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01-12-2005, 04:08 PM | #16 |
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I suspect that just like kids of monogamous parents, your kids really don't want to think about you having sex, regardless of whom it's with. I think it'll be many more years before they become interested in your situation at all, let alone for sociological purposes.
I do have to ask, though: you mention all six of you in the basement, or plans lasting over the weekend. Where are the kids while these gatherings are actually happening? Asleep? |
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01-12-2005, 05:41 PM | #18 | |
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As for the kids, that's one of the things that is always lurking in the back of my head - a little dread that they're going to say something to the wrong kid, and then it's a frigging catastrophe. You never really know what goes on in a kids brain, though they know not to mention/talk about where people sleep... well, I guess the best I can do is hope that they understand the value of discression. Or they'll learn it, hm? |
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01-12-2005, 07:04 PM | #19 |
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I keep thinking "Fall of the Roman Empire" as I read this ...
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01-12-2005, 07:38 PM | #20 |
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[soapbox]Way too complicated. I really wouldn't want the kind of bond you're talking about outside of my marriage. There is too much potential trouble having sexual relationships with people you cannot know as well as your spouse. I don't see the problem for your child being that someone finds out that you're swingers. The problem is that your life-style creates very real dangers for your daughter. The woman from your triad turned out to be a nutjob but you're willing to bring four potential nuts into your life? Think about your child's safety, your first responsibility is to her.[/soapbox]
This is that strange case where I'm being completely serious.
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01-12-2005, 08:16 PM | #21 |
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Good point, griff.
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01-13-2005, 01:19 PM | #22 | |
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Anyway - psychosis aside - yeah, none of it is easy. But then, neither is marriage or parenthood. The way we're doing it now is friendship first. I like it, it's comfortable. |
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01-13-2005, 01:34 PM | #24 |
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well, i've got some thoughts on the issue, but i want to make sure that i really understand the dynamics involved first. so, if you would send me a video, or set up a decent webcam, i'll let you know what i think after i have time to, um... research.
bruce hasn't been here yet, so i thought i would beat him to the punch.
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I do protect my children. I've done everything that I can to keep them safe ... <i>and</i> made sure that they feel secure in telling me if something wrong happens to them - damage control. I know that she's getting to an age where these things need to be closer to the forefront in my little list of worries. . . I'm not going to shelter them to the point of keeping them in a bubble, either, though. I'm get the impression that overall, people tend toward the thought that there's some equation of alternative=dangerous. Why is that? The people I'm with now seem more normal than a lot of straight & narrow types I know. . . |
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Ain't gonna happen, but a good idea nonetheless! :p <small> 'sides, you prolly don't wanna see me nekkid. You like for your eyeballs to be unscathed, no? |
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01-13-2005, 02:29 PM | #28 |
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you just let me be the judge of what i want my eyeballs to take in.
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01-13-2005, 05:01 PM | #30 |
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And the insecurities you may feel in any of your complex adult intimate relationship(s) are here multiplied, at or in home, and I would worry- really magnified and sensed by the younguns. So respect, intimacy, and security for all the various participants are the issues for this monogomous reader. I know I could never achieve success in all of these areas if in your position.
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