Here in The Cellar - Is It *Real*?

[capnhowdy]

Sometimes ALL TOO REAL.

I love it here. I love the Dwellars that I love deeply.
I dislike the ones I dislike deeply. I feel as if I know most of you. Most of you, I would like to meet and share a buddy-hug. Some of you I'd like to slap the piss out of. But we are all real people, living real lives.

I'm glad to be here and intend to stay.

[skysidhe]

[Cheyenne]

Originally Posted by Elspode

Yeah, I said it...is it *real*? Our relationships, I mean (this is, after all, the relationships thread).

Few of us know each other or have ever met IRL. Essentially, to one another, we are all letters on a screen and little else. Oh, yeah...some personalities come across loud and clear. Some of those personalities are easier to stomach than others. Some are more interesting than others. Some are more irritating than others, some apparently more glamorous, still others more attractive, literate, intriguing, provocative, and lots of other adjectives...just like reality. But...

...if we are just batting around words here, with few ever having to face another Cellarite and look into their eyes - Is any of this *real*? If I tell LJ he's a cocksucker, does he get pissed, and do I feel sorry for being out of line? If TW propounds on the morality of international politics and Kagen tells him he's a left wing weenie, is anyone responsible for their words and "actions"?

I guess what I'm looking for here is this: how much weight/value/import do *you*, as a member of this virtual community, place upon your interactions here? Do your feelings get hurt when someone nails your ass? Do you actually feel supported when you open up your guts and let people know that things suck for you and you could use some strokes/input? Do you visualize a real, flesh and blood person sitting somewhere at a computer, carefully considering their words (as I am desperately trying to do now), and ending up making you happy/sad/angry/confused?

As in real life (and magickal life as well), things have only as much power as you give them, but don't you need to give a certain amount of empowerment to what goes on here on The Cellar to make it worth bothering with at all?

It is very early and I am nursing a headache (flu) *expects sympathy from El* So I have only read the first post in this thread.

Here is something I wrote a few years ago concerning people on the net:



You ask why...

I cry, cry, cry,

Can you see the pain in my heart with text,

the way it creeps into my eyes,

then runs down my cheeks to the lips you once touched with yours?

As I run my fingers across these letters, can you feel their tips on yours?

When I smile can you feel my love beaming into your eyes?

When I say "I love you" can you feel my breath upon your ear?

When the words "I want to hold you" appear, do you comfort me with your loving arms?

Come bed at night, do you cuddle me?

As I cry, do you wipe the tears from my eyes and reassure me with your touch?

When I dream, you are there, when I awake, only my pillow greets me

~Cheyenne~