Tears - Page 3

TheMercenary · 01-16-2009, 09:22 AM

Sorry to hear that V! Damm. Hang in there dude. You are a strong guy. Like others have said the most important thing is to keep your mind and body busy when awake. The more you sit and do nothing the more time you have to think about depressing thoughts. Stay busy and on the go. You can do it. You will make it. Many here have gone down the same river, including the falls, and they have survived a better stronger person. Be there for your kids as much as possible. Good thoughts your way.

skysidhe · 01-16-2009, 09:45 AM

limey · 01-16-2009, 10:12 AM

I second all the good wishes and words of advice given here, BigV. All I would add is that the issues between you and Tink are just between you two and nothing to do with your children. Do not bring your children into it, and in all your dealings with and communications to your children focus exclusively on your relationship with them, never your relationship with Tink.
I'd give the same advice to any parent going through a divorce where there are children involved.

xoxoxoBruce · 01-16-2009, 10:27 AM

Or, you could snap out and kill everyone in Seattle. No? That's not BigV?
Right! You haven't changed, your circumstances have changed and you will adjust to that... Just like when it gets cold, you may not like it but you dress warmer and life goes on. You'll handle this and life will go on.

Don't neglect your job, don't neglect the kids, and most of all don't neglect your health...

... and don't neglect us, ya Boy Scout.:p

Sundae · 01-16-2009, 10:31 AM

I repeat what others have said V.
I know you must feel broken right now.
Believe it can mend because it will.
There will still be joins - scars - but you will be whole again one day.

And you are a father. Regardless of where you are and who you are with, you are a father not just to your biological child, but to the (two? I think) children that you have been there for day in and day out.

They all love you. You are one of the defining influences in their lives. It is more important than money, work, even hurt - pretty much everything.

I'll bet it hurts like buggery now. But it won't be quite so painful for ever. My heart goes out to you completely. Look after yourself, look after your children as well as you can. And remember that you tried your best. Some people simply can't be together. This is not a judgement on you. You worked at it and it wasn't possible.

Pie · 01-16-2009, 01:10 PM

I'm sorry to hear this, V. I know you had worked hard for a better outcome.
We're all thinking about you, bud.

morethanpretty · 01-16-2009, 05:45 PM

That sucks balls V.
Like others have said, only way to keep your head up eis to focus on one day at a time. Take care of yourself.

LabRat · 01-26-2009, 03:47 PM

Crapsticks. I can't believe I missed this thread till just now.

Take care of yourself as best you can. You know we'll be here for you when you need us.

Miss you.

BigV · 01-26-2009, 11:24 PM

The walls are clearing. The shelves are emptying. The boxes are accumulating.

limey · 01-27-2009, 01:48 AM

Hugs, Big V.

classicman · 02-10-2009, 09:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigV

The walls are clearing. The shelves are emptying. The boxes are accumulating.

The clutter is being removed and the light of a new chapter has begun to filter in. Try to embrace it. Its a new beginning, whether by choice or not.

wolf · 01-27-2009, 01:51 AM

V, you are a good man in a tough situation. Seattle rains misery, but one day, when you're not looking for it, there will be a patch of blue there, and you'll see it, and appreciate it, and it will grow.

Then it will just be rain, again.

Sundae · 01-27-2009, 08:31 AM

Lots and lots of love V.
You've given it out, you'll get it in return.
Divorce isn't the end, even when it feels like it. It's a beginning.
And the relationship you have with your children lasts forever.

TheMercenary · 01-27-2009, 01:57 PM

Hang in there brother, we are all pulling for ya.

Undertoad · 01-27-2009, 02:09 PM

It gets better pretty fast... and the new person that emerges will be fascinating.

01-16-2009, 09:22 AM	#1
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	Sorry to hear that V! Damm. Hang in there dude. You are a strong guy. Like others have said the most important thing is to keep your mind and body busy when awake. The more you sit and do nothing the more time you have to think about depressing thoughts. Stay busy and on the go. You can do it. You will make it. Many here have gone down the same river, including the falls, and they have survived a better stronger person. Be there for your kids as much as possible. Good thoughts your way. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

01-16-2009, 10:12 AM	#3
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	I second all the good wishes and words of advice given here, BigV. All I would add is that the issues between you and Tink are just between you two and nothing to do with your children. Do not bring your children into it, and in all your dealings with and communications to your children focus exclusively on your relationship with them, never your relationship with Tink. I'd give the same advice to any parent going through a divorce where there are children involved. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

01-16-2009, 10:27 AM	#4
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Or, you could snap out and kill everyone in Seattle. No? That's not BigV? Right! You haven't changed, your circumstances have changed and you will adjust to that... Just like when it gets cold, you may not like it but you dress warmer and life goes on. You'll handle this and life will go on. Don't neglect your job, don't neglect the kids, and most of all don't neglect your health... ... and don't neglect us, ya Boy Scout.:p __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

01-16-2009, 01:10 PM	#6
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	I'm sorry to hear this, V. I know you had worked hard for a better outcome. We're all thinking about you, bud. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

01-16-2009, 05:45 PM	#7
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	That sucks balls V. Like others have said, only way to keep your head up eis to focus on one day at a time. Take care of yourself. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

01-16-2009, 09:45 AM	#2
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828

01-16-2009, 10:31 AM	#5
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I repeat what others have said V. I know you must feel broken right now. Believe it can mend because it will. There will still be joins - scars - but you will be whole again one day. And you are a father. Regardless of where you are and who you are with, you are a father not just to your biological child, but to the (two? I think) children that you have been there for day in and day out. They all love you. You are one of the defining influences in their lives. It is more important than money, work, even hurt - pretty much everything. I'll bet it hurts like buggery now. But it won't be quite so painful for ever. My heart goes out to you completely. Look after yourself, look after your children as well as you can. And remember that you tried your best. Some people simply can't be together. This is not a judgement on you. You worked at it and it wasn't possible.

01-26-2009, 03:47 PM	#8
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	Crapsticks. I can't believe I missed this thread till just now. Take care of yourself as best you can. You know we'll be here for you when you need us. Miss you. __________________ Strength does not come from how much weight you can lift, or how many miles you can run. It comes from knowing that you set a goal, and rose to the challenge. Strength comes from within.

01-26-2009, 11:24 PM	#9
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	The walls are clearing. The shelves are emptying. The boxes are accumulating. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

01-27-2009, 01:48 AM	#10
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Hugs, Big V. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

01-27-2009, 01:51 AM	#12
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	V, you are a good man in a tough situation. Seattle rains misery, but one day, when you're not looking for it, there will be a patch of blue there, and you'll see it, and appreciate it, and it will grow. Then it will just be rain, again. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

01-27-2009, 08:31 AM	#13
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Lots and lots of love V. You've given it out, you'll get it in return. Divorce isn't the end, even when it feels like it. It's a beginning. And the relationship you have with your children lasts forever.

01-27-2009, 01:57 PM	#14
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	Hang in there brother, we are all pulling for ya. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

01-27-2009, 02:09 PM	#15
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	It gets better pretty fast... and the new person that emerges will be fascinating.

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