Spare Kids - Page 2

BigV · 10-24-2007, 08:25 PM

Ali, don't call..

you can never get that farkin genie back in the bottle.

it should be a last resort.

call the mom first .. try try try..

my $0.02

monster · 10-24-2007, 09:00 PM

Ali, I think you rock for doing this -truly, not everyone one would, possibly most wouldn't. I agree with others -mom before social services, but why wait until Saturday? Has it always been this Saturday she's been due back or is it each week she says she'll be back at the weekend?

Aliantha · 10-24-2007, 09:10 PM

She called a couple of days ago and said she'd be back on Friday (tomorrow) or Saturday. I have doubts about whether she'll show up or not, but I'm hopeful that she will. I'll ask C for her number when he gets home tonight although he's not due home till fairly late himself.

V, I'd like to avoid getting the authorities involved if possible. Making a complaint formally is my last resort. I'd probably already have called them if that's the sort of person I was (I think...or else I'd have just stayed right out of it and let some other busy body worry over it) Incidentally, I do feel a bit like a busy body putting myself in this situation in some ways. Families are personal things and in general I think it's bad form to interfere in someone else's family. It just all sort of happened in this case though. One thing led to another so to speak.

Clodfobble · 10-24-2007, 09:33 PM

The kid was brave enough to admit to you that he couldn't handle it. It's not like you walked over there and took the kids into your house. You're not interfering, you're responding to his cry for help. If the mom has the audacity to suggest that you were interfering, then she really is fucked in the head.

Aliantha · 10-25-2007, 01:26 AM

Thanks Clod.

Aliantha · 10-25-2007, 06:33 PM

Update: She called last night but I didn't get to speak with her. She's still saying she'll be home either tonight (friday) or tomorrow. The catch now is that she's bringing her parents with her to stay with them till xmas. The parents are coming for a holiday.

I'm sure all the excitement of that will be conducive to study.

I guess I should just be glad that it looks like she's really coming this time.

Cloud · 10-25-2007, 07:08 PM

Can you offer the older boy(s) a quiet place to study at your house?

Aliantha · 10-25-2007, 07:11 PM

Well, I have two kids of my own who are the same age. The only main difference would be the lack of grandparents.

Anyway, they have libraries at school. I'm sure they could stay back and do the bulk of their study there. It's only another week and exams will be started, which means two or three weeks and it's all over.

I'm sure K wont want too much more input from me once she gets home anyway. At least she and two other adults will be there to do the household stuff and cook the meals. That's something that should really be good for them all.

Cloud · 10-25-2007, 08:23 PM

cross your fingers and hope she comes back in time, then.

ZenGum · 10-26-2007, 05:11 AM

If she doesn't, put the whole family up for auction on E-Bay.

Seriously, BigV has a good point.

Aliantha · 10-26-2007, 05:12 AM

lol...i might see if they'll take my two as well. Or chuck them in for the same price even.

monster · 10-27-2007, 03:27 PM

So, did she turn up?

Aliantha · 10-27-2007, 05:14 PM

Yep, she got home last night at about 7:30pm. I haven't spoken to her as yet, but I expect to later today.

TheMercenary · 10-27-2007, 08:18 PM

Well I would have to say that if you are friendly enough with her to have a glass of wine with her you should be able to give her a piece of your mind about everything that went down.

So let us know how it went.

Aliantha · 10-27-2007, 08:21 PM

I've decided to go have my say when all the kids are at school tomorrow. I don't think they need to hear what I have to say on the issue, and I doubt they'll need to hear what their mother has to say in response.

She did bring her parents back with her. I'm wondering now if she might have had a bit of a breakdown or something and that's why she stayed away so long. Anyway, we shall see.

10-24-2007, 08:25 PM	#16
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Ali, don't call.. you can never get that farkin genie back in the bottle. it should be a last resort. call the mom first .. try try try.. my $0.02 __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

10-24-2007, 09:00 PM	#17
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Ali, I think you rock for doing this -truly, not everyone one would, possibly most wouldn't. I agree with others -mom before social services, but why wait until Saturday? Has it always been this Saturday she's been due back or is it each week she says she'll be back at the weekend? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-24-2007, 09:10 PM	#18
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	She called a couple of days ago and said she'd be back on Friday (tomorrow) or Saturday. I have doubts about whether she'll show up or not, but I'm hopeful that she will. I'll ask C for her number when he gets home tonight although he's not due home till fairly late himself. V, I'd like to avoid getting the authorities involved if possible. Making a complaint formally is my last resort. I'd probably already have called them if that's the sort of person I was (I think...or else I'd have just stayed right out of it and let some other busy body worry over it) Incidentally, I do feel a bit like a busy body putting myself in this situation in some ways. Families are personal things and in general I think it's bad form to interfere in someone else's family. It just all sort of happened in this case though. One thing led to another so to speak. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-25-2007, 01:26 AM	#20
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Thanks Clod. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-25-2007, 06:33 PM	#21
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Update: She called last night but I didn't get to speak with her. She's still saying she'll be home either tonight (friday) or tomorrow. The catch now is that she's bringing her parents with her to stay with them till xmas. The parents are coming for a holiday. I'm sure all the excitement of that will be conducive to study. I guess I should just be glad that it looks like she's really coming this time. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-24-2007, 09:33 PM	#19
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	The kid was brave enough to admit to you that he couldn't handle it. It's not like you walked over there and took the kids into your house. You're not interfering, you're responding to his cry for help. If the mom has the audacity to suggest that you were interfering, then she really is fucked in the head.

10-25-2007, 07:08 PM	#22
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	Can you offer the older boy(s) a quiet place to study at your house? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

10-25-2007, 07:11 PM	#23
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Well, I have two kids of my own who are the same age. The only main difference would be the lack of grandparents. Anyway, they have libraries at school. I'm sure they could stay back and do the bulk of their study there. It's only another week and exams will be started, which means two or three weeks and it's all over. I'm sure K wont want too much more input from me once she gets home anyway. At least she and two other adults will be there to do the household stuff and cook the meals. That's something that should really be good for them all. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-25-2007, 08:23 PM	#24
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	cross your fingers and hope she comes back in time, then. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

10-26-2007, 05:11 AM	#25
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	If she doesn't, put the whole family up for auction on E-Bay. Seriously, BigV has a good point. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

10-26-2007, 05:12 AM	#26
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	lol...i might see if they'll take my two as well. Or chuck them in for the same price even. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-27-2007, 03:27 PM	#27
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	So, did she turn up? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-27-2007, 05:14 PM	#28
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yep, she got home last night at about 7:30pm. I haven't spoken to her as yet, but I expect to later today. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-27-2007, 08:18 PM	#29
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	Well I would have to say that if you are friendly enough with her to have a glass of wine with her you should be able to give her a piece of your mind about everything that went down. So let us know how it went. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

10-27-2007, 08:21 PM	#30
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I've decided to go have my say when all the kids are at school tomorrow. I don't think they need to hear what I have to say on the issue, and I doubt they'll need to hear what their mother has to say in response. She did bring her parents back with her. I'm wondering now if she might have had a bit of a breakdown or something and that's why she stayed away so long. Anyway, we shall see. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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