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Old 09-05-2013, 08:22 PM   #1
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30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself

1) Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2) Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3) Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.

4) Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5) Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6) Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7) Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8) Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9) Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10) Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11) Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12) Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13) Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14)Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15) Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16) Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17) Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curve balls are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18) Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19 ) Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20) Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21) Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22) Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23) Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.

24) Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25) Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26)Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27) Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28) Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29) Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30) Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
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Old 09-05-2013, 08:40 PM   #2
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Old 09-06-2013, 03:52 AM   #3
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I disagree with some of these.
But I'm not going to pick them apart because that would be petty, and there probably is wisdom there.

I have allowed myself to take issue with one though.
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Life’s curve balls are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.
No.
There is no "reason".
What I might think of as a shitty circumstance that made me stronger is only hindsight. Like my housemate kicking me out so I had to move back here. It's not been great, but it has changed me. Is that good?

And where do you draw the line? Curve balls are different according to where you live.
Did I lose both parents to AIDs because it is endemic in my country? Oh yes I did, it was a nudge along my personal path.
Was I systematically raped during a civil war? Yes. But only to make me stronger.
Did the crops fail, my children die, my home burn?
Was my shanty town drowned in mud or bulldozed, my home lost in a hurricane?
Well, yes! Must have been aimed only at me, to help make me into the person I am.

Not aimed at you, Nirv. I know you didn't write it.
And you know I am an atheist.
I also don't believe in fate, luck, things-that-were-meant-to-be, UFOs, astral projections, mental telepathy, ESP, clairvoyance, spirit photography, telekinetic movement, full trance mediums, the Loch Ness monster and the theory of Atlantis.

So I'm not the target readership.
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Old 09-06-2013, 09:53 AM   #4
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Old 09-06-2013, 11:35 AM   #5
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23) Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done
The list is defeatist. Be perfect, but remember you're not perfect so don't try to act perfect just be yourself but strive to be better and if you're not better don't try to explain it away to your loved ones because you are who you are and not who you aren't and your needs come first but don't ever be idle even if what you need is idle because you are then not being true to yourself...

I guess what I'm saying is I had an anxiety attack just reading all the things I shouldn't be doing to myself.

And this one:

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25) Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
Well hell, I've been trying this for years. All I get from that is disdain and contempt and a Label O' Loon.

Nothing snarky towards anyone...many of these are things I do try to remember. I'm just no damn good at most of them.

And remember: DO try the latest bold lipcolors: you'll stand out in a crowd and make him go WOW! (Glamour, 1989)
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Old 09-06-2013, 11:41 AM   #6
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*chuckle*

yeah, there are some good thoughts in that list, but I noticed contradictions as well.

Thing like "don't be stressed out" and then "if everything is too comfortable, you are stuck in a rut and need to make a courageous change."
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Old 09-06-2013, 12:17 PM   #7
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I notice 'Stop touching yourself' wasn't on the list...

...thank God.
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Old 09-06-2013, 12:50 PM   #8
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Old 09-06-2013, 04:53 PM   #9
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I don't know how many of these I've broken just in the last 4 hours. Oh my head, my stinkin' head.

To compensate, I threw myself into #22. The weather has been beautiful and, though we really need rain, the river looks gorgeous. If Oscar the Blue Heron would do a fly-over it would be complete.
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Old 09-06-2013, 07:10 PM   #10
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I call my blue heron Frazier [Crane] but most likely its a she.
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Old 09-07-2013, 04:21 PM   #11
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Old 09-08-2013, 12:12 PM   #12
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Do join a recovery program
Thanks so much. So helpful.
Shall I stick with my alcohol recovery or shall I join one which makes me think the same way as you?
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Old 09-09-2013, 08:43 AM   #13
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Argh, sorry LGC.

Just realised that your post followed mine but did not quote it.
Which means there is almost 100% chance that it did not refer to me in any way shape or form.

And TBF I was a bit grumpy when I replied anyway.
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Old 09-09-2013, 09:02 AM   #14
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If you're gonna be Frank, you need to change your user name so us simpletons don't get confused.
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Old 09-09-2013, 09:06 AM   #15
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I can summarize the 30: Stop being human.

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