About Abuse

[anonymous]

Are you tired of being abused and/or belittled by monster and shawnee/infinite monkey?

No comments necessary. The poll is anonymous.

Lots of us have had enough.

It's time you girls realized how many people don't appreciate your behavior.

[skysidhe]

ya but, I like open warfare. so in lieu of voting...

In all fairness, I think IM has been good, although I don't go looking.

[Aliantha]

I always picked you for a lover not a fighter sky. lol

[skysidhe]

Yes, I am a lover. I am a lover of honesty, justice and truth

but at the same time, if insect was crawling up my leg and all I had to get it off was a lighter, I would torch it.

SO....all in all thanks. That was a nice thing to say, ali

[jimhelm]

this is, in my opinion, an improper use of the anon log in.

whoever posted this poll is a coward.

[skysidhe]

I do not need an anon to say what I feel.

[monster]

Originally Posted by skysidhe

I do not need an anon to say what I feel.

and yet you are watching the thread like a hawk, replying to all, and you still only garnered 3 votes from 60 views. You shoulda made the poll not anon. Then I'd've voted for shits and grins.

[Aliantha]

Maybe whoever posted as anon did it that way so that everyone could remain anon about how they voted if they wanted to also.

I personally have had to deal with monster being nasty to me, so I'd so that I don't like it. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels that way.

[jimhelm]

so you address it the time, and sort it out, right?

THIS is bullshit

[Aliantha]

What's the difference between this and the 'self policing' thread?

[monster]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

What's the difference between this and the 'self policing' thread?

not much, other than lj not posting as anon. You can post an anon poll without using the anon account. But maybe anon didn't know that.

So If I'm found too bitchy for the cellar, am I expected to leave or change my ways? or are you going for the ban?

[DanaC]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

What's the difference between this and the 'self policing' thread?

I think there's a significant difference, aside from the anonymity angle. The self-policing thread was about a number of combatants and the effect their combat was starting to have. This thread is about a single side in a conflict.

Whilst I sympathise with the OP for feeling bullied, I cannot help but think that this thread is no more than an attempt to redirect the Cellar's energies into bullying someone else.


This is a community, but it is also an open forum on the internet. Robust exchanges, and sporadic feuding is the norm. We all lock onto things in the Cellar. When I return to see what's new in the forums I am particularly scanning for threads I have been involved in. If the same is true during a bout of 'feuding' it can seem like stalking. Added to that is the constant temptation in forum communication to go for the laugh and the jugula in equal measure. We all do it sometimes, I suspect. It is more than possible for someone to 'accidentally' bully another in text.

Which is one very good reason for having moderators.

If any dwellar genuinely feels they are being bullied or intimidated by another dwellar, we have moderators who can be contacted. A couple of PMs between 'bullied' and moderator, and then a couple of PMs between moderator and 'bully' should be enough, in most instances to cool things down. Chances are the 'bully' has no idea that some of their words have hit hard.

[Cloud]

I do get tired of the Cellar in general sometimes; if only it weren't such a great outlet and a great resource . . .

[monster]

http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/war...bersisters.htm

[casimendocina]

Some of it's alright and some of it is just unnecessary.

If consistency of any kind is important then you can't request that people keep it nice in one thread and then deal out a backhander in your byline to those who try to avoid participating in the fray. Reading the arguments can be fun, but why add to what is already there.

Discussion is fine as is pointing out errors in argument, but if you want people who are less confident of their ability to back up their views to continue posting, then the environment has to be comfortable.