The 24 hour engagement. - Page 13

xoxoxoBruce · 05-24-2009, 04:00 AM

So do we, November 11th we honor veterans, but Monday we honor those that died in the wars.

DanaC · 05-24-2009, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Ah, thank you. We do all that in November, when it's suitably gloomy.

We have a Bank Holiday on Monday because it's the end of May.
It's usually spent complaining about the weather.

And if it's sunny, we spend the entire weekend dicussing the fact that it isn't raining.

Kaliayev · 05-24-2009, 09:29 AM

Or stuck in traffic, trying to get to some tourist trap on the coast.

monster · 05-24-2009, 10:17 AM

memorial day weekend is all about the outdoor pools opening

Sundae · 05-24-2009, 10:31 AM

Taking advantage of the drift... we are having cracking Bank Holiday weekend weather. I took some pics with blue sky in to prove it (Aylesbury thread).

Kaliayev · 05-24-2009, 11:12 AM

I've used the weather to hang out some washing to dry.

Rock and roll lifestyle...damn right.

disenchanted · 05-27-2009, 02:09 AM

and here comes the next phase in the stages of loss: hello, anger.

limey · 05-27-2009, 06:49 AM

So sorry, disenchanted.

classicman · 05-27-2009, 08:11 AM

Take that energy and use it constructively. Thats all I can offer. Build something demolish something chop firewood work out... create, destroy, construct or repair. It keeps your mind and body active.

good luck.

Pico and ME · 05-27-2009, 09:39 AM

In this situation, anger can be good. Its a form of self-preservation for the psyche.

capnhowdy · 05-27-2009, 04:00 PM

I say grab another pony and saddle up. Don't waste time wanting someone who doesn't want you.

disenchanted · 05-28-2009, 12:19 AM

As soon as I think one thing, she sends me a text message out of the blue that makes me reconsider everything I thought I knew.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-28-2009, 12:24 AM

Head games?

disenchanted · 05-29-2009, 02:28 AM

So I sent her a text at lunch saying "Do you have some free time this weekend so we can meet somewhere to talk?"

Her response was that she was busy, with the added "You need to give me more time and have a little patience."

I don't know what to make of that in the grand scheme of how I'm supposed to live my life, other than "Air traffic control to airplane such-and-such. We're going to need you to stay in a holding pattern for a while." Fuel be damned, right?

I figure the answer is something like "Just try to live normal, if she calls, she calls, deal with that as it happens."

If it's well and truly over, then, I know I'm going to go into a period (of ill-defined length) where dating isn't part of the equation. Granted, I thought this was the one, so ratios with past relationship lengths might not apply, but I'm sticking with my concept of "it'd be ridiculously unfair to drag this shit into a new relationship"

So if she gets back in contact, I'll have to assess that as it is.

Beestie · 05-29-2009, 06:37 AM

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Originally Posted by disenchanted

If it's well and truly over...

I can help you with that: it is.

You gave it your best shot and she didn't bite. She obviously likes something about you but its not nearly enough for her to commit without reservation. You do not have the strength or the will to break it off and she doesn't have the guts or the decency to cut you loose to recover and move on. So that leaves you in an indefinite emotional holding pattern. You cannot live your life like that.

When a girl won't see you but asks you to be patient, you are dead in the water.

I wish the news were better and I do sympathise - we've all been in that spot and it sucks mastadon balls but there's no escaping the reality of it.

Take the keys away from your heart and give them back to your brain and ignore the pleas coming from the trunk. Make a U-Turn and get the heck outta there.

You will look back on this when you end up with the right girl and say "dayum that would have been a disaster." Trust me on that.

05-24-2009, 04:00 AM	#1
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	So do we, November 11th we honor veterans, but Monday we honor those that died in the wars. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-24-2009, 10:17 AM	#4
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	memorial day weekend is all about the outdoor pools opening __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

05-24-2009, 10:31 AM	#5
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Taking advantage of the drift... we are having cracking Bank Holiday weekend weather. I took some pics with blue sky in to prove it (Aylesbury thread). __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

05-27-2009, 06:49 AM	#8
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	So sorry, disenchanted. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

05-27-2009, 08:11 AM	#9
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Take that energy and use it constructively. Thats all I can offer. Build something demolish something chop firewood work out... create, destroy, construct or repair. It keeps your mind and body active. good luck. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

05-24-2009, 09:29 AM	#3
Kaliayev Magnificent Bastard Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 216	Or stuck in traffic, trying to get to some tourist trap on the coast.

05-24-2009, 11:12 AM	#6
Kaliayev Magnificent Bastard Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 216	I've used the weather to hang out some washing to dry. Rock and roll lifestyle...damn right.

05-27-2009, 02:09 AM	#7
disenchanted Resident President Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 81	and here comes the next phase in the stages of loss: hello, anger.

05-27-2009, 09:39 AM	#10
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	In this situation, anger can be good. Its a form of self-preservation for the psyche.

05-27-2009, 04:00 PM	#11
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	I say grab another pony and saddle up. Don't waste time wanting someone who doesn't want you. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please. Last edited by capnhowdy; 05-27-2009 at 04:01 PM. Reason: punct

05-28-2009, 12:19 AM	#12
disenchanted Resident President Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 81	As soon as I think one thing, she sends me a text message out of the blue that makes me reconsider everything I thought I knew.

05-28-2009, 12:24 AM	#13
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Head games? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-29-2009, 02:28 AM	#14
disenchanted Resident President Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 81	So I sent her a text at lunch saying "Do you have some free time this weekend so we can meet somewhere to talk?" Her response was that she was busy, with the added "You need to give me more time and have a little patience." I don't know what to make of that in the grand scheme of how I'm supposed to live my life, other than "Air traffic control to airplane such-and-such. We're going to need you to stay in a holding pattern for a while." Fuel be damned, right? I figure the answer is something like "Just try to live normal, if she calls, she calls, deal with that as it happens." If it's well and truly over, then, I know I'm going to go into a period (of ill-defined length) where dating isn't part of the equation. Granted, I thought this was the one, so ratios with past relationship lengths might not apply, but I'm sticking with my concept of "it'd be ridiculously unfair to drag this shit into a new relationship" So if she gets back in contact, I'll have to assess that as it is.

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