What is a relationship? - Page 4

jaguar · 03-09-2005, 10:41 AM

we'll see

Catwoman · 03-09-2005, 10:43 AM

I wasn't in the bar.

He knows it bothers me when he flirts etc.

He is slightly less bothered when I do it because he appears to have overcome that emotional clinginess - or he just feels less for me.

All that remains is that if I want a relationship/friendship with him I have to accept there will be other women.

Also, I am not sure enough that he is 'the one' for me to promise I will never be interested in anyone else, or commit to a relationship.

So when I say there is nothing I can do about it, I mean this is the alternative to not having the friendship. It may build to something greater. It probably won't. Either way, the times when we are together work; although I'm not entirely sure why. I could write a list of things but that would be selling it to you and probably myself. And it's enough to put up with the odd fling.

Still, I've missed your occasional wisdom lj!

cjjulie · 03-09-2005, 12:42 PM

LJ is right about frlirting with other people. My DH and I flirt all the time with others and it only serves to spice things up. It works because we both TRUST each other in our marriage. I LOVE hanging out with the other guy I talked about, but when it comes right down to it, he's goin' home alone and I'm going home with my DH.

On the other hand, what I wouldn't give to be in my early 20s again

*looks around* who said that?

Catwoman · 03-10-2005, 05:35 AM

Yes I suppose if he murdered a family member I might be a little confused. Or if he jetted off to Australia for 2 years without telling me. Or refused to speak to me for no apparent reason. I would feel a little strange, upset, bewildered. But after the initial reaction I'm sure I'd be fine. No point crying over spilt milk, as we say this side of the Atlantic. So wipe it up and pour another cup.

Yes, there probably are rules, it's not really that different from any other relationship, in fact its not different at all. I'm just using me as an example. I'm trying, but I definitely don't know all the answers yet, and if I did I'd probably have some difficulty applying them. I suppose I'm being... idealistic. Or just kidding myself. Whatever, it works. And if it ain't broke...

03-09-2005, 10:41 AM	#1
jaguar whig Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5,075	we'll see __________________ Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. - Twain

03-09-2005, 10:43 AM	#2
Catwoman stalking a Tom Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: on the edge of the english channel Posts: 1,000	I wasn't in the bar. He knows it bothers me when he flirts etc. He is slightly less bothered when I do it because he appears to have overcome that emotional clinginess - or he just feels less for me. All that remains is that if I want a relationship/friendship with him I have to accept there will be other women. Also, I am not sure enough that he is 'the one' for me to promise I will never be interested in anyone else, or commit to a relationship. So when I say there is nothing I can do about it, I mean this is the alternative to not having the friendship. It may build to something greater. It probably won't. Either way, the times when we are together work; although I'm not entirely sure why. I could write a list of things but that would be selling it to you and probably myself. And it's enough to put up with the odd fling. Still, I've missed your occasional wisdom lj! __________________ I've decided I'm not going to have a signature anymore.

03-09-2005, 12:42 PM	#3
cjjulie Colonist Extraordinaire Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: CT Posts: 201	LJ is right about frlirting with other people. My DH and I flirt all the time with others and it only serves to spice things up. It works because we both TRUST each other in our marriage. I LOVE hanging out with the other guy I talked about, but when it comes right down to it, he's goin' home alone and I'm going home with my DH. On the other hand, what I wouldn't give to be in my early 20s again looks around who said that? __________________ Fun,Fearless,Female

03-10-2005, 05:35 AM	#4
Catwoman stalking a Tom Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: on the edge of the english channel Posts: 1,000	Yes I suppose if he murdered a family member I might be a little confused. Or if he jetted off to Australia for 2 years without telling me. Or refused to speak to me for no apparent reason. I would feel a little strange, upset, bewildered. But after the initial reaction I'm sure I'd be fine. No point crying over spilt milk, as we say this side of the Atlantic. So wipe it up and pour another cup. Yes, there probably are rules, it's not really that different from any other relationship, in fact its not different at all. I'm just using me as an example. I'm trying, but I definitely don't know all the answers yet, and if I did I'd probably have some difficulty applying them. I suppose I'm being... idealistic. Or just kidding myself. Whatever, it works. And if it ain't broke... __________________ I've decided I'm not going to have a signature anymore.

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