Holding the Grudge - Page 3

insoluble · 12-04-2003, 12:45 AM

What makes you think she owes you anything? Maybe you should consider taking responsibility for your own actions instead of looking for reasons to be pissy. Sounds like you got lucky that she put the note up at all. "a lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."

staceyv · 12-04-2003, 05:49 AM

she was working that day - a slow tuesday lunch, and she was the hostess. i did not ask for a lot. since she was stuck there at work, and not busy, AND she happily agreed, AND we had history of being friendly, and i went to her wedding reception, AND what i was asking for was very very simple, I do have a right to be upset. We eloped, and decided to have the party that day. how hard is it to tell a few people, "hey, stacey got married today. she's having a party, her address is in the bus room" i mean seriously, if we run out of baked potatoes in that place, we spread the word verbally, even in the middle of a busy saturday night, and everyone knows within 5 minutes. the same thing happens when they change the soup of the day..that's all i was asking for. don't be so friggin harsh.

lumberjim · 12-04-2003, 06:34 AM

i hate to be the one to break this to you, but it would seem to me that she probably DID tell people about your party. I 've worked in a restaraunt or two, and people would have seen the note and asked her about it. She also would have told people she chatted with. The fact that people did not show up, has got to be attributed to the esteem you are held in by said coworkers.

sorry

staceyv · 12-04-2003, 01:21 PM

every single person i personally asked showed up, i just never made it past the front room to tell more of them.

FileNotFound · 12-04-2003, 01:44 PM

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Originally posted by staceyv
every single person i personally asked showed up, i just never made it past the front room to tell more of them.

That only proves that people you personaly asked would have felt guilty if they hadn't showed up because they have NO excuse.

The others..."Well I didn't see the note" " I didn't know where" "I didn't know when"

Fact is if somebody wanted to go, they could've found out easily. The note although vague would have sparked enough interest in those willing to visit as is.

insoluble · 12-04-2003, 04:55 PM

realistic != harsh

Cam · 12-05-2003, 03:47 PM

I find that any grudge I'm holding can be attributed to my own actions as much as the other persons, making it easy to get over it.

lumberjim · 12-05-2003, 04:21 PM

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Originally posted by Cam
I find that any grudge I'm holding can be attributed to my own actions as much as the other persons, making it easy to get over it.

yup

kerosene · 12-05-2003, 05:42 PM

Though, this is a flawed way of dealing with things, I don't like holding grudges, because usually it causes me to get worked up and angry about the situation all over again. I usually end up just writing the person off, unless they recognize the problem and confront me. I know it is bad, but it's in my nature.

lumberjim · 12-06-2003, 01:44 PM

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Originally posted by case
it causes me to get worked up and angry about the situation all over again.

this is a well known phenomenon called "getting re-mad" in my house....jinx has a knack for it.

xoxoxoBruce · 12-07-2003, 08:19 AM

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Originally posted by lumberjim

this is a well known phenomenon called "getting re-mad" in my house....jinx has a knack for it.

Is this the catalyst calling the pot black?

lumberjim · 12-07-2003, 10:20 PM

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Originally posted by xoxoxoBruce
Is this the catalyst calling the pot black?

i don't get it....

xoxoxoBruce · 12-07-2003, 10:31 PM

The catalyst rather than the kettle calling the pot black.

lumberjim · 10-18-2005, 08:23 PM

almost 2 years later, and i still don't get it.

BigV · 10-18-2005, 08:32 PM

Kettle sounds a little like the first two syllables of catalyst. the pun is on the word catalyst, or kettle-yst. xoB is asking/suggesting that you, the kettle is calling jinx, the pot, black. That you are accusing her of something that you are either a) guilty of yourself (as the kettle) or b) the reason she's re-mad (as the catalyst).

Or, I could be all wrong.

12-04-2003, 06:34 AM	#3
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	i hate to be the one to break this to you, but it would seem to me that she probably DID tell people about your party. I 've worked in a restaraunt or two, and people would have seen the note and asked her about it. She also would have told people she chatted with. The fact that people did not show up, has got to be attributed to the esteem you are held in by said coworkers. sorry __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

12-05-2003, 03:47 PM	#7
Cam dripping with ignorance Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Grand Forks ND Posts: 642	I find that any grudge I'm holding can be attributed to my own actions as much as the other persons, making it easy to get over it. __________________ After the seventh beer I generally try and stay away from the keyboard, I apologize for what happens when I fail.

12-07-2003, 10:31 PM	#13
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	The catalyst rather than the kettle calling the pot black. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-18-2005, 08:23 PM	#14
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	almost 2 years later, and i still don't get it. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

10-18-2005, 08:32 PM	#15
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Kettle sounds a little like the first two syllables of catalyst. the pun is on the word catalyst, or kettle-yst. xoB is asking/suggesting that you, the kettle is calling jinx, the pot, black. That you are accusing her of something that you are either a) guilty of yourself (as the kettle) or b) the reason she's re-mad (as the catalyst). Or, I could be all wrong. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

12-04-2003, 12:45 AM	#1
insoluble developmentally disabled rear end headwear Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: syracuse, ny Posts: 207	What makes you think she owes you anything? Maybe you should consider taking responsibility for your own actions instead of looking for reasons to be pissy. Sounds like you got lucky that she put the note up at all. "a lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."

12-04-2003, 05:49 AM	#2
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	she was working that day - a slow tuesday lunch, and she was the hostess. i did not ask for a lot. since she was stuck there at work, and not busy, AND she happily agreed, AND we had history of being friendly, and i went to her wedding reception, AND what i was asking for was very very simple, I do have a right to be upset. We eloped, and decided to have the party that day. how hard is it to tell a few people, "hey, stacey got married today. she's having a party, her address is in the bus room" i mean seriously, if we run out of baked potatoes in that place, we spread the word verbally, even in the middle of a busy saturday night, and everyone knows within 5 minutes. the same thing happens when they change the soup of the day..that's all i was asking for. don't be so friggin harsh.

12-04-2003, 01:21 PM	#4
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	every single person i personally asked showed up, i just never made it past the front room to tell more of them.

12-04-2003, 04:55 PM	#6
insoluble developmentally disabled rear end headwear Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: syracuse, ny Posts: 207	realistic != harsh

12-05-2003, 05:42 PM	#9
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Though, this is a flawed way of dealing with things, I don't like holding grudges, because usually it causes me to get worked up and angry about the situation all over again. I usually end up just writing the person off, unless they recognize the problem and confront me. I know it is bad, but it's in my nature.

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