I'm Jim, and I'm a Compulsive Overeater

[sad_winslow]

Good for you for taking an active step to adjust your lifestyle, that's really how it begins. i have tendencies to overeat, too, plus an inactive lifestyle to boot, all complicated by a lifetime of digestive issues in general. i completely understand where you're at - i fight with food constantly, too. sometimes food wins still.

one day at a time, and you can sort it out. keep posting on your progress if it helps any - your success as well as your slips, and it may help you gain control of it. it's tough. i totally agree with stormieweather up above - it feels harder because you just can't simply not eat the way you can not drink alcohol or smoke a cigarette - you have to have food to survive! in one very real sense that makes it even harder than any drug or alcohol or other addiction - but it *is* one that can be overcome, still. best of luck to you.

[Pooka]

LJ.... I can TOTALLY relate... in a huge way... I've transfered one addiction to another over the years and it rested and still does to a large degree in eating. I am what you would call a binge eater. I doubled in size... literally and was eating more than Flint who is a foot taller than me. I sneak... and can easily consume a weeks worth of lunches in one afternoon. I've had so many excuses over the years for eating too much... and it has kept me from being truly happy and feeling like myself... its kept me from excersing and doing things with Flint I would love to do. I'm ashamed of it... I'm ashamed of my body and that is a terrible way to feel. It is horrible to be afraid of food... you have to eat.

To be honest the HCG diet has been wonderful for me because I have to measure my food... it is totally joyless and my weight loss is so rapid that I have yet to fall off the wagon. I don't do well when allowed to eat a simi normal diet ... I sneak and justify eating and god forbid something stressful happens... we won't even go into that.

I just wanted you to know that you aren't the only one... and you can beat it... if you want more infomation on what I've found to help... or this diet... I'm here... you can pm me... or... you have my personal e-mail... you know where to find me... you can even have my number if you want... I doubt Flint would object.

[lumberjim]

Thanks, We actually are already taking Jayd's advice. As of yesterday, jinx has my bank card, and I'll draw an allowance to get me through the week with gas and food. It's tough to admit that you've failed at something, but I have proven that I can't be relied on to work the plan.... so...

[Pooka]

We all fail at something from time to time... some of us are bright enough to realize our failures, some of us are fortunate enough to have loved ones brave and honest enough to enlighten us, and some of us never get it and continue on our paths of self distruction.

We are here for you... you are awesome LJ in so many ways... you can overcome this.

[lumberjim]

There's also more to this than the eating. It's the deception. I smoked behind her back for a while a few years ago too. Jesus I suck.

you guys should be supporting jinx, she's the wronged party here. She didnt deserve to be treated like this.

[classicman]

I meant you in the plural sense. I'm sure that most people meant that as well.

[Pooka]

We are here to support the both of you. You both need healing and compasion and understanding.

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by classicman

I meant you in the plural sense. I'm sure that most people meant that as well.

Originally Posted by Pooka

We are here to support the both of you. You both need healing and compasion and understanding.

I'm sorry. I know you guys(allyouguys) did. I'm not thinking very clearly today.

[Nirvana]

I support you both, but there are worse things than an eating disorder. Like womanizing or drug and alcohol addiction. You don't have to do drugs, drink , or even have sex to live but you do have to eat. Learning to control what you eat is a challenge but you can do it!

My hub is a horder I "enjoy" that this is his problem rather than him having a drug, alcohol or womanizing problem. He is learning to throw things away. Change can happen, good luck!

[Pico and ME]

Jim, I'm sure you may have already discovered this but I think what you were going through was more of a power struggle. As a women who is the strong one in the relationship (or the decision maker for the most part), I can see where and how that affects the (my) husband. This problem needs the both of you to handle.

[monster]

Are you back home?

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by monster

Are you back home?

No, monster. I'm living at my mom's. In my old room. She didn't mean 'a while' ...like a few hours. It wasn't a quick time out... It was either that or she was going to take the kids and go who knows where. she was/is that freaked out. She's 37, and completely dependent on me to provide for her and her kids... she trusted me to do that.... and I'm fucking it up badly.

I don't know yet how bad this is. I keep thinking I do, but then something else is made clear to me. I've been ignoring warnings and symptoms of stress in our relationship for many years, it seems. I want to be as honest about this as I can, and I keep thinking that I am, only to realize later that I haven't been. I can't even tell when I'm spinning the facts at this point. If I can't see the truth, how can I tell it?........I don't know.

I haven't had a drink in 10 days, or coffee, or junk food.... and last night I finally got more than 4 hours of sleep, so I'm starting to realize some of the things I've said and done... .

Today when I woke up, I felt a little bit more optimistic about things, and then a past due electric bill turned up. I had put off paying that. It was due early this month and I had carried a smallish amount from the prior month... so I owed 369 on July 3rd or something. I knew I was falling behind there, and I was planning on calling... blah blah blah...spin deleted.... now next months bill is here and its 6something.

anyway, I had to go in and ask my boss for an advance against my bonus to hopefully cover it, so that when jinx takes over the bills, she's not starting in a hole. I had to tell him what I was dealing with, so he'd understand it if I make some colossal fuck up here at work. I told him I was out of the house, and that I am going to get help. He was just as nice about it as you all have been. I am so ashamed about this that I don't want to tell anyone else I work with. I will eventually, but not while there's a danger of my bursting into tears in front of them. I work hard and make a lot of money. Our bills should be paid. All of them, every month.

[Undertoad]

(@ pico) That is probably always the case, and I understand that immeidate family often attends these sorts of meetings and gets something constructive out of it.

[Cicero]

I was just wondering where you guys were! I hope all goes well on your road to recovery! None of us here are perfect... I understand if you need to fess up and change.

I have things to quit too...when I'm ready.

I'm glad you are putting your best foot forward, in earnest!

God luck and I hope things cool off! We're around if you need us minus the recipies.

[zippyt]

Love and support to you BOTH !!!!!