Trilby

[DanaC]

That's lovely.

[monster]

Hebe remembers her as "the one who waved at us"

[infinite monkey]

Oh jim that really said it.

Such a loss for all of us. I am still thinking i will wake up and it won't be true. Fucking devastating.

I remember us laughing through tears the last we spoke.

Taylor and Danny your mom was so loved. Clever, beautiful lady. I am so sorry.

[Jaydaan]

I never expected to be so upset that a stranger passed away, but I am. I have been on this site for years, and Claudette was always here. To me, she felt she was never good enough, and yet me, a perfect stranger looked forward to her opinion and insights. I didn't know her in person, I wish I had. She was more than "good enough" and I am saddened she felt otherwise. Her struggle is over now, she is with her beloved Autumn.
I hope Taylor and Danny, that you can remember all the good your mom has done, all the love she tried to give, in this most difficult time. In the months and years to come, I hope you come back to this page, and see how many people loved and repsected your mom.

[jimhelm]

not a stranger, jay. a friend you'd not met.

[jimhelm]

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

Oh jim that really said it.

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I love you for the same exact reasons. I think bri knew it, but I wish I had told her so.

[BigV]

Thank you Taylor and Danny for telling us this tragic news. I am so sad, and I know you're stunned and sad too. My heart goes out to you both. I would love to help if I can and the cellar is the best way to reach me. Many people here count her as a friend, all here respected her, both apply for me.

I learned last night when I got a call from classic (thanks man). I was stunned then, I'm still in disbelief, but I wanted to acknowledge Taylor and Danny. I'm so sorry boys, so sorry.

[footfootfoot]

I put this in video thread but I meant to put it here:

[Pie]

I saw this on facebook (thanks DanaC) and I wanted to add my condolences to all, especially her sons. Many of us here have dealt with our own demons of a similar sort; how terribly sad to see a dear friend laid low.

Peace be with you, Bri.

[Pete Zicato]

Miss you, Pie. I can't remember when you left so I will mention that I used to be dar512. I hope that you are happy and healthy where ever you are in real life.

So, the cellar is like real life in this respect - sometimes tragedy brings old friends back together for a moment.

[Lola Bunny]

Condolences to you and your family, Taylor and Danny. Claudette was loved and will be missed. It's hard not to shed a tear being in this thread.

[Crimson Ghost]

My condolences as well. I liked Trillby.

If I may, I would like to share a poem that is often recited at funerals for my lodge brothers. But I feel the sentiment can be applied to anyone.
If it is not appropriate, I request that a moderator delete it.

In My Father's Mansion

It is not cold beneath the grasses,

Nor close-walled within the tomb;

Rather, in my Father's mansion,

Living, in another room.

Nearer than the one who loves me,

Like yon child with cheeks abloom,

Out of sight, at desk or schoolbook,

Busy, in another room.

Nearer than the youth whom fortune

Beckons where the strange lands loom;

Just behind the hanging curtain,

Serving, in another room.

Shall I doubt my Father's mercy?

Shall I think of death as doom,

Or the stepping o'er the threshold

To a bigger, brighter room?

Shall I blame my Father's wisdom?

Shall I sit enswathed in gloom,

When I know my Love is happy

Waiting, in another room?

Robert Freeman

[Chocolatl]

Stunned and so sad.

Goodbye, Tril. I'll miss your kind and generous spirit.

Wishing peace for her family in their grief.

[footfootfoot]

Thank you CG, A beautiful poem, she did love poems. I will miss that about her.

[Sundae]

I said to Dani and Limey yesterday - it's like breaking up with someone.
Hurts like buggery. But this time you know it's going to go on forever.

We might only have spoken once a fortnight.
PM'd weekly.
Interacted on here every few days.
But now everything I see and everything I do I just want to share with her.
I think "Bri would love this!" or "That would make Bri laugh!"
I know I thought those thoughts before, but I also know I never thought them so continuously or consistently as I do now.

And one of the jarring things is that when things are wrong in my life I come here for advice, for comfort and the occasional slap upside the head (sometimes right, sometimes annoying.) But the situation is reversed here. Here everyone is mourning Trilby. It's not my own personal grief that I can just spill out and have everyone hug me. She wasn't mine to grieve about alone.

And at home, there's no-one I can share it with. I'm not at work, the 'rents are in Spain (although Mum has been lovely on the phone), my sister is not talking to me and my brother wouldn't understand.

Sorry. This isn't poor me, poor me (pour me another.)

As I said before, Limey and Mr Limey are letting me stay with them next week, so it will all be different. But even then I will want to document it. She really wanted to see Arran. We were going to tramp round every damned site of historical interest on that island. At least until we got tired of standing stones not revealing a gruagach to us and finding somewhere with a real open fire instead. But she won't be here to see it or read it or write one of my phrases down in her notebook for future use.

Will have to ask the Limeys of a suitable way to honour her traditionally. And if it involves a libation I'll buy a miniature and pour it empty.
If not, I'm going to buy a bloody Chinese Fire Lantern and write my love for her before it burns. She'd have laughed at me borrowing from other cultures to find some meaning.