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06-21-2010, 12:22 PM | #61 |
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The other day Mum received a Thank You prayer card after she attended a funeral.
She immediately put that on the list of things I have to do when she dies. This is going to be a very formal occasion. I have written instructions already to: Notify the local papers (Family Notices section, not the news desk obviously) Contact everyone in her address book (all labelled as to their relationship to my parents ie ex work colleague, Ambulance, old school friend, second cousin etc) Arrange the Mass with the songs and readings already decided on, as well as present the eulogy Thank everyone personally as they leave the church Make sure there is a Book of Condolence so I know who to write to Host the wake - PROPERLY! - which includes making sure everyone knows in advance when and where it is and sending people directions Again speak to everyone at the wake so they feel comfortable and comforted Send out prayer cards afterwards Have a Mass said every year in memorium With a notice in the paper of course Oh and tend the "graves" (cremation marker) If Dad dies first I get to do all of the above at Mum's side. If it's Mum first I will need to be the organiser. She thinks my sister will fall apart (because she cries at funerals) and my brother does not value ceremony enough. Funny to be seen as the responsible one only in the event of death. |
06-21-2010, 01:01 PM | #62 |
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It's nice to have standards and procedures!
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06-21-2010, 01:15 PM | #63 |
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OMG - THAT RIGHT THERE is some good pre-planning!
Where's that procrastination thread..... meh - I'll look later.
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06-21-2010, 01:22 PM | #64 |
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Wow, Sundae. That list -it's length and detail- seems telling of something, and I am not sure what. I will get back to you on that.
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06-21-2010, 01:26 PM | #65 |
Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya?
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a pain in the rump even in death?
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06-21-2010, 01:31 PM | #66 |
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That sounds right. I think the fact that she expects Sundae to do all of this when she is suppose to be grieving the loss of her mother seems insensitive.
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06-21-2010, 01:54 PM | #67 |
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Who else is going to do it? Having a list makes it easier, and there can be comfort in having something to do that doesn't require too much original thought.
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06-21-2010, 01:58 PM | #68 |
“Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo”
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06-21-2010, 02:28 PM | #69 |
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See now that's your problem, it's not a spanner, it's a monkey wrench.
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06-21-2010, 02:35 PM | #70 |
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hence the
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06-21-2010, 02:37 PM | #71 |
Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya?
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I find myself using "spanner in the works" all the time. I think I first figured out what it was from some video game where they said it and I looked it up to see what it meant.
Can I be an honorary Brit?
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06-21-2010, 03:11 PM | #73 | ||
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Funnily enough, I think that's true. Which is why she's gone to such length and in such detail. Because there's an incy wincy part of her which worries I'll organise a themed fairy pink funeral or somesuch, with an elephant and a steel band and a hot air balloon |
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06-21-2010, 03:13 PM | #74 |
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OMG you totally should do it. I bet your dad would love it.
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06-21-2010, 03:14 PM | #75 |
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Damn, I'd go to that.
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