Why is my teen-age daughter stealing?... - Page 4

lumberjim · 06-11-2008, 08:57 PM

you guys didn't hear what happened to BrettsHoney?

kerosene · 06-12-2008, 09:06 AM

Arg! Jim!

DucksNuts · 06-13-2008, 05:30 AM

sucker!

I hope LJ doesnt post anything interesting in his links, coz I never click on them.

kerosene · 06-13-2008, 09:13 AM

I never learn!

Clodfobble · 06-13-2008, 12:03 PM

You know, if you hover over the link with your mouse, you can see the URL it points to, way down in the bottom left hand corner of the screen. If it says YouTube, you know not to click it.

kerosene · 06-13-2008, 12:04 PM

good point. I never look at that. I need to start.

Flint · 06-13-2008, 12:06 PM

Clodfobble is lying! She hacks your AOL with a trojan bug that does programs on your monitor!

monster · 06-13-2008, 08:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

You know, if you hover over the link with your mouse, you can see the URL it points to, way down in the bottom left hand corner of the screen. If it says YouTube, you know not to click it.

Youtube is not the only source, though...

(and not all youtube links lead to *that*. Some lead to *this*

lumberjim · 06-13-2008, 08:34 PM

would you believe me if i promised not to rickroll anymore?

SteveDallas · 06-13-2008, 09:11 PM

I'd believe you.

(a) it'd have to get tiring, and predictable, after a while, and b) you'll just find something else to do.)

kerosene · 06-13-2008, 09:50 PM

I kind of like getting rick rolled. Is that twisted? Please don't tell the authorities.

MomWithTeenager · 08-25-2008, 09:49 PM

Hi I too have a 14 yr old who is stealing. I have tried to be understanding nice, explain the what if's to him as far as stealing goes, I explained the consequences to him, but still he steals. Things like money from his little brothers change jar, but recently like 2 days ago he stole a rock and a ring from a gift shop while we were on vacation.

Now I did not yell at him...what I did was use a firm voice and once again explained the consequences of stealing....I told him that I was not happy with his actions and for him to go to his room until I think of a punishment for his actions.......Now I would have made him bring the items back to the gift shop;however, when I realized he had stole we were 6 hrs away.....I'm thinking his punishment will be cleaning both bathroom toilets every day for 2 weeks with a cloth instead of the scrubber (gloves on of course).

So this is what I did........If you dont agree with me I am sorry but when you are all out of ideas this is where you end up looking for answers.

I called my local police station and explained my situation to a police officer with regards to my sons stealing. I asked them that if I was to take my son into the police station would they take him into a separate room and explain to him the consequences of stealing. I also asked them if they would go as far as take him to a cell and show him what it looks like, as to kinda get a feel for what his future holds if he continues to go down the path that he's on.

The officer on the other end of the phone agreed with me that I am making a wise choice as to nipping this stealing thing in the but before it gets out of hand....And yes I will be taking my son to the police station around 1:30pm tomorrow.

I am hoping that by me bringing him to the station will OPEN his eyes as to what will happen to him if his stealing continues.

Only time will tell if his trip to the police station works, but what do I really have to loose.....the answer is nothing..... it will either work or it wont.....My fingers are crossed that it does.

I will let you all know the out come.

classicman · 08-26-2008, 10:10 PM

Welcome to the cellar Mom. I hope things work out.

Aliantha · 08-26-2008, 10:14 PM

Hey Mom, and interesting first post there.

Is your son stealing stuff (in general) that he needs? I don't know anything much about that sort of thing, but don't kids sometimes do stuff like that for attention? Is there anything else going on with him?

monster · 08-26-2008, 10:27 PM

MomWT, does your son have money of his own? Could you have him write a letter of explanation and apology to the store and mail it to them with the items he stole using his own money for the mailing costs? My kids are a little younger and I have no experience with this age-group other than having been that age once, but a letter of explanation/apology seems to work a treat every time. Especially when they can't find a good reason to give the person as to why they did what they did (explanations = what and why)

06-11-2008, 08:57 PM	#46
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	you guys didn't hear what happened to BrettsHoney? __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

06-13-2008, 12:06 PM	#52
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Clodfobble is lying! She hacks your AOL with a trojan bug that does programs on your monitor! __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

06-13-2008, 08:34 PM	#54
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	would you believe me if i promised not to rickroll anymore? __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

08-25-2008, 09:49 PM	#57
MomWithTeenager Kinda New Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1	I DO know what you are going through. Hi I too have a 14 yr old who is stealing. I have tried to be understanding nice, explain the what if's to him as far as stealing goes, I explained the consequences to him, but still he steals. Things like money from his little brothers change jar, but recently like 2 days ago he stole a rock and a ring from a gift shop while we were on vacation. Now I did not yell at him...what I did was use a firm voice and once again explained the consequences of stealing....I told him that I was not happy with his actions and for him to go to his room until I think of a punishment for his actions.......Now I would have made him bring the items back to the gift shop;however, when I realized he had stole we were 6 hrs away.....I'm thinking his punishment will be cleaning both bathroom toilets every day for 2 weeks with a cloth instead of the scrubber (gloves on of course). So this is what I did........If you dont agree with me I am sorry but when you are all out of ideas this is where you end up looking for answers. I called my local police station and explained my situation to a police officer with regards to my sons stealing. I asked them that if I was to take my son into the police station would they take him into a separate room and explain to him the consequences of stealing. I also asked them if they would go as far as take him to a cell and show him what it looks like, as to kinda get a feel for what his future holds if he continues to go down the path that he's on. The officer on the other end of the phone agreed with me that I am making a wise choice as to nipping this stealing thing in the but before it gets out of hand....And yes I will be taking my son to the police station around 1:30pm tomorrow. I am hoping that by me bringing him to the station will OPEN his eyes as to what will happen to him if his stealing continues. Only time will tell if his trip to the police station works, but what do I really have to loose.....the answer is nothing..... it will either work or it wont.....My fingers are crossed that it does. I will let you all know the out come.

08-26-2008, 10:10 PM	#58
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Welcome to the cellar Mom. I hope things work out. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

06-12-2008, 09:06 AM	#47
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Arg! Jim!

06-13-2008, 05:30 AM	#48
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	sucker! I hope LJ doesnt post anything interesting in his links, coz I never click on them.

06-13-2008, 09:13 AM	#49
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I never learn!

06-13-2008, 12:03 PM	#50
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	You know, if you hover over the link with your mouse, you can see the URL it points to, way down in the bottom left hand corner of the screen. If it says YouTube, you know not to click it.

06-13-2008, 12:04 PM	#51
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	good point. I never look at that. I need to start.

06-13-2008, 09:11 PM	#55
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	I'd believe you. (a) it'd have to get tiring, and predictable, after a while, and b) you'll just find something else to do.)

06-13-2008, 09:50 PM	#56
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I kind of like getting rick rolled. Is that twisted? Please don't tell the authorities.

08-26-2008, 10:14 PM	#59
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Hey Mom, and interesting first post there. Is your son stealing stuff (in general) that he needs? I don't know anything much about that sort of thing, but don't kids sometimes do stuff like that for attention? Is there anything else going on with him? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-26-2008, 10:27 PM	#60
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	MomWT, does your son have money of his own? Could you have him write a letter of explanation and apology to the store and mail it to them with the items he stole using his own money for the mailing costs? My kids are a little younger and I have no experience with this age-group other than having been that age once, but a letter of explanation/apology seems to work a treat every time. Especially when they can't find a good reason to give the person as to why they did what they did (explanations = what and why) __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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