Engagement ring besides diamond?

[monster]

You could get a bit of bark from the tree where the proposal was made, have it encased in glass and use that

[glatt]

Originally Posted by monster

But I really cannot believe that no-one feels that some brides may want to be the first to know and may want to break the news to their parents themselves.

I didn't ask the parents' permission before I proposed to my wife. Fuck that. What if they said "no?"

In fact, I never really proposed to her. We just talked about the future and agreed that we wanted to be together forever. After that conversation we both realized we were engaged at that point. We waited a while before we told anyone though.

[BigV]

Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

Mrs == Mistress

You misquote your source, Perry Winkle.

Mrs. 1582, abbreviation of mistress (q.v.), originally in all uses of that word. The pl. Mmes. is an abbreviation of Fr. mesdames, pl. of madame. Pronunciation "missis" was considered vulgar at least into 18c. The Mrs. "one's wife" is from 1920.

Emphasis mine, but correct. The last sentence states that the usage of the *phrase* "The Mrs." is from 1920. "The Mrs." is substantially different, implying possession, from "Mrs." which carries no such connotation.

[Cicero]

Originally Posted by monster

cicero, I'm not arguing with you, just stating that I believe your advice is bad. Of course I cannot say what would make her happy, that is why I am giving my opinion based on what would make me happy. Your opinion does not have to be the same. Also, the diamond is traditional. Not wanting diamond = shunning a tradition. My words, not the OP's, never claimed as the OP's. OK?

Or maybe he wanted to go another traditional route that she would like outside of the diamond, and that's why he was asking in the first place?!?

Dunno moving on!
:p

And of course some brides want to be the first to know! lol!

But some brides also like the grand conspiracy of their loved ones caring enough, and working behind the scenes before the question is finally made. It at least makes for a good story later. Nothing wrong with it. Gives the parents also the chance of passing the guy an heirloom, and a moment to decide if they are going to put a congrats. ad in the local paper. Some people like their parents involvement from day one and it is a great introduction for a new person to their family. There's lots of ways to do things...I'm just trying to give options here.

[kerosene]

I think my husband and I approached my parents together after we decided to get married. That was when we asked for a "blessing" from them...not permission, though.

[Cicero]

Yea...I think blessing is a better way to put that. Good point case!

[monster]

unless you're not religious, of course....

[Cloud]

that's a non-secular blessing sort of thing. Monster--are you saying our marriage customs are old fashioned? They probably are, come to think of it--there's certainly been a resurgence of wedding frenzy in recent years.

To my knowledge, it's common practice to ask the bride first, the approach the parents. It's more of a courtesy, really, because the couple may not feel obligated to bow to the parents objections, and just get married anyway, without the "blessing."

Oh, were we moving on?

[BigV]

How about diamonds from Canada, eh?

Ikuma, available at Ben Bridge.

From the frozen tundra of Canada’s Northwest Territories, we proudly present The Ikuma™ Diamond Collection by Ben Bridge Jeweler. Ikuma™ Diamonds one-third carat and larger, are independently graded by the American Gem Society (AGS) and are laser inscribed on the girdle edge with an individual laboratory report number for your assurance and verification of origin. All of our Canadian mined diamonds are cut and polished to the exacting standards of Ben Bridge Jeweler.

Not South Africa.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Does it come with a Tee shirt that say's, "NOT A BLOOD DIAMOND"?

[BigV]

dunno. yet.

[monster]

Originally Posted by Cloud

that's a non-secular blessing sort of thing. Monster--are you saying our marriage customs are old fashioned? They probably are, come to think of it--there's certainly been a resurgence of wedding frenzy in recent years.

To my knowledge, it's common practice to ask the bride first, the approach the parents. It's more of a courtesy, really, because the couple may not feel obligated to bow to the parents objections, and just get married anyway, without the "blessing."

Oh, were we moving on?

Erm yes I was (from my pov that it) and It is common practice in the UK to ask the other partner first, but the implication seemed to be that it is still common practice here to ask permission from the parents of the bride to be. Exactly my thinking -what are you gonna do if they say no or look distinctly uncomfortable? yes on........

The OP's big day is tomorrow -I wonder what plan he settled on? I wonder if he'll ever come back and tell us?

[Cloud]

Originally Posted by monster

. . . but the implication seemed to be that it is still common practice here to ask permission from the parents of the bride to be.

don't think it is--maybe in some ethnic groups, perhaps.

[Cicero]

I was just saying there are tons of options. Holy Crap!!
Gosh...Freaks!


I didn't say that was standard!

[Shawnee123]

Damn you Cic. Damn you to hell!