Holy Smoke Wife Perma-banned her mom today!

footfootfoot · 11-30-2008, 08:53 PM

Yikes. Today my wife perma-banned her mom and told her to get out of our house, cutting her visit short by 2 days.

The final straw, as it were. Details possibly to follow. Long and complicated intro which would require some one with Clodfobble's summarization skills to make readable.

Aliantha · 11-30-2008, 08:54 PM

Wow...for a mum to get banned, she must have been pretty annoying.

I hope it's all for the best.

glatt · 11-30-2008, 08:54 PM

Wow. Just wow. You can do that?

Bullitt · 11-30-2008, 09:04 PM

rough man, gotta love family.

TheMercenary · 11-30-2008, 09:11 PM

I am at a loss for words. How do you do that? Perma-ban a mother. Must have been a fairly severe infraction of the rules. Did she find those pictures?

Loukianos · 11-30-2008, 09:40 PM

O.o wow...

monster · 11-30-2008, 09:46 PM

heh, my mom doesn't know about her third grandchild.......

Good on your missus, I say. It's a tough call to make but sometimes it's necessary.

zippyt · 11-30-2008, 09:49 PM

My big sis is Perma Banned from our life ,
Cold Hard thing to do But nessary for Sanity

TheMercenary · 11-30-2008, 09:55 PM

I guess there are lots of reasons for these, ummm bannings, but families are people too. I just can't imagine banning a sibling or parent from either family. There are some that I get along with better than others but, eh, they are still family.

footfootfoot · 11-30-2008, 11:30 PM

We're still both pretty freaked but relieved. It was a culmination of a long long history of progressively worse craziness, imagined events, boundary issues, passive aggressive behavior, inappropriate actions, and general untreated PTSD and other things.

A mutual friend suspects early onset dementia, which may be possible, maybe she's just headed for a nervous breakdown.

Things are not good at the moment, she launched her attack 30 minutes before the inch's birthday party was to start and that sealed the deal for my wife.

Surprise doesn't come close to what I felt. After 38 years of her defending her mother's insanity as being appropriate to any one who questioned it, I guess she finally had enough.

xoxoxoBruce · 11-30-2008, 11:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

There are some that I get along with better than others but, eh, they are still family.

So what? If they make you and/or yours miserable, pop 'em like a zit.

Aliantha · 12-01-2008, 12:27 AM

I didn't talk to my Dad for a couple of years at one stage, but I'm glad we're good now. Like foot3's situation, it was because of a culmination of events and actions and deeds that led to me just not picking up the phone anymore and since my dad doesn't usually do the phoning, we just didn't talk and i didn't bother going to see him.

I think the time apart was good. In a way it served its purpose because I discovered that I could in fact be perfectly happy without my Dad in my life, but in the end, I realised that he is very important to me, and sometimes you just have to let some things fly. That being said, some things also need to be taken note of. No one deserves to be treated badly. I think my Dad realised that he'd pushed the limits just a bit too much at the time, but it was a difficult time for all of us. I'm glad things are better now.

I hope your situation can have a positive outcome in the end too foot3. I'm sure your wife is carrying a certain amount of guilt over her decision. No doubt you'll support her no matter what the outcome.

Good luck to you all.

ZenGum · 12-01-2008, 12:28 AM

In general some degree of family connection is a good thing, but there are times when you have to make an exception. I have a step-mother who has qualified. But, wow, banning your mother, she must have really really pissed off Mrs Foot.

binky · 12-01-2008, 02:00 AM

I haven't spoken to my mother in over 12 years. A combination of things, allowing my stepfather to molest me for 3 years, siding with my abusive ex husband, and treating me like an atm finally got to be too much in my mid-thirties.

Trilby · 12-01-2008, 09:20 AM

Wow. I am semi-banning my own mother from my life. Good for Mrs. foot!

11-30-2008, 08:53 PM	#1
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Holy Smoke Wife Perma-banned her mom today! Yikes. Today my wife perma-banned her mom and told her to get out of our house, cutting her visit short by 2 days. The final straw, as it were. Details possibly to follow. Long and complicated intro which would require some one with Clodfobble's summarization skills to make readable. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

11-30-2008, 08:54 PM	#2
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Wow...for a mum to get banned, she must have been pretty annoying. I hope it's all for the best. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-30-2008, 09:04 PM	#4
Bullitt This is a fully functional babe lair Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Akron, OH Posts: 2,324	rough man, gotta love family. __________________ Kiss my white Irish ass. Last edited by Bullitt; 11-30-2008 at 09:14 PM.

11-30-2008, 09:11 PM	#5
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	I am at a loss for words. How do you do that? Perma-ban a mother. Must have been a fairly severe infraction of the rules. Did she find those pictures? __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012! Last edited by TheMercenary; 11-30-2008 at 09:53 PM.

11-30-2008, 09:40 PM	#6
Loukianos Provocateur Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Mainly on the East Coast Posts: 9	O.o wow... __________________ ὁ βίος ἐστὶν χαλεπός. οἴμοι!

11-30-2008, 08:54 PM	#3
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Wow. Just wow. You can do that?

11-30-2008, 09:46 PM	#7
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	heh, my mom doesn't know about her third grandchild....... Good on your missus, I say. It's a tough call to make but sometimes it's necessary. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

11-30-2008, 09:49 PM	#8
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	My big sis is Perma Banned from our life , Cold Hard thing to do But nessary for Sanity __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

11-30-2008, 09:55 PM	#9
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	I guess there are lots of reasons for these, ummm bannings, but families are people too. I just can't imagine banning a sibling or parent from either family. There are some that I get along with better than others but, eh, they are still family. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

11-30-2008, 11:30 PM	#10
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	We're still both pretty freaked but relieved. It was a culmination of a long long history of progressively worse craziness, imagined events, boundary issues, passive aggressive behavior, inappropriate actions, and general untreated PTSD and other things. A mutual friend suspects early onset dementia, which may be possible, maybe she's just headed for a nervous breakdown. Things are not good at the moment, she launched her attack 30 minutes before the inch's birthday party was to start and that sealed the deal for my wife. Surprise doesn't come close to what I felt. After 38 years of her defending her mother's insanity as being appropriate to any one who questioned it, I guess she finally had enough. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

12-01-2008, 12:27 AM	#12
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I didn't talk to my Dad for a couple of years at one stage, but I'm glad we're good now. Like foot3's situation, it was because of a culmination of events and actions and deeds that led to me just not picking up the phone anymore and since my dad doesn't usually do the phoning, we just didn't talk and i didn't bother going to see him. I think the time apart was good. In a way it served its purpose because I discovered that I could in fact be perfectly happy without my Dad in my life, but in the end, I realised that he is very important to me, and sometimes you just have to let some things fly. That being said, some things also need to be taken note of. No one deserves to be treated badly. I think my Dad realised that he'd pushed the limits just a bit too much at the time, but it was a difficult time for all of us. I'm glad things are better now. I hope your situation can have a positive outcome in the end too foot3. I'm sure your wife is carrying a certain amount of guilt over her decision. No doubt you'll support her no matter what the outcome. Good luck to you all. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-01-2008, 12:28 AM	#13
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	In general some degree of family connection is a good thing, but there are times when you have to make an exception. I have a step-mother who has qualified. But, wow, banning your mother, she must have really really pissed off Mrs Foot. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

12-01-2008, 02:00 AM	#14
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	I haven't spoken to my mother in over 12 years. A combination of things, allowing my stepfather to molest me for 3 years, siding with my abusive ex husband, and treating me like an atm finally got to be too much in my mid-thirties. __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

12-01-2008, 09:20 AM	#15
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Wow. I am semi-banning my own mother from my life. Good for Mrs. foot! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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