People treat me differently because I'm not so fat

Undertoad · 05-11-2015, 06:00 PM

I passed a milestone this morning and weighed in below 220. I've lost 22 pounds from 6 months ago and 45 from my "high weight" which I achieved in 2011.

Because it was late and there were no other customers, the hairdresser washed my hair after the cut. "It'll get rid of all the little hairs, plus I can compare the sides more easily," she said. After I left I realized... that never happened when I was a mess.

Things are changing. It's not coincidence.

The skinny guy running the self-checkout lanes opened up out of nowhere about the frozen chicken entrees I was buying. "They're great, did you try the cordon bleu?"

Skinny people never ask fat people about what food they're buying.

People are nicer and kinder and happier. They acknowledge me now, more than ever.

And the point is this.

What horrible assholes we all are.

lumberjim · 05-11-2015, 06:09 PM

well, all the skinny people anyway

DanaC · 05-11-2015, 06:17 PM

It might not be because you look different - it might be because you hold yourself differently and give off a different vibe than you did.

When you were at your largest, were you also at your least socially confident? It may just be that you have a different air about you now, one that draws people in or makes them feel confident/comfortable engaging with you.

lumberjim · 05-11-2015, 06:27 PM

that's actually the right answer, Dana.

When you feel bad about you, you think people won't like you. and then they don't, because we're all connected and can sense that shit.

I'm HUGE. big fat guy. 320+ but I am dead sexy, and people like me. keep your eyebrows up.

Undertoad · 05-11-2015, 07:11 PM

It's all both isn't it? You feed off people and people feed off you.

Griff · 05-11-2015, 07:31 PM

yup. Good vibe you're giving off and humans can be clannish dbags.

glatt · 05-11-2015, 08:58 PM

I hugged a rather large gay black man in the park this morning, and that wouldn't have happened if he wasn't so self confident about it all. For so many reasons.

monster · 05-11-2015, 09:07 PM

I wish cashiers would just keep their noses out of my funking purchases or at least not let their nebbiness slow them down. Yeah, I buy 50lb of pasta in one go. I'm damn well aware it's a lot of pasta. yes, I'm going to cook pasta. yes, I like pasta. Just STFU and run it over the GD scanner ktb (then you might notice it's on sale at 75% off).

I can't say I noticed the same when I lost weight (congrats btw). But then I didn't really gain any confidence either. If anything, I maybe lost some as I became acutely aware of how much more there was to go and just how skinny was normal

Undertoad · 05-11-2015, 10:44 PM

I hope I wasn't fishing for congrats (tho I do accept them and appreciate it, and thank you)

partly because this definitely doesn't count as an accomplishment for me yet; it's part way done and if I stop now it will all have been for nearly nothing.

Undertoad · 05-11-2015, 10:50 PM

Here is a Pro Tip

A year ago, my friend put on Facebook that he was going to lose a large amount of weight

(no it wasn't you terry)

He collected a good amount of well-wishes and likes and even congrats and such

But you know what happened, it lasted for three weeks

Now he feels bad that he let everybody down and that isn't really working for him

The Pro Tip is, and I just read this elsewhere so it's not original, don't announce to your friends and family and dwellars and facebookers that you are starting down some journey. You collect the congratulations now, but you are only due them at the end of the road. It gives you a false sense of accomplishment, yet achieves nothing. Save up those accolades for when you've actually done something.

lumberjim · 05-11-2015, 11:11 PM

Nevermind the accolades. Here's the Sex Pistols!

Lamplighter · 05-11-2015, 11:13 PM

It may depend on what you are wanting to do, and how long it takes to accomplish your goal.

Losing weight is of one kind.
You start today, but it takes a long time to see results.

Smoking is another kind.
You quit today, and the problem is to not start again.

I smoked for many years... until my daughter asked me to quit.
So I agreed to try and announced to everyone I knew that
I was going to quit on a certain date.
When the day arrived, I quit and didn't start again because
I didn't want
to face my friends and family with failure. It worked for me !

YMMV

limey · 05-12-2015, 02:30 AM

Dana has a point.
LJ has a point.
Lamp has a point.
Well done, UT!
Glatt is starting a new, and unusual habit

fargon · 05-12-2015, 06:02 AM

WTG, Tony.

Spexxvet · 05-12-2015, 08:01 AM

Agree

05-11-2015, 06:00 PM	#1
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	People treat me differently because I'm not so fat I passed a milestone this morning and weighed in below 220. I've lost 22 pounds from 6 months ago and 45 from my "high weight" which I achieved in 2011. Because it was late and there were no other customers, the hairdresser washed my hair after the cut. "It'll get rid of all the little hairs, plus I can compare the sides more easily," she said. After I left I realized... that never happened when I was a mess. Things are changing. It's not coincidence. The skinny guy running the self-checkout lanes opened up out of nowhere about the frozen chicken entrees I was buying. "They're great, did you try the cordon bleu?" Skinny people never ask fat people about what food they're buying. People are nicer and kinder and happier. They acknowledge me now, more than ever. And the point is this. What horrible assholes we all are.

05-11-2015, 06:09 PM	#2
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	well, all the skinny people anyway __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-11-2015, 06:27 PM	#4
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	that's actually the right answer, Dana. When you feel bad about you, you think people won't like you. and then they don't, because we're all connected and can sense that shit. I'm HUGE. big fat guy. 320+ but I am dead sexy, and people like me. keep your eyebrows up. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-11-2015, 07:31 PM	#6
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	yup. Good vibe you're giving off and humans can be clannish dbags. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

05-11-2015, 09:07 PM	#8
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I wish cashiers would just keep their noses out of my funking purchases or at least not let their nebbiness slow them down. Yeah, I buy 50lb of pasta in one go. I'm damn well aware it's a lot of pasta. yes, I'm going to cook pasta. yes, I like pasta. Just STFU and run it over the GD scanner ktb (then you might notice it's on sale at 75% off). I can't say I noticed the same when I lost weight (congrats btw). But then I didn't really gain any confidence either. If anything, I maybe lost some as I became acutely aware of how much more there was to go and just how skinny was normal __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

05-11-2015, 07:11 PM	#5
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	It's all both isn't it? You feed off people and people feed off you.

05-11-2015, 08:58 PM	#7
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I hugged a rather large gay black man in the park this morning, and that wouldn't have happened if he wasn't so self confident about it all. For so many reasons.

05-11-2015, 10:44 PM	#9
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I hope I wasn't fishing for congrats (tho I do accept them and appreciate it, and thank you) partly because this definitely doesn't count as an accomplishment for me yet; it's part way done and if I stop now it will all have been for nearly nothing.

05-11-2015, 10:50 PM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Here is a Pro Tip A year ago, my friend put on Facebook that he was going to lose a large amount of weight (no it wasn't you terry) He collected a good amount of well-wishes and likes and even congrats and such But you know what happened, it lasted for three weeks Now he feels bad that he let everybody down and that isn't really working for him The Pro Tip is, and I just read this elsewhere so it's not original, don't announce to your friends and family and dwellars and facebookers that you are starting down some journey. You collect the congratulations now, but you are only due them at the end of the road. It gives you a false sense of accomplishment, yet achieves nothing. Save up those accolades for when you've actually done something.

05-11-2015, 11:11 PM	#11
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Nevermind the accolades. Here's the Sex Pistols! __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-11-2015, 11:13 PM	#12
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	It may depend on what you are wanting to do, and how long it takes to accomplish your goal. Losing weight is of one kind. You start today, but it takes a long time to see results. Smoking is another kind. You quit today, and the problem is to not start again. I smoked for many years... until my daughter asked me to quit. So I agreed to try and announced to everyone I knew that I was going to quit on a certain date. When the day arrived, I quit and didn't start again because I didn't want to face my friends and family with failure. It worked for me ! YMMV

05-12-2015, 02:30 AM	#13
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Dana has a point. LJ has a point. Lamp has a point. Well done, UT! Glatt is starting a new, and unusual habit __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

05-12-2015, 06:02 AM	#14
fargon Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: La Crosse, WI Posts: 8,924	WTG, Tony. __________________ Annoy the ones that ignore you!!! I live a blessed life I Love my Country, I Fear the Government!!! Heavily medicated for the good of mankind.

05-12-2015, 08:01 AM	#15
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	Agree __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

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