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02-16-2012, 07:39 PM | #16 |
barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy.
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Whats that saying?
"In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson."
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02-17-2012, 01:46 PM | #17 | |
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But I have to say, just because you're trying to make improvements to behavior and conduct...not everybody immediately appreciates that. I've found that what is 100% acceptable in the workplace, and in fact straight by-the-book, can somehow be "frustrating" to spouses. The thing is, I'm not trying to "trick" anybody--I'm perfectly genuine in my effort. I'm just doing what I think has been proven to be best practices. I hope it works out for you.
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02-17-2012, 03:14 PM | #18 |
Wearing her bitch boots
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Yay F3!! It really is rather freeing to realize it's perfectly fine not to care what someone else thinks of you.
As I tell abuse victims frequently...you are under no obligation whatsoever to explain, defend, justify, apologize or otherwise discuss your feelings, opinions, or wishes.
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02-17-2012, 06:02 PM | #19 | |
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02-18-2012, 03:48 AM | #20 |
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Just don't schedule a "performance review" during post-coital snuggling.
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Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl. |
02-18-2012, 04:52 AM | #21 |
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That you think it would not be positive is shurely a reflection on your performance!
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02-18-2012, 05:37 AM | #22 |
Doctor Wtf
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The paperwork would spoil the mood.
Really, I was just raising the point (ahem) that the office and the family have many differences.
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Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl. |
02-18-2012, 08:19 AM | #23 |
I hear them call the tide
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hope this helps...
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02-18-2012, 10:46 AM | #24 |
~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~
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Good on you foot.
Zen, your post was totally unexpected. I chuckled. |
02-28-2012, 08:29 AM | #25 |
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well, i am just going to make a wild guess: your lying out of your ass.
possibly as someone coming out of a marriage broken by lack of mutual reaffirmation being the broken brick in the tower... i am somewhat biased to see that as a main problem, but... it seems to me that the only reason you stop caring what she thinks of you would be a defense against not liking what she thinks of you. if instead of blaming you she'd change her tone to a detailed ongoing thesis about how awesome you are and how much she admires you, your newly built wall will crumble. |
02-28-2012, 08:57 AM | #26 | |
To shreds, you say?
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02-28-2012, 09:40 AM | #27 |
Only looks like a disaster tourist
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Except of the Cellar.
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09-21-2012, 10:53 AM | #28 |
To shreds, you say?
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So she has put her foot down and is actively investigating finding a marriage counselor or mediator. We have begun a civilized discussion of going our separate ways and how that might be accomplished with minimum upset to the kids.
I suspect this will take a while.
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09-21-2012, 01:48 PM | #29 |
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09-21-2012, 04:30 PM | #30 |
I hear them call the tide
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I'm waiting for the beaver ephipany -not sure if your or hers......
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