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Old 06-04-2014, 06:53 AM   #61
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Six months later, explaining this to the Cellar, I feel exactly the same. I feel 100% as hurt, betrayed, and rejected. I can't imagine what could change so that this isn't an injury I never fully recover from, and in some part of me, carry to my grave. On dark nights, years from now, won't I remember this? Part of me has died.
I think your living situation is keeping the wound fresh. Yes, some part of you will always remember the hurt, but it will get better to a large degree. That process can't start until you actually get out from under the knife, though. Now that you have money, what's the plan for one or the other of you moving out?
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:20 AM   #62
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If I were in that situation, I would be very torn. I wouldn't want to leave the kids by moving out. That would kill me. But I also wouldn't be able to stay.

I think what I would do is figure out some custody arrangements and get a nearby apartment. And probably a divorce.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do Flint. But I think that now that you have some money, you have some options. It sounds like she is the weak one who won't make a decision, so you have to.
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Old 06-04-2014, 07:41 AM   #63
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What's newguy's salary?
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:02 AM   #64
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What Clod said, what Glatt said.


Sent by thought transference
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Old 06-04-2014, 08:51 AM   #65
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She always admired big apple carts, so you figured she loves apple carts. So you set up a really amazing apple cart... the biggest apple cart you could build, and you filled it to the brim with apples. Now it turns out she admired full apple carts because of how the apples would fly everywhere when she pushed them over. Wow, how the apples fly.


(I don't know anything about your relationship, and whether this analogy applies at all, but I have seen this particular drama play out a few times)
Fucking-eh. Words up, man.
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Old 06-04-2014, 09:09 AM   #66
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Flint-
Sorry to hear you got fucked over in what I consider a wormy kind of way, but I won't cast stones as much as I'd like to. As a friend once said more than once, "There's what he says, there's what she says, and there's what really happened."

The upshot is that you are in a sucky situation.

I hope you can keep your mojo until things improve, in the meantime here are two thoughts to ponder:

1) Living well is the best revenge.

2) WTF?
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Old 06-05-2014, 03:14 PM   #67
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What's newguy's salary?
Somewhere in the antisocial, tattooed, fedora-wearing hipster range. He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless. He is doing temp jobs up here.
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Old 06-05-2014, 03:18 PM   #68
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Somewhere in the antisocial, tattooed, fedora-wearing hipster range. He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless. He is doing temp jobs up here.
And that the thanks you get.

I feel for you, Flint
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Old 06-05-2014, 05:10 PM   #69
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He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless.
two years is a pretty long game just for some tail.

You own the Portland place or rent?
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Old 06-05-2014, 05:58 PM   #70
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If you can afford to, move out. Get the new life happening. Believe me, it will be better for the kids in the long run if everyone can be real about the situation. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for most of the time. Living in the same house and not being yourself has got to be worse than living alone with the kids and being real about things.

Is there any other reason besides the kids that you're staying for?
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Old 06-05-2014, 07:54 PM   #71
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you are a far, far stronger man than me. I wouldn't have been able to handle the stuff going on downstairs while I sat alone in my little room/prison cell.
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Old 06-05-2014, 08:23 PM   #72
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Some guys are cut out to be cuckolds and some aren't.
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Old 06-05-2014, 10:48 PM   #73
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That sounded a little cunty...
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Old 06-05-2014, 10:58 PM   #74
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Clod, how could you be so mean to sexo?

Oh wait a minute...he deserved it! lol
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Old 06-06-2014, 12:30 AM   #75
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That sounded a little cunty...
A lot cunty.

Ha. My phone learned cunty.
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