Who's bed have your boots been under? - Page 2

MaggieL · 06-09-2006, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin

I dont feel like thinking back over the past 10 years and analyzing my bad choices...

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Originally Posted by marichiko

...really don't feel like going back in the memory banks...

Hmmm...lots of cognitive dissonance out there amongst the senor players. :-)

DucksNuts · 06-09-2006, 07:39 PM

Ohhh thanks Lookout, I was actually thinking about starting a thread like this, but couldnt figure out whether to put ages in or not.

I dont have a definitive number, so I took a guess, I am hoping it was on the generous side. :p

06-09-2006, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieL

Hmmm...lots of cognitive dissonance out there amongst the senor players. :-)

I don't think its so much cognitive dissonance, as embarassment about that bartender I slept with once back in S.F. in '89 when I was on a convention out in Cali that year. Then there's the guy I met in treatment, etc.,etc. Shit! Have I ever been a slut! I wanna say the real number was about 5 - the first guy I was engaged to at 19, the guy I actually married at 23, the guy I got engaged to briefly after my divorce and the ax murderer.

Alas, there were far more than that, and it is shame rather than dissonance which prevents me from digging back in memory to give a more exact accounting.

jonesieQ · 06-09-2006, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by marichiko

Alas, there were far more than that, and it is shame rather than dissonance which prevents me from digging back in memory to give a more exact accounting.

Think about all the things humans do that are TRULY shameful. They lie, cheat, judge, destroy, harm, kill, etc. Don't kick yourself for needing & giving the comfort of human contact. You know how some folks, right after the death of a loved one, want/need to make love? So it must be instinctual to procreate in the face of death...makes sense, because the act of sex is life giving. So sex is about survival, on a primal level.

It's also about love for many, and the search for it. And there's nothing wrong with wanting that.

I'm with you and others about some of the bad choices I made...I may feel some regret but not shame. And most of the regret is that I couldn't see through my own BOS clearly enough to make better choices.

Cut yourself some slack here, and get that little nun out of your head!

lookout123 · 06-10-2006, 12:01 AM

i'll admit it - i'm one of the 91+ sluts. not an issue i'm proud of really, but whatever. the truth is I don't regret a single one of them. not because i want that notch in the bedpost but because each and every one of them holds some different value or special spot in my memory. they were all different, each taught me something, and only one of them thinks i'm walking slime. as far as i know, anyway.

MaggieL · 06-10-2006, 07:18 AM

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Originally Posted by marichiko

Alas, there were far more than that, and it is shame rather than dissonance which prevents me from digging back in memory to give a more exact accounting.

Ghod, I wasn't trying to peddle shame...and anybody who hasn't made a few mistakes in this department isn't really playing the game at all.

I confronted that "donwanna think about some of that" feeling even though there's not as many lines in my logbook. But looking back in bulk, chances are, either a particular hookup was a mistake and regrettable on that account, or it wasn't but it's over now and subject to regret that it's over.

But that's no reason to not at least embrace the good times...and any lessons learned from the not-so-good ones. :-)

wolf · 06-10-2006, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by marichiko

I don't think its so much cognitive dissonance, as embarassment about that bartender I slept with once back in S.F. in '89 when I was on a convention out in Cali that year. Then there's the guy I met in treatment, etc.,etc. Shit! Have I ever been a slut! I wanna say the real number was about 5 - the first guy I was engaged to at 19, the guy I actually married at 23, the guy I got engaged to briefly after my divorce and the ax murderer.

Alas, there were far more than that, and it is shame rather than dissonance which prevents me from digging back in memory to give a more exact accounting.

It's a miracle!! Your memory is back!!

Stormieweather · 06-10-2006, 12:24 PM

I decline to give a number in this thread on the grounds that it may incriminate me.

06-10-2006, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by wolf

It's a miracle!! Your memory is back!!

My long term memory was never in question. Its my short term memory, especially my spatial memory. As far as I recall, I've slept with only one man since the ax murderer whom I met at the height of the CO poisoning. :p

At any rate, I became sexually active at age 18, I'm now 54, which makes - God help me - 36 years. My top end estimate is 30 lovers which gives me an average of less than one a year, so I guess I'm not as much of a slut as I think.

Undertoad · 06-09-2006, 01:38 PM

I edited the poll to include the zero option, but when I saved it, the zero option was removed. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that the software thinks "0" means no input in that field. I changed it to "none" and that worked.

laebedahs · 06-09-2006, 09:05 PM

I'll consider "lovers" synonymous with "people you've had sex with".

So that makes.... 7. Lucky number 7!

Ibby · 06-10-2006, 12:30 PM

Who are the virgins?

Skunks · 06-10-2006, 01:31 PM

I think this survey should be followed up with a second one of maybe increments of 3 from 1 to 30; it would be the more interesting breakdown, and the data from this survey could just be added on.

Although ideally it would be a full survey, including age, producing the Grand Numerical Average Of Lovers Per Year Of Cellarites.

MaggieL · 06-10-2006, 08:33 PM

http://orderoftheserpentine.com

DucksNuts · 06-11-2006, 01:13 AM

I'm intrigued with the idea of a *referral hookup*...what is that??

View Poll Results: How many lovers have you had?
none	6	10.71%
1-10	33	58.93%
11-20	3	5.36%
21-30	5	8.93%
31-40	4	7.14%
41-50	1	1.79%
51-60	1	1.79%
61-70	0	0%
71-80	0	0%
81-90	0	0%
91+	3	5.36%
Voters: 56. You may not vote on this poll

06-10-2006, 12:01 AM	#5
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i'll admit it - i'm one of the 91+ sluts. not an issue i'm proud of really, but whatever. the truth is I don't regret a single one of them. not because i want that notch in the bedpost but because each and every one of them holds some different value or special spot in my memory. they were all different, each taught me something, and only one of them thinks i'm walking slime. as far as i know, anyway. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

06-10-2006, 12:24 PM	#8
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	I decline to give a number in this thread on the grounds that it may incriminate me. __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

06-10-2006, 12:30 PM	#12
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Who are the virgins? __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

06-10-2006, 08:33 PM	#14
MaggieL in the Hour of Scampering Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Jeffersonville PA (15 mi NW of Philadelphia) Posts: 4,060	http://orderoftheserpentine.com __________________ "Neither can his Mind be thought to be in Tune,whose words do jarre; nor his reason In frame, whose sentence is preposterous..."

06-09-2006, 07:39 PM	#2
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Ohhh thanks Lookout, I was actually thinking about starting a thread like this, but couldnt figure out whether to put ages in or not. I dont have a definitive number, so I took a guess, I am hoping it was on the generous side. :p

06-09-2006, 01:38 PM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I edited the poll to include the zero option, but when I saved it, the zero option was removed. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that the software thinks "0" means no input in that field. I changed it to "none" and that worked.

06-09-2006, 09:05 PM	#11
laebedahs Abecedarian Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 172	I'll consider "lovers" synonymous with "people you've had sex with". So that makes.... 7. Lucky number 7!

06-10-2006, 01:31 PM	#13
Skunks I thought I changed this. Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: western nowhere, ny Posts: 412	I think this survey should be followed up with a second one of maybe increments of 3 from 1 to 30; it would be the more interesting breakdown, and the data from this survey could just be added on. Although ideally it would be a full survey, including age, producing the Grand Numerical Average Of Lovers Per Year Of Cellarites.

06-11-2006, 01:13 AM	#15
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	I'm intrigued with the idea of a referral hookup...what is that??

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