The 24 hour engagement. - Page 12

lumberjim · 05-22-2009, 08:47 PM

yeah...i wasn't complaining about it, btw....if you want to tell us about your difficulties, then cool. many people here will read it all and attempt to commiserate/console/feel you.

Shawnee123 · 05-22-2009, 08:54 PM

I'm not complaining about it either...just pointing out that life's experiences are unique for each of us, and we will all have different perspectives. My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know?

xoxoxoBruce · 05-23-2009, 12:49 AM

I wouldn't be so sure he didn't weigh the input before making a decision how to proceed.
I'm glad he was able to make up his mind and do it.

classicman · 05-23-2009, 12:55 AM

He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her.

limey · 05-23-2009, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by classicman

He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her.

What he said ...

Sundae · 05-23-2009, 04:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know?

Unless you have a homeless guy mooching off you

Which proves your point - it's very different when you are the one in the situation. Life is much less logical once emotions are involved.

Dis - let this draw a line under it, okay?
If she does not answer, don't read any more into it. Painful as it is - excrutiatingly, stomach-punchingly, got you sitting all night at the bar painful, I remember - this is still only temporary. Without further input from her it will very gradually hurt less. Which isn't what you want at all, but is the only consolation I can offer.

disenchanted · 05-23-2009, 04:23 AM

sundae girl: I hear you. Let's call it "Nobody gets all the answers they want". It ain't closure, it ain't clarity. But if this is the last interaction, at least I can tell myself that I tried to keep the lines of communication open. She doesn't answer, well, there's not much I can do about that. As it was said well by BigV earlier in the thread, I can't act for both of us.

DucksNuts · 05-23-2009, 06:37 AM

You can pissed (drunk) with me n watch shitty movies if ya want?

Perry Winkle · 05-23-2009, 08:36 AM

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I was freaking out thinking that if I didn't ask soon my chance would be gone.

I've felt this same thing. It's not a good indicator. If a relationship has an imminent expiration date, then you don't want to go down that path. That's starting out with one foot in the grave.

Shawnee123 · 05-23-2009, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Unless you have a homeless guy mooching off you

Which proves your point - it's very different when you are the one in the situation. Life is much less logical once emotions are involved.

Zinngggggg...

So true.

BigV · 05-23-2009, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by disenchanted

So I allowed myself to call her. It was after she would've been done with work, so it was 50/50 if she'd answer. Ended up leaving a voicemail.

In under 23 seconds, an amalgamation of apologizing for the way things happened last weekend, letting her know I'm thinking of her, and saying "please let me know when you're ready to talk."

Dunno if it was a good idea or not, but in the big question of whether the door is open or not, I at least had my chance to say "Hey, there is a door."

Good for you.

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thanks daff0dil and bigv for the longer responses and the reassuring words from others. Sundae Girl, I'm hoping your wrong, but thank you for looking out for the wellbeing of a stranger...time will tell.

You're welcome. I wish you well.

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And with that, I'm going to go distract myself for the long weekend so I don't sit here trying to rationalize why it'd be ok to call just one more time or whatever.

This is an OUTSTANDING idea. I hope you don't get this feedback until midweek!

capnhowdy · 05-23-2009, 02:17 PM

Interesting. Also entertaining. I find it odd that the people with the most "sound advice" are usually the ones from failed relationships.

Carry on.

Pie · 05-23-2009, 02:32 PM

Well, that would make sense, wouldn't it? I don't have much to add, since the last time I was dumped was in 1991.

Sundae · 05-23-2009, 04:11 PM

Who you going to ask about recovering froma serious accident?
That's right, the chap with the scars.
Now you might not take safety advice from him, or even tips on a good night out, but he knows what he's talking about when it comes to cuts and bruises.

If LJ and Jinx were asking for advice (as if) mine would be noticeable by its absence.

Dis - do I get the feeling you are from this side of the pond? Or is it a holiday for the Merkins this weekend too?

Pico and ME · 05-23-2009, 04:15 PM

All I remember is looking for love really really sucks. I wasted soooo much time doing that. Its either there or it isnt.

05-22-2009, 08:47 PM	#166
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	yeah...i wasn't complaining about it, btw....if you want to tell us about your difficulties, then cool. many people here will read it all and attempt to commiserate/console/feel you. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-22-2009, 08:54 PM	#167
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I'm not complaining about it either...just pointing out that life's experiences are unique for each of us, and we will all have different perspectives. My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

05-23-2009, 12:49 AM	#168
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I wouldn't be so sure he didn't weigh the input before making a decision how to proceed. I'm glad he was able to make up his mind and do it. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-23-2009, 12:55 AM	#169
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

05-23-2009, 02:17 PM	#177
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	Interesting. Also entertaining. I find it odd that the people with the most "sound advice" are usually the ones from failed relationships. Carry on. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

05-23-2009, 04:23 AM	#172
disenchanted Resident President Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 81	sundae girl: I hear you. Let's call it "Nobody gets all the answers they want". It ain't closure, it ain't clarity. But if this is the last interaction, at least I can tell myself that I tried to keep the lines of communication open. She doesn't answer, well, there's not much I can do about that. As it was said well by BigV earlier in the thread, I can't act for both of us.

05-23-2009, 06:37 AM	#173
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	You can pissed (drunk) with me n watch shitty movies if ya want?

05-23-2009, 02:32 PM	#178
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	Well, that would make sense, wouldn't it? I don't have much to add, since the last time I was dumped was in 1991. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

05-23-2009, 04:11 PM	#179
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Who you going to ask about recovering froma serious accident? That's right, the chap with the scars. Now you might not take safety advice from him, or even tips on a good night out, but he knows what he's talking about when it comes to cuts and bruises. If LJ and Jinx were asking for advice (as if) mine would be noticeable by its absence. Dis - do I get the feeling you are from this side of the pond? Or is it a holiday for the Merkins this weekend too? __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

05-23-2009, 04:15 PM	#180
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	All I remember is looking for love really really sucks. I wasted soooo much time doing that. Its either there or it isnt.

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