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Passive aggression makes no one happy and is inherently decieptful at its core, imho.
Better to say: "Woman, I need some time with my peeps so back off." Passive aggression is definitely not a long-term solution to the party who deploys it in response to a perceived inequity in the relationship. The power it seeks to subvert will surely be brought to bear against it resulting in a vicious cycle of "control"/"subvert"/"control more"/"subvert more." Nip it in the bud and stand your ground from the get go then you never have to worry about it again. Turf staked out is turf maintained. Just my $.02.
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Do not underestimate it. I'm agreeing with the others. If there's one part of this equation you can't accept, you're going to keep on being unhappy. Quote:
It will become a Very Large Issue in your relationship, if it's not already. Conversely, if you keep changing your mind - "I'm distant and cold because you've hurt me but I love you so I'm going to be nice now" - that not only creates more problems in the relationship, it also keeps the cycle going. As I said - been there, done that, have a nice lil' place of my own now. But if you want to talk offline at any point, please feel free to PM me. Good luck! |
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Stacy will stay until she has had enough. Nothing anyone can say to her will change that. No amount of reasoning, counseling, therapy or anything else will change her mind. She knows what is wrong, she knows what the reasonable course of action is, and she will either not take it at all and get herself into a worse position or something will happen and it will cause her to "have enough" and then it's over. Nothing we can do to speed it along.
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03-04-2004, 01:22 PM | #170 | |
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let's see ... that, plus the little bit he posted himself, that makes, as of right this minute .... What, like three and a half posts out of 344? Balanced. yeah.
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Basically, it sounds like the trust in him is withering away. He definitely needs to regain her trust, and IMO, she needs to be away from him to do that.
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03-04-2004, 03:40 PM | #174 |
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I heard that his favorite author was DICKens, that he likes to DICKtate letters, and He collects DICK Tracy comics. But i could be wrong. beats the dickens outta me. dickjab.
How is he a dick? let me count the ways..... if it looks like a dick, and smells like a dick, it must be a dick
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03-04-2004, 09:01 PM | #176 |
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No This is Mr.StaceyV,
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He looks SO enthused to be getting married to StaceyV,
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yeah but she looks fabulous!
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03-04-2004, 10:48 PM | #179 |
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It's been brought up before.But Stacey and Arsen look EXACTLY as I imagined them.Stacey,you look a little like Marisa Tomei in "My Cousin Vinnie".
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Arsen. Dude. We need to have a looooooooooooooooooooong chat.
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