The Sex Thread - Page 66

smurfalicious · 08-28-2007, 01:51 PM

Good point re: meds. I was on an antidepressant for a short time and even though my doctor insisted that it could not affect my sex drive, it did. Not only that, but it decreased sensitivity to the point where climax was not possible. I stopped taking the meds (and going to that doctor), and it all went back to normal.

Things get better with age. I'm 31 now and am starting to notice a huge increase in drive and pleasure.

The lover makes all the difference in the world, though it's not always for lack of trying that some are not as successful.

I cannot orgasm during cunnilingus. I used to, before I gave birth. But since then, lo those 8 + years ago, I think I've come maybe twice that way. I don't think I have any hang-ups that would be preventing an orgasm. It's a mystery.

My emotional state greatly affects my ability to orgasm. Can't help it, I'm a chick, gotta have that emotional connection... unless it's the rare occasion it's PURE lust.

I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know. Maybe she's just one of those women who can't orgasm. It happens. Not that I'm suggesting you give up.

I've heard of sex counselors helping people.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2007, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by smurfalicious

I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know.

How about if your perception of what it should be is skewed? Descriptions from peers and romance novels can be misleading.

Probably the best bet is not to worry, enjoy, and do it till ya can't or don't wanna anymore.

smurfalicious · 08-28-2007, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

How about if your perception of what it should be is skewed?

I thought of that - that's why my response was somewhat noncommittal. I'm just saying that sex can be immensely pleasurable and not produce orgasm, but I think that most people know, if instinctively, that they have experienced an orgasm. There are always exceptions.

That being said, I'm suddenly having a very difficult time concentrating on work right now...

Perry Winkle · 08-28-2007, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Probably the best bet is not to worry, enjoy, and do it till ya can't or don't wanna anymore.

That's my plan. I need to figure out how to mitigate the neck cramps though...

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2007, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

That's my plan. I need to figure out how to mitigate the neck cramps though...

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Use pillows and props, get creative with the furniture, so you are both comfortable and relaxed. Work this out together, it's a team sport.

Perry Winkle · 08-28-2007, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

Is she on any medications?

Birth control pills. Can't recall the flavor at the moment.

Happy Monkey · 08-28-2007, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

Birth control pills. Can't recall the flavor at the moment.

Popped Cherry?

Deuce · 08-28-2007, 04:43 PM

"Cherry Pop"

limey · 08-28-2007, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Deuce

"Cherry Pop"

Tee hee

(nice to see ya here, Deuce!)

Shawnee123 · 08-29-2007, 07:57 AM

One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing.

Cicero · 08-30-2007, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing.

LOL!!!!!!

Now on with it folks............I've got some learning to do here.

Shawnee123 · 08-30-2007, 02:34 PM

It seems to be a difficult point to get across. Now, let's all say it together...

(Believe me, we'll ALL be much happier.)

Cicero · 08-30-2007, 02:54 PM

I didn't know those things were "smudge-proof" Shawnee......LOL! Why do people keep trying then?

Shawnee123 · 08-30-2007, 03:00 PM

Slow and steady wins the race!

Stormieweather · 08-31-2007, 12:19 PM

There are different types of orgasms. The one from clitoral stimulation is different from a g-spot orgasm or vaginal, and all of those are different from the kind I have when I'm on top. I can have two different kinds of clitoral orgasm, one vaginal and one clitoral (and can have them simultaneously, when I'm lucky). I did not have (and had never had) any orgasms for many years, although sex was enjoyable. The turning point was when I started buying toys (I'd stayed away because so many people said it ruined sex with a partner). I found out that what turns me on is not in/out motion, but circular. I discovered that the left side of my clitoris is more sensitive than the right. And I overcame my self-conciousness at letting go enough to tip 'over the edge'. I've also found that the more I self-stimulate, the easier it is to orgasm with a partner. If I go a long time without taking care of myself, it becomes nearly impossible with a partner. The partner makes a huge difference too, as well as my emotional connection to him.

Sorry if this is too much information

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08-28-2007, 01:51 PM	#1
smurfalicious Tool. Not the band - you are one. Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: 501 Northlake Blvd., North Palm Beach FL Posts: 329	Good point re: meds. I was on an antidepressant for a short time and even though my doctor insisted that it could not affect my sex drive, it did. Not only that, but it decreased sensitivity to the point where climax was not possible. I stopped taking the meds (and going to that doctor), and it all went back to normal. Things get better with age. I'm 31 now and am starting to notice a huge increase in drive and pleasure. The lover makes all the difference in the world, though it's not always for lack of trying that some are not as successful. I cannot orgasm during cunnilingus. I used to, before I gave birth. But since then, lo those 8 + years ago, I think I've come maybe twice that way. I don't think I have any hang-ups that would be preventing an orgasm. It's a mystery. My emotional state greatly affects my ability to orgasm. Can't help it, I'm a chick, gotta have that emotional connection... unless it's the rare occasion it's PURE lust. I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know. Maybe she's just one of those women who can't orgasm. It happens. Not that I'm suggesting you give up. I've heard of sex counselors helping people. __________________

08-29-2007, 07:57 AM	#10
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-30-2007, 02:34 PM	#12
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	It seems to be a difficult point to get across. Now, let's all say it together... (Believe me, we'll ALL be much happier.) __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-30-2007, 02:54 PM	#13
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	I didn't know those things were "smudge-proof" Shawnee......LOL! Why do people keep trying then? __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

08-30-2007, 03:00 PM	#14
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Slow and steady wins the race! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-28-2007, 04:43 PM	#8
Deuce Pesky Pugalist [sp] Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 191	"Cherry Pop"

08-31-2007, 12:19 PM	#15
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	There are different types of orgasms. The one from clitoral stimulation is different from a g-spot orgasm or vaginal, and all of those are different from the kind I have when I'm on top. I can have two different kinds of clitoral orgasm, one vaginal and one clitoral (and can have them simultaneously, when I'm lucky). I did not have (and had never had) any orgasms for many years, although sex was enjoyable. The turning point was when I started buying toys (I'd stayed away because so many people said it ruined sex with a partner). I found out that what turns me on is not in/out motion, but circular. I discovered that the left side of my clitoris is more sensitive than the right. And I overcame my self-conciousness at letting go enough to tip 'over the edge'. I've also found that the more I self-stimulate, the easier it is to orgasm with a partner. If I go a long time without taking care of myself, it becomes nearly impossible with a partner. The partner makes a huge difference too, as well as my emotional connection to him. Sorry if this is too much information . __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

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