Too big or too small? (nsfw)

[Aliantha]

Do you think men have similar pressures?

[glatt]

Nope.

Well, maybe about careers.

[DanaC]

No. I think there are pressures on men. But I don't think they are subject to the same level of constant scrutiny and analysis as a gender as women are.

There isn't the same level of cultural anxiety around what makes a man as there is around what makes a woman. Though there is now some anxiety around what is a man, and that makes it seem like a very big question. But the reality is that the question of what is a woman is neverending, always present and only really waxes and wanes in terms of the levels of anxiety and prescription.

[Griff]

Originally Posted by DanaC

No. I think there are pressures on men. But I don't think they are subject to the same level of constant scrutiny and analysis as a gender as women are.

If you refer to the same "men's" magazines that idealize unattainable body types, you'll find plenty of paranoia about hairlines, pecs, and abs. Thing is those are magazines for early twenty somethings, hardly men yet, who are really lost about their place in the world, not having figured out what is truly important to them and are easily swayed by advertising as they come out of the teenage fog of testosterone induced irrationality. The media blitz continues against women though, well past the age they seem to give up on men, Cialis not with-standing.

[Clodfobble]

Yeah, I was going to say that men are under pressure to provide an ever-increasing salary, be very handy with tools, and maybe play baseball outside with their kid every afternoon. But I don't think they have to deal with image pressure at all. If anything, they get anti-image pressure, because if you care too much about your image, it's implied that you must be gay.

[DanaC]

Think about the sexualising children debate. Is it really a debate about children? or is it actually a debate about sexualising girls? There is absolutely no corresponding debate about sexualising boys.

The question of what is a girl is fundamentally more important to us as a culture than the question what is a boy? That's one of the reasons boys who don't fit the picture become so culturally downgraded. because by not being like a boy they are being 'like a girl'. The emphasis is not on what a boy should be, but what he should not be: ie, like a girl. The core definition involved is ....what makes a girl.

[TheMercenary]

The bigger woman looks more healthy and generally sexy but I wouldn't turn either one away.

[Lamplighter]

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

The bigger woman looks more healthy and generally sexy but I wouldn't turn either one away.

That's what Bill said too...

[Spexxvet]

I am more likely to be physically attracted to a soft woman, but there are plenty of very attractive women of all sizes in the world.

[DanaC]

I don't think those magazines play as prominent a role in young male culture as the equivalent do in young female culture. It's also less all encompassing. It's in the lads mags. But it isn't everywhere they look all the time from their toddler years onwards.

[Griff]

It is hard, but we have to teach our girls to be skeptical of media images. That is just another reason to turn off the tv if you're raising kids.

[HungLikeJesus]

Don't just turn it off. Throw it out the window.

[Griff]

... and shoot it twice before it hits the ground.

[Gravdigr]

Originally Posted by HungLikeJesus

Don't just turn it off. Throw it out the window.

Originally Posted by Griff

... and shoot it twice before it hits the ground.

...then finish it off with one behind the speaker.

[BigV]

Originally Posted by HungLikeJesus

Don't just turn it off. Throw it out the window.

the window, the window
the second story window,
high, low, low, high
he threw it out the window!