Try Not To Get Sick During What is Effectively a Holiday Weekend - Page 17

monster · 10-24-2009, 03:15 PM

What she said. Such a horrible time for you. I'm sorry.

Griff · 10-24-2009, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by limey

Wolf, every time I see you've posted in this thread my heart gives a lurch. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Exactly my reaction. Hang in there dear.

richlevy · 10-24-2009, 05:05 PM

I'm very sorry to hear this. It's still good to hear that the hospice staff are on the job.

glatt · 10-24-2009, 08:22 PM

oh wolf, I'm sorry you have to be going through this.

Pie · 10-24-2009, 08:26 PM

Unfortunately, it seems like we all have to go through this sooner or later. Unless you were born an orphan and married an orphan.

Hang in there, wolf.

wolf · 10-25-2009, 12:59 PM

A care aide was just out to bathe momwolf. She also helped me to change momwolf's brief. In doing so we made what is a pretty scary discovery. There was fecal material in the brief ... as you may recall, momwolf has a colostomy.

The hospice nurse has been informed of this, didn't offer any suggestions in terms of what it might be. The nurse will be out tomorrow morning to see momwolf.

The care aide was great though, momwolf roused a bit during the sponge bath, but not in any significant degree.

Things have moved so fast. She was up and talking on Thursday, and although not entirely with us, was able to celebrate her birthday with siswolf and I on Friday. Perhaps this is what they talk about ... that people try to make it through some milestone date, and then things just start happening more quickly from then on.

limey · 10-25-2009, 02:04 PM

I have seen this when I worked as a carer in an old folks' home. One old lady had a visit from each of her three children (one lived abroad) and then simply stopped eating and faded away. Perhaps that is not a very comforting thing to say, but perhaps momwolf knows what's best?
All I can say is that I know how hard it is to watch your parent suffer knowing you can do nothing to help. I wish you and your sister the strength to get through this. Lean on your friends.

richlevy · 10-25-2009, 02:17 PM

Bless those folks. I had to give my father-in-law a sponge bath when we went down to Florida to bring him back here. He had been living with someone who was also declining and neither of them had caregivers.

On the one hand I'm proud to have saved my wife the experience. On the other hand it was pretty awful.

wolf · 10-27-2009, 08:00 AM

It's over. momwolf passed away yesterday evening. She was "sleeping" (which is a euphemism for was just barely semi-conscious). It was peaceful, if you don't count the last two weeks.

siswolf did not arrive until several hours after "it" happened, which is probably for the better. I waited until after siswolf had gotten her to make the phone call to the Hospice on-call service. The nurse they sent out was a complete ditz, no apparent compassion, kept complaining about how late it was, and hit us with a very perfunctory "sorry about your loss" before going straight on to "do you have any of the narcotics left over, I have to destroy them."

Everybody else had been lovely. This will go on the comment card.

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Thought about this, I think that there will be further adventures related to dealing with the funeral industry, so I'm going to start a separate thread.

capnhowdy · 10-27-2009, 11:17 AM

Please accept my deepest sympathy. May you be blessed with strength in this time of sorrow.

10-24-2009, 03:15 PM	#241
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	What she said. Such a horrible time for you. I'm sorry. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-24-2009, 05:05 PM	#243
richlevy King Of Wishful Thinking Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Philadelphia Suburbs Posts: 6,669	I'm very sorry to hear this. It's still good to hear that the hospice staff are on the job. __________________ Exercise your rights and remember your obligations - VOTE! I have always believed that hope is that stubborn thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us so long as we have the courage to keep reaching, to keep working, to keep fighting. -- Barack Hussein Obama

10-24-2009, 08:26 PM	#245
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	Unfortunately, it seems like we all have to go through this sooner or later. Unless you were born an orphan and married an orphan. Hang in there, wolf. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

10-25-2009, 12:59 PM	#246
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	A care aide was just out to bathe momwolf. She also helped me to change momwolf's brief. In doing so we made what is a pretty scary discovery. There was fecal material in the brief ... as you may recall, momwolf has a colostomy. The hospice nurse has been informed of this, didn't offer any suggestions in terms of what it might be. The nurse will be out tomorrow morning to see momwolf. The care aide was great though, momwolf roused a bit during the sponge bath, but not in any significant degree. Things have moved so fast. She was up and talking on Thursday, and although not entirely with us, was able to celebrate her birthday with siswolf and I on Friday. Perhaps this is what they talk about ... that people try to make it through some milestone date, and then things just start happening more quickly from then on. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

10-25-2009, 02:04 PM	#247
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	I have seen this when I worked as a carer in an old folks' home. One old lady had a visit from each of her three children (one lived abroad) and then simply stopped eating and faded away. Perhaps that is not a very comforting thing to say, but perhaps momwolf knows what's best? All I can say is that I know how hard it is to watch your parent suffer knowing you can do nothing to help. I wish you and your sister the strength to get through this. Lean on your friends. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

10-24-2009, 08:22 PM	#244
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	oh wolf, I'm sorry you have to be going through this.

10-25-2009, 02:17 PM	#248
richlevy King Of Wishful Thinking Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Philadelphia Suburbs Posts: 6,669	Bless those folks. I had to give my father-in-law a sponge bath when we went down to Florida to bring him back here. He had been living with someone who was also declining and neither of them had caregivers. On the one hand I'm proud to have saved my wife the experience. On the other hand it was pretty awful. __________________ Exercise your rights and remember your obligations - VOTE! I have always believed that hope is that stubborn thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us so long as we have the courage to keep reaching, to keep working, to keep fighting. -- Barack Hussein Obama

10-27-2009, 08:00 AM	#249
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	It's over. momwolf passed away yesterday evening. She was "sleeping" (which is a euphemism for was just barely semi-conscious). It was peaceful, if you don't count the last two weeks. siswolf did not arrive until several hours after "it" happened, which is probably for the better. I waited until after siswolf had gotten her to make the phone call to the Hospice on-call service. The nurse they sent out was a complete ditz, no apparent compassion, kept complaining about how late it was, and hit us with a very perfunctory "sorry about your loss" before going straight on to "do you have any of the narcotics left over, I have to destroy them." Everybody else had been lovely. This will go on the comment card. ______________________________________ Thought about this, I think that there will be further adventures related to dealing with the funeral industry, so I'm going to start a separate thread. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

10-27-2009, 11:17 AM	#250
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	Please accept my deepest sympathy. May you be blessed with strength in this time of sorrow. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

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