What is pissing you off this time?

[footfootfoot]

A friend of mine gets all chummy with them,
"Oh hi Darlene! How are you? What's new? It's been a while, but I was thinking about you the other day and I was telling a friend about you..." IF you do it naturally enough they will wrack or rack? their brains trying to figure out who the hell you are as you ramble along. When you finally get to your business they are usually pretty disoriented and easier to manage.

[monster]

They often like it if you tell them about your recent sexual fantasies.

[footfootfoot]

What are you wearing? Is a line I like to start off with.

[ZenGum]

That crittur in FFF's basement has started something it isn't going to be able to finish.

[footfootfoot]

Oh, I've got the trapline set.

[BigV]

yabutt... you only get the pleasure of killing him once. he has the pleasure of wrecking an endless number of your treasures stored in your basement, with his teeth and with his piss.

It's not fair really.

heh... I remember a winter camping trip once where we stayed in a lovely cabin. There were LOTS of young scouts (cub scouts and webelos) and plenty of Dads. One of the Dads, my best friend PH, picked a spot next to the chimney, where an old stove had been removed. There was a hole in the chimney where the old stovepipe used to be plumbed into, but was now gone with the stove. This large hole let in a detectable draft, so PH took his coat, a nice Helly Hansen and stuffed it into the hole. Problem solved. But when he took his coat out of the hole in the morning, the half that was facing the chimney was chewed into lace. Man, was he pissed.

They win man, junta virus, piss everywhere, teeth that never stop, ... it's not fair. GOOD LUCK.

[glatt]

When I was renovating our downstairs bathroom, I had removed the toilet and jammed a rag into the closet pipe to keep the stench out. A week later, when I pulled out the rag, there was a lot less of it. I'm glad that whatever was chewing it gave up and didn't come into the living area. Yuck.

[Griff]

A rodent of unusual size perhaps?

[infinite monkey]

Let's go camping.

[it]

so my xwife brought on a "rebuilding mutual respect" thing that turned out to be complete bullshit...the only thing she did in that convo was throwing salt on the wounds.

we literally had this conversation:
her "the only parenting you can do is your own actions"
me "which you limited to nothing..."
her "get used to it :p"
&
her: "quit trying to force yourself into something that isn't yours"
me: "its the biological father's then (who left before she gave birth)? what else do you have with him that you think i don't?"
"5 years of going through more shit then you think you had"

at the very least by her own logic, if the right for parenting comes from years of taking care of him, i have the last two years where she was never there, at best it would mean she has more of a right then i have but not that i don't have. but following her own logic is so inconvient...

and what about willingness to actually indure in order to get the child what he deserved? i stayed there long after i hated every moment i spent with her, when we had nothing but a faint hope of one day having the capaciy to fix our shit (mostly hers). she used that willingness to get what she wanted in every fight. used my love for her and our child against me again and again... which is how i started hating her in the first place.

i really really hate this women. building mutual respect? the capacity to respect her dies the more you get to know her. a personality only a mother and people who are required by law can love.

she can go on with her life, having every relationship die the moment anyone cares enough for her to use it against him until the kid had two dozen fathers and has grown up enough to judge her for who she really is and loose all respect for her as a person, walk out and never call back.

i want nothing to do with her little sick mind anymore.

may she rot in bitch hell.

[Aliantha]

Well, I'd say that definitely sounds like a pissed off post traceur. Am I reading it correctly that you met this woman when she was pregnant, and helped raise her child, and now she wont let you see the child?

[it]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Well, I'd say that definitely sounds like a pissed off post traceur. Am I reading it correctly that you met this woman when she was pregnant, and helped raise her child, and now she wont let you see the child?

i met her when he was 3 and we raised the child together until he was 5. i realized that doesn't sound like much but i was a stay at home dad (had problems getting my work visa & immigration takes time), which creates a lot of time and activities for bonding.

that was slightly over 3 weeks ago so its sort of fresh. the correspondance i refered to above was over the last few days and ended this morning which made me pissed. sort of a raising my hopes up and taking them away sort of deal.

[Aliantha]

Two years is a lot of time to spend with a child. Especially a small one. You would probably be the only father figure he has in his memory, so you're right to want to still care about him, especially if he's missing you.

Makes it hard to have a relationship when you're in another country though.

Do you intend to try and do that or maybe just hope that someone special comes along who can give him the love that you once did?

I can imagine how you feel right now though. I know my husband, who is not the biological father of my oldest two kids, would still want to see them if for some strange reason we ever split up.

[it]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Makes it hard to have a relationship when you're in another country though.

if she allowed me to have a relationship with him i would find a way to immigrate there that didn't count on her sponsership. it might take a hell of a lot longer, i know cases where that took 5 years, but people still do it.

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Do you intend to try and do that or maybe just hope that someone special comes along who can give him the love that you once did?

shes quite hot and impressive at first, so she will get man i have no doubt, but she's not very good at adapting to others and keeping relationships - i was staying for the kid for quite awhile before she dumped me, even as she was milking it to the very end. i doubt most man would do that. any man who'd love him like i did will find that she'll use it against him.

so basically i expect him to have many many short term fathers.

[Aliantha]

It's a shame when that sort of things happens to kids.