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08-10-2006, 12:22 PM | #1 |
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tired of drama
Did you ever just wish your life was normal?? I am so emotionally exhausted these days from stuff that is going on with my boyfriend that I just want to sleep for days. I find myself on the brink of tears half the time because I won't let myself cry when I need to so it creeps out at other times.
Wow - I just read that and realized how it sounds. Before I get questions, no he hasn't done anything to me, it is just the situation that he is in and the fact that I am the only one who is making every effort to help him. Even his mother won't do anything. She isn't even nice to him on the phone and constantly bitches at him. I wasn't trained to be a laywer!! I don't know what the crap is going on anymore! It's like I am in this big whirlwind that I can't get out of!! |
08-10-2006, 01:28 PM | #2 |
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Maybe you should see a doctor? I recall a thread about your boyfriend and he's in jail, right? It must be hellish on you. So overwhelmed. If you don't have money there are Crisis Centers in every American city. Go there. What are you doing currently to keep yourself putting one foot in front of the other?
My thoughts are with you.
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08-10-2006, 01:56 PM | #3 |
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Currently, the only thing that is keeping me doing all this stuff is that if I don't, no one else will. No one cares enough apparently. I actually just got a letter from him that helped ALOT.
It's just that it seems like the world just wants him to rot in there when he should've been out last week. No one is really helping me at all. I never believed people when they said that the legal system sucks, but man does it ever! Meanwhile the junkie that lives next door to him that was on probation for drugs got caught with paraphanalia (sp?) in a well known durg neighborhood and was in there less than 5 days. Thanks for your thoughts |
08-10-2006, 05:45 PM | #4 |
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You're on a rollercoaster. First, you are despondent and overwhelmed, then, you get a letter from him and you're fine and it's all worth it.
Good luck.
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08-11-2006, 02:31 AM | #5 | |
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08-12-2006, 08:14 AM | #7 |
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I have backed away from a few men who were in my life and I'm just chilling. Healing up. It feels strange not to be at someone's beck and call, and have to shoulder their problems, with no appreciation.
But you could try it. Break away for a month. From where I'm sitting, I recommend it. I even feel a quilty pleasure from so much freedom!
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08-12-2006, 08:17 AM | #8 | |
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08-12-2006, 08:39 AM | #9 |
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You have to come to grips with reality.
You can promise, threaten, cajole, wave your naughty bits or bake him cookies, but there is no future "we" without him doing his part. You're being ready, willing and able just isn't enough, if he can't get his shit together. He's got to want it....he's got to do it. Remember the third part ......the part about being smart enough to tell the difference between the things you can and cannot do anything about. Knitting, goldfish training or learning the Bagpipes, will keep you occupied in the meantime.... it'll also teach you patience.
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08-14-2006, 08:52 AM | #10 | ||
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The basic problem now is that he is still in jail. He should have been out on August 1st, but no one can tell me why he is there. I am not paying hundreds of dollars for a lawyer, but from what I can see, that is the only way to get anything done. The pubic defenders office is unresponsive. His Parole Officer won't talk to me and the judge hasn't gotten back to me from whan I called on Friday. This is the situation that is bothering me. It just seems that when I get an inch, I am knocked back a couple of feet. The thing that I am finding the hardest to deal with is that no one seems to fucking care, but me. |
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08-14-2006, 09:48 AM | #13 |
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Why has his family abandoned him? He screw them over once too many, or, are they just 'bad' people?
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08-14-2006, 10:00 AM | #14 |
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From what I gather, they just aren't the supportive type, I don't think they abandodned him, I don't think they were ever really around. I never met most of them. His mother is just a bitch. No matter what he does, she always bitches at him. She bitches cause he didn't make dinner, then she'll bitch because he didn't make the right thing, then bitch because he didn't do the dishes.
It just seems like a bad environment all the way around. |
08-14-2006, 11:58 AM | #15 |
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I have chosen not to play games any longer, I give warning then stop.
There are a lot fewer people in my life now but I am much happier! |
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