compliments and insults - Page 2

jaguar · 05-18-2005, 10:02 AM

calvinism dies hard.

cowhead · 05-18-2005, 11:15 AM

well.. a genuine insult will provoke a very severe reaction from me, the thing is that there really aren't that many people willing to actually throw down with a wholesome game of 'fuck you' (which is okay by me) and in my line of work there is a theme of general insulting, it's not meant to be really mean.. although I think it does have alot to do with 'pecking order' as it were since open combat is really right out of the question.

A genuine compliment? the thing is that I won't believe them, unless I have been in an intimate relationship with them for quite some time, and I know them well enough to know it's true. ( I have a bad habit of studying people who I am in a relationship to try to anticipate what they want.. (in general) and try to meet those desires before they become needs.. if that makes sense).

Pie · 05-18-2005, 11:31 AM

A compliment is much harder in the short term -- I blush, stammer & look like a fool.
But in the long run, it makes me feel good; an insult (unless completely groundless & absurd or spoken in jest) hurts when you get to the introspection.

hot_pastrami · 05-18-2005, 04:58 PM

I take both with a large grain of salt... but when the input is honest and unexaggerated, either one is appreciated.

elSicomoro · 05-18-2005, 07:06 PM

HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

hot_pastrami · 05-18-2005, 11:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sycamore

HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

I reserve a special collection of VERY large salt grains just for you, buddy.

warch · 05-19-2005, 12:56 PM

Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic.

So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

elSicomoro · 05-19-2005, 01:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by warch

Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic.

So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

Okay...who stole warch's login info?

lookout123 · 05-19-2005, 02:03 PM

i'm uncomfortable with compliments to my face, i'm always looking for the angle. it feels really good when you hear through the grapevine has been complimentary though.

warch · 05-19-2005, 02:16 PM

Was that an insult or a compliment? What does it mean when you're not sure? (I would attach a simple smilie, but I find that in the growing bar to the right of this text box there are 4,889 wiggly variants and emotional bullets to navigate, so I lost my will.)

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 04:42 AM

Since your question was thoughtful and intelligent, I'd have to say it was an insult... and you're right- it's friggin impossible to find the right smilie!!!

Is there a way to group the damn things??? You know- "happy", "mad", "sad", "confused", "dead/ill", etc...

by the way,
A compliment you hear behind your back is the best kind.

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 06:40 AM

Okay, That inspired me to take it upon myself to categorize every single smilie, and then I tried to post the list under "cellar comments and suggestions" and it wouldn't let me, said I tried to post too many smilies.

Yes, I have OCD tendencies when I have pms

Happy Monkey · 05-21-2005, 08:25 AM

Would it let you make one post per category?

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 12:44 PM

um, even if it let me do that, I'd have to make 24 posts...
let's see if it'll let me put in just the "happy" category:
HAPPY:

:p

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 12:45 PM

The "Disapproval/Disgust" category was much bigger...let's see:
DISAPPROVAL/DISGUST:

Yay! it worked. But would you really want me to make 22 more posts like that?

View Poll Results: would you prefer an insult or a compliment? (mulitple answers ok)
A compliment	7	28.00%
An insult is less embarrassing	3	12.00%
It depends mainly on who is giving which	10	40.00%
depends on the topic	3	12.00%
any attention is good attention	1	4.00%
Fuck you, i'm sick of all the goddamn polls on here.	7	28.00%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 25. You may not vote on this poll

05-18-2005, 10:02 AM	#1
jaguar whig Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5,075	calvinism dies hard. __________________ Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. - Twain

05-18-2005, 11:15 AM	#2
cowhead halve your cake and eat it too. Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Georgia.. by way of Lawrence Kansas Posts: 1,359	well.. a genuine insult will provoke a very severe reaction from me, the thing is that there really aren't that many people willing to actually throw down with a wholesome game of 'fuck you' (which is okay by me) and in my line of work there is a theme of general insulting, it's not meant to be really mean.. although I think it does have alot to do with 'pecking order' as it were since open combat is really right out of the question. A genuine compliment? the thing is that I won't believe them, unless I have been in an intimate relationship with them for quite some time, and I know them well enough to know it's true. ( I have a bad habit of studying people who I am in a relationship to try to anticipate what they want.. (in general) and try to meet those desires before they become needs.. if that makes sense). __________________ no my child.. this is not my desire..I'm digging for fire.

05-18-2005, 11:31 AM	#3
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	A compliment is much harder in the short term -- I blush, stammer & look like a fool. But in the long run, it makes me feel good; an insult (unless completely groundless & absurd or spoken in jest) hurts when you get to the introspection. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

05-18-2005, 04:58 PM	#4
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	I take both with a large grain of salt... but when the input is honest and unexaggerated, either one is appreciated. __________________ Hot Pastrami!

05-18-2005, 07:06 PM	#5
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

05-19-2005, 12:56 PM	#7
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic. So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

05-19-2005, 02:03 PM	#9
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i'm uncomfortable with compliments to my face, i'm always looking for the angle. it feels really good when you hear through the grapevine has been complimentary though. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

05-19-2005, 02:16 PM	#10
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	Was that an insult or a compliment? What does it mean when you're not sure? (I would attach a simple smilie, but I find that in the growing bar to the right of this text box there are 4,889 wiggly variants and emotional bullets to navigate, so I lost my will.)

05-21-2005, 04:42 AM	#11
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	Since your question was thoughtful and intelligent, I'd have to say it was an insult... and you're right- it's friggin impossible to find the right smilie!!! Is there a way to group the damn things??? You know- "happy", "mad", "sad", "confused", "dead/ill", etc... by the way, A compliment you hear behind your back is the best kind. Last edited by staceyv; 05-21-2005 at 04:46 AM.

05-21-2005, 06:40 AM	#12
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	Okay, That inspired me to take it upon myself to categorize every single smilie, and then I tried to post the list under "cellar comments and suggestions" and it wouldn't let me, said I tried to post too many smilies. Yes, I have OCD tendencies when I have pms

05-21-2005, 08:25 AM	#13
Happy Monkey I think this line's mostly filler. Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: DC Posts: 13,575	Would it let you make one post per category? __________________ _________________ \|...............\| We live in the nick of times. \| Len 17, Wid 3 \| \|_______________\| [pics]

05-21-2005, 12:44 PM	#14
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	um, even if it let me do that, I'd have to make 24 posts... let's see if it'll let me put in just the "happy" category: HAPPY: :p

05-21-2005, 12:45 PM	#15
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	The "Disapproval/Disgust" category was much bigger...let's see: DISAPPROVAL/DISGUST: Yay! it worked. But would you really want me to make 22 more posts like that?

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