Need some help

[Clodfobble]

I'd like to add one other thing: the minute he asks you for money to help pay for fines, ankle payments, etc., you need to take another very hard look at things. Sounds like the hurtful words were accidental (and also very typical-male, I've learned not to ask questions like "Did you think about me?" because I never like the answer...), so he may end up being a good guy who has just had some tough times; only you can know for sure. But asking you for money would be a huge red flag, so don't rationalize it if it happens.