Mutual Enjoyment Sex Question.... - Page 4

Nightsong · 03-08-2003, 07:30 AM

Apperantly this guy takes top dog at being a SCHMUCK. There always the pros and cons to asking complete strangers especially when it deals with intimacy !!! People have to be a little more open to opinions. As we all know the saying opinions are like assholes everyone has one...lol. I usually tell people the only time I am serious is if I say seriously other than that I am talking out my ass.

Now since this guy has no sense of humor let alone no sense period. I would not even bother anymore to even wasting my time writing to ease his pathetic hide in this topic.

To everyone else hey he should be happy we at least tried to help good or bad!

wolf · 03-08-2003, 01:25 PM

Whatever.

(just to let you know, I am actually as curious as hell to know what he actually wants, too ... not so much from the potential to sit back and nod and note how weird he might be for wanting such a thing, but rather on the off chance that it might be a sufficiently interesting variation that it's worth bringing up myself ... hell, I'll try anything once, after all, twice just to make sure I formed the correct opinion on the first iteration.)

Whit · 03-08-2003, 03:10 PM

     The part I didn't get was how he could think we could give any specific advice without any specific info. I mean obviously a person would go about seeking oral gratification differently than a little bu-fu (strap-on or standard). It's like asking "How does one cook?" So the nicer people answered, "With proper communication" (even included ways to make that easier) which using the cooking analogy is like saying, "With proper use of heat." (Baked goods usually are good) I just couldn't figure out why he thought such a broad question could be answered particularly well.

MaggieL · 03-08-2003, 03:20 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Whit
I just couldn't figure out why he thought such a broad question could be answered particularly well.

Pretty much "I can't even admit to you relatively anonymous folks what kink I'm into much less my *GF*. How can I sound her out on this without admitting I'm into it myself...unless she says 'yes'?" :-)

Undertoad · 03-08-2003, 03:57 PM

There ya go; absolute anonymity is available, pretty much, at this point. If the dude wants to ask in more depth, he can; if he wanted to stick around without the baggage of his question, he could start a new account. But to "not REALLY ask" an anonymous bunch is silly.

Griff · 03-08-2003, 07:36 PM

I just want to nominate David for a Cellars greatest hits here. That was falling out of the chair, down the stairs, out the door, in the car, driving off a cliff funny. Beauty.

Whit · 03-08-2003, 10:37 PM

     Ya know, with VSP's comment in the Dreams thread I'm just happy nobody suggested a Dirty Sanchez or a Donkey Punch...

CodeBlue40 · 03-09-2003, 06:22 PM

I think this whole thing could have been avoided if he just said what it was in the first place. It sounded like he just wanted to find out if she would be up for a particular activity. It's hard to advise someone on something if they won't tell you what they want advice on.

Dave, on the other hand. Funny, funny shit. I've got tears I'm laughing so hard. I'm not saying it was right, but it does keep the whole thing from being serious.

Beestie · 03-10-2003, 11:27 AM

In no particular order....

Get her drunk then bring it up. If it goes well, fine, if not, blame the alcohol and plead no contest.

Find a forum where the *mystery* act is discussed and ask them how they talked their SO into it.

Rent a movie featuring this act (not a porn flick but an otherwise ok flik that has a scene of it). Say something interesting about it when it happens to lower her guard about it then check her reaction. May take some homework to find a movie with someone's Mom and a horse (

)but I guarantee there's one out there somewhere.

One other suggestion is to just ask her how she feels about it. If you can't be open about what you really want, that's not entirely good. Sounds like you are afraid she will judge you for it - is that who you want to place your trust in? I'm not asking but you might want to.

Lastly, you need to decide how important *it* is. If you can't be happy with someone who doesn't enjoy *the act* then you might as well come out with it - if she likes it, you are in business if not, time to cut your losses.

Whit · 03-10-2003, 11:48 AM

     Um... Beestie? These were all good suggestions, all things considered, but do you really think he's still around? I think this thread went from being talking to him to about him a couple of days ago...

russotto · 03-10-2003, 03:31 PM

Since it seems everyone else has chimed in on this thread (which should have stopped after Post 2, perhaps with a badum-bum, being a perfect burlesque routine), I have two things to say

To the original poster: Rohyponal means never having to say "I'm sorry".

To everyone else: "Your Mom!".

hot_pastrami · 03-11-2003, 12:54 PM

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Whit: Um... Beestie? These were all good suggestions, all things considered, but do you really think he's still around? I think this thread went from being talking to him to about him a couple of days ago...

Well, just because the original chap has removed himself from the discussion (and from the forum entirely, no doubt) doesn't mean it isn't worth discussing. It's the type of question that lingers on many peoples' minds, myself included. Though mine are the other direction... I'm trying to figure out how to get her to talk about what she wants.

This thread has some good suggestions, particularly BrianR's should-be-obvious-but-isn't-always suggestion of planting a thought seed in a non-threatening situation, and letting it germinate on it's own. Sometimes I guess I have the tendency to be too direct, which I know isn't always ideal. Fortunately I'm in a relationship where directness is allowed without judging, which I must say is awesome.

And, it was pretty funny watching Dave pound the poor bastard's balls flat with a wooden hammer. That jmf guy's going to look like he's got a windchime between his legs for a damn month.

03-11-2003, 12:58 PM

I think directness is usually the best way. That's how I've always been, and it's actually served me very well.

However, there is a certain way to be direct. Perhaps, when discussing anal sex, for example, the best phrasing is not

"I wanna fuck you in the poop tube and cum in your butt."

and you may find something like

"I've been doing some reading about, er, 'alternative' intercourse, and, I have to admit, it's kind of interesting. What do you think about it?"

more conducive to... well, cumming in her butt.

That Guy · 03-12-2003, 08:16 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by dave
However, there is a certain way to be direct.

I think it's called "tact."

Whit · 03-12-2003, 12:02 PM

     Tact? We're being advised to use tact by the guy that brought us "You wanna fuck her in the ass, right?" I love it! Actually it does make sense, in one case it was a guy being somewhat annoying, in the other he's looking to get a personal happy. Big difference. Also a good example of when tact is appropriate and when there's no point.

03-08-2003, 01:25 PM	#47
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Whatever. (just to let you know, I am actually as curious as hell to know what he actually wants, too ... not so much from the potential to sit back and nod and note how weird he might be for wanting such a thing, but rather on the off chance that it might be a sufficiently interesting variation that it's worth bringing up myself ... hell, I'll try anything once, after all, twice just to make sure I formed the correct opinion on the first iteration.) __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

03-08-2003, 03:10 PM	#48
Whit Umm ... yeah. Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 949	The part I didn't get was how he could think we could give any specific advice without any specific info. I mean obviously a person would go about seeking oral gratification differently than a little bu-fu (strap-on or standard). It's like asking "How does one cook?" So the nicer people answered, "With proper communication" (even included ways to make that easier) which using the cooking analogy is like saying, "With proper use of heat." (Baked goods usually are good) I just couldn't figure out why he thought such a broad question could be answered particularly well. __________________ A friend will help you move. A true friend will help you move a body.

03-08-2003, 07:36 PM	#51
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	I just want to nominate David for a Cellars greatest hits here. That was falling out of the chair, down the stairs, out the door, in the car, driving off a cliff funny. Beauty. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-08-2003, 10:37 PM	#52
Whit Umm ... yeah. Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 949	Ya know, with VSP's comment in the Dreams thread I'm just happy nobody suggested a Dirty Sanchez or a Donkey Punch... __________________ A friend will help you move. A true friend will help you move a body.

03-09-2003, 06:22 PM	#53
CodeBlue40 Disorderly Disciplinarian Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Jacksonville, FL Posts: 21	I think this whole thing could have been avoided if he just said what it was in the first place. It sounded like he just wanted to find out if she would be up for a particular activity. It's hard to advise someone on something if they won't tell you what they want advice on. Dave, on the other hand. Funny, funny shit. I've got tears I'm laughing so hard. I'm not saying it was right, but it does keep the whole thing from being serious. __________________ I'm in a world full of naked women and daisies! Nothing can harm me now!

03-08-2003, 07:30 AM	#46
Nightsong Wang Dude Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: South Carolina Posts: 177	Apperantly this guy takes top dog at being a SCHMUCK. There always the pros and cons to asking complete strangers especially when it deals with intimacy !!! People have to be a little more open to opinions. As we all know the saying opinions are like assholes everyone has one...lol. I usually tell people the only time I am serious is if I say seriously other than that I am talking out my ass. Now since this guy has no sense of humor let alone no sense period. I would not even bother anymore to even wasting my time writing to ease his pathetic hide in this topic. To everyone else hey he should be happy we at least tried to help good or bad!

03-08-2003, 03:57 PM	#50
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	There ya go; absolute anonymity is available, pretty much, at this point. If the dude wants to ask in more depth, he can; if he wanted to stick around without the baggage of his question, he could start a new account. But to "not REALLY ask" an anonymous bunch is silly.

03-10-2003, 11:27 AM	#54
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	Some suggestions... In no particular order.... Get her drunk then bring it up. If it goes well, fine, if not, blame the alcohol and plead no contest. Find a forum where the mystery act is discussed and ask them how they talked their SO into it. Rent a movie featuring this act (not a porn flick but an otherwise ok flik that has a scene of it). Say something interesting about it when it happens to lower her guard about it then check her reaction. May take some homework to find a movie with someone's Mom and a horse ( )but I guarantee there's one out there somewhere. One other suggestion is to just ask her how she feels about it. If you can't be open about what you really want, that's not entirely good. Sounds like you are afraid she will judge you for it - is that who you want to place your trust in? I'm not asking but you might want to. Lastly, you need to decide how important it is. If you can't be happy with someone who doesn't enjoy the act then you might as well come out with it - if she likes it, you are in business if not, time to cut your losses. __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

03-10-2003, 11:48 AM	#55
Whit Umm ... yeah. Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 949	Um... Beestie? These were all good suggestions, all things considered, but do you really think he's still around? I think this thread went from being talking to him to about him a couple of days ago... __________________ A friend will help you move. A true friend will help you move a body.

03-10-2003, 03:31 PM	#56
russotto Professor Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 1,788	Bad advice always free Since it seems everyone else has chimed in on this thread (which should have stopped after Post 2, perhaps with a badum-bum, being a perfect burlesque routine), I have two things to say To the original poster: Rohyponal means never having to say "I'm sorry". To everyone else: "Your Mom!".

03-11-2003, 12:58 PM	#58
dave Guest Posts: n/a	I think directness is usually the best way. That's how I've always been, and it's actually served me very well. However, there is a certain way to be direct. Perhaps, when discussing anal sex, for example, the best phrasing is not "I wanna fuck you in the poop tube and cum in your butt." and you may find something like "I've been doing some reading about, er, 'alternative' intercourse, and, I have to admit, it's kind of interesting. What do you think about it?" more conducive to... well, cumming in her butt.

03-12-2003, 12:02 PM	#60
Whit Umm ... yeah. Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 949	Tact? We're being advised to use tact by the guy that brought us "You wanna fuck her in the ass, right?" I love it! Actually it does make sense, in one case it was a guy being somewhat annoying, in the other he's looking to get a personal happy. Big difference. Also a good example of when tact is appropriate and when there's no point. __________________ A friend will help you move. A true friend will help you move a body.

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