Confession Time - Page 29

Aliantha · 10-20-2011, 08:16 AM

About the whole, what do people think of me thing?

I give up on really caring. Not in a bad, spit the dummy type of way. Just really, people will think what they think, and if being me is a problem for them, then I can't really do much about that, and if being me makes them like me, well, I can't really help that either.

What am I going to do if someone doesn't like me anyway? Change? For them?

Aliantha · 10-20-2011, 08:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

True. I do understand it's a struggle for some people.

But not for ME!

Me either g/f

DanaC · 10-20-2011, 08:24 AM

I dunno. I kind of want people to like me. But I also kind of don't give a fuck either...if that makes sense? That is to say...as long as most of the people I like also like me, I am happy.* But if people don't like me, I'm highly unlikely to change in order to court their liking.

I find I like most people here most of the time. That's...well, that's kind of why I'm here. If I didn't like most of you, most of the time, why would I choose to spend so much time here?

*the extent to which i believe this to be true is variable according to where on the scale of confidence I happen to be sitting on any one day :p

Aliantha · 10-20-2011, 08:28 AM

OH sure it's nice if people like you. Makes life easier in a way, but does it really matter. Does what you want to achieve really depend on your popularity? Probably not much for any of us unless we're in for a public vote or something.

I know my major goal is just to be a great parent, and the only people who have to even remotely like me for that is my family, and I know even they don't like me sometimes because of the decisions I make, but I console myself with knowing that'll pass.

infinite monkey · 10-20-2011, 08:30 AM

I have a deep-seated need to be liked, coupled with a knack for pushing people away before they get too close (this may be that I was told once, and again it's back to the worst things you think about yourself, that if anyone REALLY knew me they wouldn't like me. This was back in the day when I seemed to have a million friends and a million admirers. This comment brought to surface all I'd unknowingly been telling myself for years, coming from a person I loved more than breathing. Devastating.)

It's a painful place to be, and results in lashing out followed by contrite shame.

As Dana said, a lot of this depends on my level of self-confidence on any given day. Which varies like the weather.

DanaC · 10-20-2011, 08:32 AM

I think it was more of a concern to me when I didn't particularly like myself. I sometimes wish i could go back in time, and just drop this shit into my 20 year old head :p

Aliantha · 10-20-2011, 08:32 AM

Yeah, I used to wish I was one of the cool kids here, but now I know it doesn't matter. None of you bastards are cool anyway...cept for maybe lookout. He's pretty cool, but he doesn't even post anymore.

Trilby · 10-20-2011, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Yeah, I used to wish I was one of the cool kids here, but now I know it doesn't matter. None of you bastards are cool anyway...

there is something wrong with the logic here.

anyway.

I'm fukkin' cool.

HungLikeJesus · 10-20-2011, 09:21 AM

He's out occupying Wall Street.

Pete Zicato · 10-20-2011, 09:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

He's three of my favourite feet in the whole Cellar.

I dunno. I'm still disappointed to find out that he only has two feet.

Nirvana · 10-20-2011, 09:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

I dunno. I'm still disappointed to find out that he only has two feet.

2 feet is plenty for anyone

Oh and I'm way cool

jimhelm · 10-20-2011, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by monster

huh, no.

we should probably take this off board, but no, after what you did to me, I didn't figure you could even care what I said. Seemed like you were more interested in new skirt than old friendships

I apologize for what you (all...well, some...) are imagining I said about you. I really didn't say anything specific about anyone. I do care about the friendships I have here. I should not have, even jokingly, swayed a new person's opinions about other people privately. I should have done it publicly if I was going to do it at all. At least you'd be able to defend yourselves.

I trust that Brill won't actually use that list to form her opinions about the people here. She's clearly experienced enough with forums to know better.

Anyway,... it won't happen again.

infinite monkey · 10-20-2011, 11:47 AM

*hugs*

Lamplighter · 10-20-2011, 12:26 PM

Some forums have "Newbies - must read this " threads.
Maybe TheCellar needs one too.

First Rule: "There are no rules, except those that apply to jimhelm"

First Rule of Engagement: " Pick an unsuspecting opponent
Corollary 1: "Attack, then withdraw while fights flare
Corollary 2: "Attack, but select a different opponent
Corollary 3: "Plead innocence and shift blame elsewhere
Corollary 4: "Plead victim, or change the topic
Corollary 5: "Threaten to leave
Corollary 6: "Display conciliation, not contrition
Corollary 7: "Lurk, but return to renew attacks

There are absolutely NO Rules in The Cellar (except Rule #1)

Rule 2: Any Dwellar proposing Rules may be known as the "TheAAU" (TheAssAmongUs)

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footfootfoot · 10-20-2011, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Really? Do you at least think you know what they think, even if they haven't specifically said so?

Actually, no. I think it's from too many years of having people piss on my shoes then tell me it's raining. One begins to doubt one's ability to interpret things.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ZenGum

I TOLD YOU THIS PLACE WAS A SOAP OPERA.

You've just used up three seasons worth of plot in one bloody thread. The writers will freak. Gotta stretch the drama out, peeps.

esnicker

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

I didn't call you a liar. I think you're trying hard to be something that you're not. I am a great friend. The kind you don't always appreciate.

"I didn't call you a liar, you fucking liar." Would have been much funnier, but then, you didn't ask me, did you?

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Originally Posted by jimhelm

Whatever works for you, I guess. Insult me, call me names, then deny it. We'll jus agree to disagree then, shall we?

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Originally Posted by monster

No.

Damn, the make-up sex is gonna be fucking hot! I'd love to be a fly on the wall. A fly on the wall with an HD camera and a satellite uplink and Pay per view.

Quote:

Originally Posted by kerosene

I am looking for the thread where I tell 3 foot that I like him...you still there, footy?

Wow! Swoon.

Quote:

Originally Posted by HungLikeJesus

What's going on around here? Is Aunt Irma visiting everyone?

esnicker snicker

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Originally Posted by glatt

I'm always pleased when I see that foot has made a new post. They are always good. He posts about interesting things, whether it's shooting woodchucks from his dining room, or just making a joke about something in a thread. His interests closely mirror my own, so I'm always glad to hear about his latest compulsion, whether it's home improvement, bike tuning, photography, boat building, varmint hunting, or just a reminder of the difference between jealousy and envy. The guy is sharp and funny.

Well, the feeling is mutual, Glatt.

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

foot is the Ladies Man of the Cellar. All the women want him, all the men want to be him.

(Which is to say, foot is really funny and cool and if he doesn't know what people think he's just not paying attention.)

You're a peach. A peach with a deep-seated need to be liked, coupled with a knack for pushing people away before they get too close (this may be that I was told once, and again it's back to the worst things you think about yourself, that if anyone REALLY knew me they wouldn't like me. This was back in the day when I seemed to have a million friends and a million admirers. This comment brought to surface all I'd unknowingly been telling myself for years, coming from a person I loved more than breathing. Devastating.)

BUT< a peach none the less. And you're OUR peach.

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

He's three of my favourite feet in the whole Cellar.

More Swooning.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Yeah, I used to wish I was one of the cool kids here, but now I know it doesn't matter. None of you bastards are cool anyway...cept for maybe lookout. He's pretty cool, but he doesn't even post anymore.

Too Cool For School

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brianna

there is something wrong with the logic here.

The food is lousy and the portions are so small?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

I dunno. I'm still disappointed to find out that he only has two feet.

ashamed at my deception, how can the trust be re-built?

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

2 feet is plenty for anyone

Oh and I'm way cool

You could change your name to Jolly Rancher

Quote:

Originally Posted by jimhelm

Anyway,... it won't happen again.

More's the pity.

Wow, awesome ego boost, it was almost like a subliminal post whoring thread hijack.

Now, I should get back to procrastinating.

10-20-2011, 08:16 AM	#421
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	About the whole, what do people think of me thing? I give up on really caring. Not in a bad, spit the dummy type of way. Just really, people will think what they think, and if being me is a problem for them, then I can't really do much about that, and if being me makes them like me, well, I can't really help that either. What am I going to do if someone doesn't like me anyway? Change? For them? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-20-2011, 08:28 AM	#424
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	OH sure it's nice if people like you. Makes life easier in a way, but does it really matter. Does what you want to achieve really depend on your popularity? Probably not much for any of us unless we're in for a public vote or something. I know my major goal is just to be a great parent, and the only people who have to even remotely like me for that is my family, and I know even they don't like me sometimes because of the decisions I make, but I console myself with knowing that'll pass. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-20-2011, 08:30 AM	#425
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I have a deep-seated need to be liked, coupled with a knack for pushing people away before they get too close (this may be that I was told once, and again it's back to the worst things you think about yourself, that if anyone REALLY knew me they wouldn't like me. This was back in the day when I seemed to have a million friends and a million admirers. This comment brought to surface all I'd unknowingly been telling myself for years, coming from a person I loved more than breathing. Devastating.) It's a painful place to be, and results in lashing out followed by contrite shame. As Dana said, a lot of this depends on my level of self-confidence on any given day. Which varies like the weather. Last edited by infinite monkey; 10-20-2011 at 08:33 AM. Reason: additional

10-20-2011, 08:32 AM	#427
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yeah, I used to wish I was one of the cool kids here, but now I know it doesn't matter. None of you bastards are cool anyway...cept for maybe lookout. He's pretty cool, but he doesn't even post anymore. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-20-2011, 09:21 AM	#429
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	He's out occupying Wall Street. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

10-20-2011, 11:47 AM	#433
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	hugs

10-20-2011, 12:26 PM	#434
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	Some forums have "Newbies - must read this " threads. Maybe TheCellar needs one too. First Rule: "There are no rules, except those that apply to jimhelm" First Rule of Engagement: " Pick an unsuspecting opponent Corollary 1: "Attack, then withdraw while fights flare Corollary 2: "Attack, but select a different opponent Corollary 3: "Plead innocence and shift blame elsewhere Corollary 4: "Plead victim, or change the topic Corollary 5: "Threaten to leave Corollary 6: "Display conciliation, not contrition Corollary 7: "Lurk, but return to renew attacks There are absolutely NO Rules in The Cellar (except Rule #1) Rule 2: Any Dwellar proposing Rules may be known as the "TheAAU" (TheAssAmongUs) .

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