Mea Culpa - Page 3

Michaela · 11-15-2007, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by BigMcLargeHuge

Personally....I think BigV has abused at least one tenuous friendship he's developed here. As an objective observer, I opine that he is allowing blame to lie at the feet of someone who was responding to advances he initiated. He should be taking 100% of the responsibility for those deeds instead of encouraging or even permitting his wife to shift any of it outside.

I don't read him blaming the other "she". If you read his post in an unbiased way, he is taking all the blame himself. He says it...HE fucked up! And he's sorry. Damn.....hugs to B & T.

BigMcLargeHuge · 11-15-2007, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Michaela

I don't read him blaming the other "she". If you read his post in an inbiased way, he is taking all the blame himself. He says it...HE fucked up! And he's sorry. Damn.....hugs to B & T.

ORLY?

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I know how hurt you are by me, and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I interacted with. You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.

Cicero · 11-15-2007, 12:52 PM

Michaela-No I'm just noticeing that your post count is 47, and you joined this month, and maybe you don't have enough history with situation to make a sound judgement. Or be effected by it in any way. Let people have their opinion about what Big is saying because they are familiar with him and you, (just a guess) are not.

I don't care where you are from. I don't not suffer from Washington paranoia because I have no clue as to what that is or what you are talking about....

Welcome to the cellar, we haven't formally met yet, and leave people to their own battles.

Unless you are Tink and have a pseudonym. Which is my impression..............not sure.

lookout123 · 11-15-2007, 12:57 PM

oh damn. and so begins the death spiral into oblivion.

Michaela · 11-15-2007, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by BigMcLargeHuge

ORLY?

Yes REALLY!
"I know how hurt you are by me, (he's talking about his wife right?) and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I (meaning BigV) interacted with. (meaning the girl)

You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.
Tink stated that both parties sent pics of each other to each other as BigV obviously shared with her as they were trying to reconcile. So, that says to me, yes the "she" was actively involved. However, he is taking the blame. You all are harsh people. BigV was wrong, he admitted it. I don't see "she" standing up and apologizing for her part in this. You say he led her on....so you are in the know....well, "she" didn't have to play. And yes, she had a part whether you all want to believe it or not. Who sends private pics of themselves to another woman's husband in what obviously was of a sexual nature based on the post?

I'm just trying to stand up for those that I feel are being beat down in a way over the top way. and pardon me for living in Washington. Not my first choice, believe me.

BigMcLargeHuge · 11-15-2007, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by lookout123

oh damn. and so begins the death spiral into oblivion.

doin' the play by play, are ya? need a color commentator?

Michaela · 11-15-2007, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Cicero

Michaela-No I'm just noticeing that your post count is 47, and you joined this month, and maybe you don't have enough history with situation to make a sound judgement. Or be effected by it in any way. Let people have their opinion about what Big is saying because they are familiar with him and you, (just a guess) are not.

I don't care where you are from. I don't not suffer from Washington paranoia because I have no clue as to what that is or what you are talking about....

Welcome to the cellar, we haven't formally met yet, and leave people to their own battles.

Unless you are Tink and have a pseudonym. Which is my impression..............not sure.

I'm glad I'm not her. Wouldn't want that life. sorry to disappoint yet again. so what if my count is 47 after one month. Ask for a count of the others who post 10+ per day.

Michaela · 11-15-2007, 01:03 PM

[quote=Cicero;407401]Michaela-

Welcome to the cellar, we haven't formally met yet, and leave people to their own battles.

QUOTE]

You should follow your own advice.

BigMcLargeHuge · 11-15-2007, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Michaela

Yes REALLY!
"I know how hurt you are by me, (he's talking about his wife right?) and that you're also hurt by actions of the other people I (meaning BigV) interacted with. [b](meaning the girl)[/B
You are upset and angry with me and with them, and justifiably so.
Tink stated that both parties sent pics of each other to each other as BigV obviously shared with her as they were trying to reconcile. So, that says to me, yes the "she" was actively involved. However, he is taking the blame. You all are harsh people. BigV was wrong, he admitted it. I don't see "she" standing up and apologizing for her part in this.

'She' is undoubtedly mortified and unwilling to be focused upon in this way.

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Originally Posted by Michaela

You say he led her on....so you are in the know....well, "she" didn't have to play. And yes, she had a part whether you all want to believe it or not.

I didn't say he led anyone on....I said i thought that he initiated it.

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Originally Posted by Michaela

Who sends private pics of themselves to another woman's husband in what obviously was of a sexual nature based on the post?

someone who is, no doubt, responding to advances of a recently 'divorced' man. never seen this type of thing go down before?

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Originally Posted by Michaela

I'm just trying to stand up for those that I feel are being beat down in a way over the top way. and pardon me for living in Washington. Not my first choice, believe me.

I have no interest in beating bigv or tink down. I like bigv and i dont know tink at all. I DO, however have a bad taste in my mouth. He wept and slobbered all over the cellar, and in at least 6 different individual ears that I know about. speaking 'privately' to enough people becomes public at some point. Monster said it pretty well near how I feel.

But....truth be told....I'd rather not know anymore about their marital strife....good or bad.

jinx · 11-15-2007, 01:23 PM

BigV needed support and leaned heavily on a lot of people, male and female, on the board, in chat, in PMs, in phone calls...
To single one supportive person out and give them a bunch of shit because she is female and cute is just fucked up.

Quite a few of us know who "she" is - and she knows she didn't do anything wrong and doesn't owe anyone an apology. If Tink thinks that she is owed one (other than V's) then BigV has not conveyed the situation accurately.

DanaC · 11-15-2007, 01:29 PM

I think you're bein a little unfair to BigV. He was clearly going through a very bad time and sought comfort/advice/a friendly ear amongst the dwellars. Nothing wrong in that. If it wasn't considered slobbering then it shouldn't be considered so now. I do think there's a degree of unfairness the other way too. But then...T and B have both been through the mill lately and may be feeling a little fragile now...or slightly uncomfortable at how much of their lives ended up on the boards.

I know there were times I went through difficulties with my ex and have gone down to my mate's houses and blurted everything out, onl to find that when we had made up and got things back on track I kind of regretted letting so much out. Probably made me a little defensive when those people who'd been my support made comment or asked how things were going later.

Of course this is pure speculation. Just relating it to my own experiences. End of the day what matters is that someone we were worried about seems to have got through it and we now have a new Dwellar in our midst. If someone is wondering, "am I the she?" well...if you did nothing with ill intent then follow that thought with "fuck it".

Hope you do stick around Tink *smiles* and BigV too.

Cicero · 11-15-2007, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Michaela

I'm glad I'm not her. Wouldn't want that life. sorry to disappoint yet again. so what if my count is 47 after one month. Ask for a count of the others who post 10+ per day.

Hey it's over 50 and and less than a month. You are still clueless. You are right. So what?

I'm done. I just wanted to talk to either BigV or Tink about this. I don't give a rat's ass what you have to say about that. Done.

Shawnee123 · 11-15-2007, 01:32 PM

This whole exchange just made 100% more sense to me.

DanaC · 11-15-2007, 01:33 PM

Whyso Shawnee?

Shawnee123 · 11-15-2007, 01:41 PM

Shawnee has learned from the past. Shawnee will say no more. Shawnee will stop talking in 3rd person.

I just need to shut up. 'Nuff said.

11-15-2007, 12:52 PM	#33
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Michaela-No I'm just noticeing that your post count is 47, and you joined this month, and maybe you don't have enough history with situation to make a sound judgement. Or be effected by it in any way. Let people have their opinion about what Big is saying because they are familiar with him and you, (just a guess) are not. I don't care where you are from. I don't not suffer from Washington paranoia because I have no clue as to what that is or what you are talking about.... Welcome to the cellar, we haven't formally met yet, and leave people to their own battles. Unless you are Tink and have a pseudonym. Which is my impression..............not sure. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

11-15-2007, 12:57 PM	#34
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	oh damn. and so begins the death spiral into oblivion. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-15-2007, 01:03 PM	#38
Michaela Lively Girl Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Montlake Terrace, WA Posts: 67	[quote=Cicero;407401]Michaela- Welcome to the cellar, we haven't formally met yet, and leave people to their own battles. QUOTE] You should follow your own advice. __________________ Heater out, Toilet leaks

11-15-2007, 01:23 PM	#40
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	BigV needed support and leaned heavily on a lot of people, male and female, on the board, in chat, in PMs, in phone calls... To single one supportive person out and give them a bunch of shit because she is female and cute is just fucked up. Quite a few of us know who "she" is - and she knows she didn't do anything wrong and doesn't owe anyone an apology. If Tink thinks that she is owed one (other than V's) then BigV has not conveyed the situation accurately. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

11-15-2007, 01:29 PM	#41
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	I think you're bein a little unfair to BigV. He was clearly going through a very bad time and sought comfort/advice/a friendly ear amongst the dwellars. Nothing wrong in that. If it wasn't considered slobbering then it shouldn't be considered so now. I do think there's a degree of unfairness the other way too. But then...T and B have both been through the mill lately and may be feeling a little fragile now...or slightly uncomfortable at how much of their lives ended up on the boards. I know there were times I went through difficulties with my ex and have gone down to my mate's houses and blurted everything out, onl to find that when we had made up and got things back on track I kind of regretted letting so much out. Probably made me a little defensive when those people who'd been my support made comment or asked how things were going later. Of course this is pure speculation. Just relating it to my own experiences. End of the day what matters is that someone we were worried about seems to have got through it and we now have a new Dwellar in our midst. If someone is wondering, "am I the she?" well...if you did nothing with ill intent then follow that thought with "fuck it". Hope you do stick around Tink smiles and BigV too.

11-15-2007, 01:32 PM	#43
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	This whole exchange just made 100% more sense to me.

11-15-2007, 01:33 PM	#44
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Whyso Shawnee?

11-15-2007, 01:41 PM	#45
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Shawnee has learned from the past. Shawnee will say no more. Shawnee will stop talking in 3rd person. I just need to shut up. 'Nuff said.

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