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Old 01-05-2018, 10:12 AM   #31
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On the other hand the person who has dementia dosen't know they have it.
Sadly that is not true for everyone. My mum was frequently aware of her predicament in a hazy way.

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Old 01-05-2018, 11:06 AM   #32
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captainhook455 - prayers sent for you and your wife.
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Old 01-05-2018, 11:29 AM   #33
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My father is in hospice care at home. Before hospice care, a UTI would lead to confusion and then be followed by a combative state. We quickly learned that if he was staying confused, he had the onset of a UTI. Since hospice, he has been on IV antibiotics constantly. Unfortunately the gangrene is moving past the foot into the leg. Antibiotics aren't doing much to slow it and he is slipping as the infection increases. He has 24 hour care at home, but I think we will have to move him into the hospice unit at the hospital within a couple of weeks.

Sepsis killed my mother. Sepsis/gangrene will take my dad.
Jeez, Sarge. My heart breaks for you and your family.
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Old 01-05-2018, 11:33 AM   #34
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My wife has sundowners, can't remember eating 2hrs ago or most anything from 2hrs ago. She can be aggravating and tries to draw me into what ever crazy shit she is talking about.

Her family doesn't want her to go to a nursing facility, but no one is willing to take her to their house.
Sounds like it's time to get the CAP people on the job. So sorry you're going through this, it's so painful to see your loved ones decline right before your eyes.

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Old 01-10-2018, 10:07 PM   #35
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Wow .. .. .. just reading this thread brings so much sadness. I'm so sorry Sarge & Capt.
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Old 01-11-2018, 02:12 PM   #36
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Sadly that is not true for everyone. My mum was frequently aware of her predicament in a hazy way.

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Yeah. My nan was intermittently aware of her situation. very sad. Frightening for her.

Sarge: *hugs* sorry man. You too Capn.

Dementia, alzeimers, multi empharct - they're a vicious family of diseases. They take people away piecemeal.


I wrote a poem about memory loss some years ago - posted it on here somewhere. Ironically I can't recall how long ago or what name I settled on (they all start as 'Untitled poem' or 'poetic experiment')
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Old 01-11-2018, 02:15 PM   #37
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My wife is still at home. I will see how it goes. Thanks Sarge for the prayers.
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Old 01-11-2018, 02:18 PM   #38
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Come on here and vent any time you need to capn. We may not be immediately present, but we care.
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Old 01-11-2018, 02:29 PM   #39
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stay strong for her, bro.

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Old 01-11-2018, 02:46 PM   #40
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Apparently the poem title I settled on was 'Memory'

http://cellar.org/showthread.php?t=1...ghlight=memory
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Old 01-11-2018, 04:37 PM   #41
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... Dementia, alzeimers, multi empharct - ...
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Old 01-11-2018, 04:44 PM   #42
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Old 01-11-2018, 04:44 PM   #43
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oh spelling. Yah. I am not quite right at the moment. Full of the flu, peering at the screen with no glasses and knackered from insomnia
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Old 01-11-2018, 05:21 PM   #44
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Old 01-25-2018, 07:58 AM   #45
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What I have experienced, is there's way not enough support out there for families who are suffering the loss of there loved one with dementia. My grandma was recently diagnosed and we had completely idea what dementia could do to a human being other than she might forget a couple of names and how to prepare a coffee... we couldn't even imagine would stop being herself and take on a new personality. The biggest problem is that you have to always remember that's not your dad talking, it’s the dementia talking.

Best regards... And hold strong...

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