Is it over? - Page 5

piercehawkeye45 · 06-14-2007, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

Like I'm scared of some Gopher.

I'll bite your toe off.

nowhereman · 06-14-2007, 08:57 AM

Ok kids, go outside and play now...

Anon -
If you have stayed in this relationship, and intend to continue, please go and get yourself checked for anything that he may have "brought home". Your health, physically as well as mentally, is the most inportant thing now. At some point, you will come to a decision as to what is best for YOU. I hope that you will finally make peace with your situation, one way or the other.

skysidhe · 06-14-2007, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by anonymousfornow

I am in shock and looking for some magic.

I feel for ya there.

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Originally Posted by Brianna

Men like 'plenty' but they like 'plenty of DIFFERENT' even more.

What do you love about him? His duplicity? His sneaky-ness? His ability to pose for XXX pix to send to complete strangers?

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Originally Posted by AlternateGray

This was calculated. Don't forget it.

sneaky,caculated...and wanting to try on the playboy role.

I think they already gave pretty good reasons to split.It's a matter of self respect. You were not treated with dignity, respect or honesty so no loyalty should be comming to a scoundrel.

06-14-2007, 10:58 AM

Hi! I'm new to the cellar, I'm living a situation similar to yours (when you opened the post) and I will say something about it in the post of the ring, where the theme was this more or less.

Now, as I feel very close to you, and it's extraordinary how I could have written the things you wrote, I sincerely think you are not in love with this man. Forgive me if I'm brutal, you asked for this at the beginning, and everybody was very sincere in fact! but this is not love. you need him, you can't imagine living without him, his embrace and his smile and his breath and so on, but this is not love. Definitely. And you will see it when you take distance, even if now you're probably thinking I'm a bitch and I don't know anything, and this is true. This is just my opinion. If your nature is not to have an open relation and you force yourself into it, you will only be more frustrated because you won't like it. If you keep going with a man that lies, that simulates so good you had to discover by chance with no one single sign of something going wrong, then there is something big soooo wrong!

I myself, I'm not having the balls to do it, so here in Italy you would say I'm the bull saying horny to the donkey, but still I know it is the only possibility for my life and my dignity not to be destroyed, and I will do act.

freshnesschronic · 06-14-2007, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by nowhereman

Ok kids, go outside and play now...

We're not kids.... we're 19 year old adult males biooootch

xoxoxoBruce · 06-14-2007, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

We're not kids.... we're 19 year old adult males biooootch

Yeah, you tell 'em. The nerve of nowhereman calling you kids, just because you were acting like children.

Cloud · 06-14-2007, 12:12 PM

VERY rude behavior posting such nonsense in a thread made by someone obviously hurting and asking for help.

Like giving someone with colon cancer a whoopee cushion.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-14-2007, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by anonymousfornow

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I also believe that he loves me, and cannot imagine his life without me. We spend 6.5 days a week together. We maintain two homes in different counties and stay at one during the week and the other one on the weekend.

We even had conversation a month ago about our commitment to each other and building a life together so I could hear for myself that we were on the same page.

What hurts the most is I do not know why he does this. We have open lines of communication, a great sex life, etc.
~snip

Why should he even contemplate life without you? You've shown no to propensity to leave. You've even offered to compromise. He knows he's got you wrapped around his finger.

You say your sex life is great, meaning you're satisfied with it but it would appear he has different standards. I've had many people gush to me how good their life is, with their spouse in the background rolling their eyes.

Or what he's doing on the net he doesn't consider part of his sex life, but a game. Like any other online game, but winning by scoring pictures and proposals. Just a hobby without regard for the emotional toll on his supposedly significant other.

I think that you're probably weighing the possibility of just letting it slide. Weighing what you feel you have vs it's emotional toll.
Don't do it. While you might be able to rationalize the trade off now, there is no guarantee things won't change. It will always gnaw at you and more important, his needs will change.... probably not for the better.

I wish you well.

freshnesschronic · 06-14-2007, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

VERY rude behavior posting such nonsense in a thread made by someone obviously hurting and asking for help.

Like giving someone with colon cancer a whoopee cushion.

Cloud are you kidding me, it happens all the time in serious threads. Sorry though...

Cloud · 06-14-2007, 02:05 PM

We regular Cellar Dwellars may "get" it--but she's not. she just came here to get help with one problem, so yeah, I thought it was rude.

I mean--don't you?

freshnesschronic · 06-14-2007, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

We regular Cellar Dwellars may "get" it--but she's not. she just came here to get help with one problem, so yeah, I thought it was rude.

I mean--don't you?

I suppose, but same thing happened to me when I first started posting my relationships problems.

At the time, it didn't seem rude but over speculation that point can be made. Sorry for that, but it's behavior no different from anywhere else in the Cellar.

Shawnee123 · 06-14-2007, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

Like giving someone with colon cancer a whoopee cushion.

Good thing that wasn't a joke.

Cloud · 06-14-2007, 02:41 PM

wouldn't be very nice, would it?

anonymousfornow · 06-14-2007, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by bani

If your nature is not to have an open relation and you force yourself into it, you will only be more frustrated because you won't like it. If you keep going with a man that lies, that simulates so good you had to discover by chance with no one single sign of something going wrong, then there is something big soooo wrong!

I don't know if it is in my nature to have an open relationship as i have never tried. The idea doesnt excite me on the surface, but i did spend about 6 months with a couple in my early 20's and they taught me alot

anonymousfornow · 06-14-2007, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

Cloud are you kidding me, it happens all the time in serious threads. Sorry though...

I was a little disappointed because i was excited about the solace I would find, but it doesn't upset me. Thank you for looking out. I am hurt and looking for answers.

06-14-2007, 12:12 PM	#67
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	VERY rude behavior posting such nonsense in a thread made by someone obviously hurting and asking for help. Like giving someone with colon cancer a whoopee cushion. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

06-14-2007, 02:05 PM	#70
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	We regular Cellar Dwellars may "get" it--but she's not. she just came here to get help with one problem, so yeah, I thought it was rude. I mean--don't you? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

06-14-2007, 02:41 PM	#73
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	wouldn't be very nice, would it? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

06-14-2007, 08:57 AM	#62
nowhereman sliding down the razor blade of life Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: just over the edge Posts: 228	Ok kids, go outside and play now... Anon - If you have stayed in this relationship, and intend to continue, please go and get yourself checked for anything that he may have "brought home". Your health, physically as well as mentally, is the most inportant thing now. At some point, you will come to a decision as to what is best for YOU. I hope that you will finally make peace with your situation, one way or the other.

06-14-2007, 10:58 AM	#64
bani Guest Posts: n/a	Hi! I'm new to the cellar, I'm living a situation similar to yours (when you opened the post) and I will say something about it in the post of the ring, where the theme was this more or less. Now, as I feel very close to you, and it's extraordinary how I could have written the things you wrote, I sincerely think you are not in love with this man. Forgive me if I'm brutal, you asked for this at the beginning, and everybody was very sincere in fact! but this is not love. you need him, you can't imagine living without him, his embrace and his smile and his breath and so on, but this is not love. Definitely. And you will see it when you take distance, even if now you're probably thinking I'm a bitch and I don't know anything, and this is true. This is just my opinion. If your nature is not to have an open relation and you force yourself into it, you will only be more frustrated because you won't like it. If you keep going with a man that lies, that simulates so good you had to discover by chance with no one single sign of something going wrong, then there is something big soooo wrong! I myself, I'm not having the balls to do it, so here in Italy you would say I'm the bull saying horny to the donkey, but still I know it is the only possibility for my life and my dignity not to be destroyed, and I will do act.

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