eggs (I'm doing some for Easter, so they're on my mind) and use them as mini containers for egg-salad topped with roe.

So today I asked Mum if we were going to Thame (a local town) on Tuesday. It's their market day, but we were going to check out the up-market delis and supermarket. It was cancelled before I went away because Grandad was ill.

"I'm not doing that" said Mum. What? Now going to Thame? "I'm just doing fajitas"

And that was that.
I'm hurt, offended and disappointed.
When was she going to tell me? Did she not realise I was looking forward to this as a mother & daughter thing and would be taking on 90% of the work? And if she's just going for an easy option (which someone has already done anyway) why doesn't she just order in Chinese?

When I am less upset I will say - please do tapas. I will take on all of it, just give me a budget. I will really enjoy it - I so much miss being able to cater and theme.
I doubt it will come to anything - when Mum closes a door she double locks it, bolts it and checks the windows too.

I am trying not to sulk. The childish part of me thinks, "Sod you, not only will I not help with your fajitas, I'll not help with any dinner you make in the near future - I will cook and wash up after myself and you'll regret cutting me out of your planning in future. I will make you suffer for hurting me."

I know that is wrong and stupid.
I am fighting that reaction.
Help me put this in perspective.

limey · 03-28-2010, 09:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

...
I know that is wrong and stupid.
I am fighting that reaction.
Help me put this in perspective.

Not sure I can help SG. Does your Mum know how much she's hurt you? Did she think she was saving you some bother? Did she simply not realise how much you were looking forward to doing it? Is she afraid she'll appear to her friends to be over-compensating for the house with a fancy spread?
Perhaps you can go for a brisk walk on your own-io to calm down, and then try what you've said - offer to do to all within her budget?
Hugs, dearie!

Pico and ME · 03-28-2010, 02:53 PM

Pull back, SG. Sounds like you took the reins from you Mum and she thought twice about it and wanted them back. For perspective, detach from what you need/want from this.

Cloud · 03-28-2010, 03:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jinx

The cracks in our floor go all the way thru, so it's in the basement somewhere, probably behind the oil tank. I ordered a new one from amazon and have a big stupid looking silver hoop in until it arrives.

from Amazon? oh, Jinx, why didn't you ask me? nose bones are evil, anyway, and what is the material?

jinx · 03-28-2010, 05:21 PM

Ask you what? No they aren't. Gold.

03-25-2010, 03:08 AM	#5252
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Fuck cancer. Friends of mine lose their loved ones to it too often. That is all. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

03-25-2010, 05:23 AM	#5253
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	fuck cancer __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-25-2010, 06:42 PM	#5254
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	cancer...fuck it. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

03-25-2010, 06:54 PM	#5255
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	stupid fucky fucking cancer. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

03-25-2010, 10:19 PM	#5256
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	A good friend lost his mother yesterday to cancer. 61 years old. Way too young to go and needlessly suffered for too long. The toll on the family was and still is a terrible burden. I am so sorry for their loss. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

03-25-2010, 10:19 PM	#5257
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	oh and FUCK CANCER! __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

03-26-2010, 09:12 AM	#5258
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	And the bad news just keeps on coming. My uncle Frank - my mother's brother passed away on Wednesday. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

03-26-2010, 09:38 AM	#5259
jester why so serious Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,712	Wow – I haven’t been here in a while. So this sucks monkey balls, the company I’ve been with for 20yrs is closing. We’re a union mechanical contractor and most of our work was government funded contracts. Unfortunately, here in the south the govt. hasn’t had a lot of work going on this past year, well not what we do. Plus, it’s been an uphill battle for the past couple of years, because of a few bad decisions. Anyway, I’m talking with a welding inspection contractor who needs someone to work in their office and we’ve done work with them before so they know me and know the work I’ve done here. Hopefully, I’ll be able to make a smooth switch.

03-26-2010, 11:40 AM	#5260
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	Man, Pete. It sucks to have so many terrible things pile up like that. I'm wishing you strength. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

03-28-2010, 09:46 AM	#5261
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Compared to other people's sorrows, this is a whine. I'm posting it to get it off my chest, and in the hope of some wise words. Mum has a group of friends that meet up every month or so. Nothing official - some are still in the Police and therefore the meetings have to fit in with their shifts. But when they can, they host meals for eachother. Mum decided it was her turn, despite misgivings - she is ashmaed of this house and what she has compared to people in a similar income bracket. I don't know if I hear this more because I live with her, or whether she just feels it more as she gets older and more bitter. Anyway. After various conversations about what other people have done and what Mum herself likes, we settled on a tapas evening. Yes - we. I was going to be involved up to the minute the guests arrived. I was completely happy with this - they are a group of friends of about five years standing, I had no intention of muscling in! I had a couple of dishes already sorted - patatas bravas, meatballs, anchovies, dipping sauce and bread, rice, Spanish omelette. I talked Mum out of making a chicken casserole as a dish, because it doesn't work in a tapas menu, but agreed chicken wings would be appropriate. Once numbers were confirmed I was potentially going to look up a white fish recipe (something Mum loves when we eat tapas in a restaurant) and/ or a sardine dish. I'd even been online looking at Spanish tablecloths - second hand eBay of course! - and various things to theme the evening without going overboard. I was even going to dye some eggs (I'm doing some for Easter, so they're on my mind) and use them as mini containers for egg-salad topped with roe. So today I asked Mum if we were going to Thame (a local town) on Tuesday. It's their market day, but we were going to check out the up-market delis and supermarket. It was cancelled before I went away because Grandad was ill. "I'm not doing that" said Mum. What? Now going to Thame? "I'm just doing fajitas" And that was that. I'm hurt, offended and disappointed. When was she going to tell me? Did she not realise I was looking forward to this as a mother & daughter thing and would be taking on 90% of the work? And if she's just going for an easy option (which someone has already done anyway) why doesn't she just order in Chinese? When I am less upset I will say - please do tapas. I will take on all of it, just give me a budget. I will really enjoy it - I so much miss being able to cater and theme. I doubt it will come to anything - when Mum closes a door she double locks it, bolts it and checks the windows too. I am trying not to sulk. The childish part of me thinks, "Sod you, not only will I not help with your fajitas, I'll not help with any dinner you make in the near future - I will cook and wash up after myself and you'll regret cutting me out of your planning in future. I will make you suffer for hurting me." I know that is wrong and stupid. I am fighting that reaction. Help me put this in perspective. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

03-28-2010, 02:53 PM	#5263
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Pull back, SG. Sounds like you took the reins from you Mum and she thought twice about it and wanted them back. For perspective, detach from what you need/want from this.

03-28-2010, 05:21 PM	#5265
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Ask you what? No they aren't. Gold. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

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