Roommate trouble prevention

[piercehawkeye45]

As of now, I have about a month and a half of my current roommate setup with the house that I am living at. Three other guys (Charlie, Eric, Joe) that I get along with fairly well and the issues I have with them are usually small and short lived. But in a month and a half one of my roommates, Charlie, will be moving out and another, Nick, will be moving in.

The main two problems I am seeing is an increase in belligerence and dirtiness in the house. I am not high strung on either issue since I do tend to partake in both every once in a while, but I do have limits and I am convinced that they will be passed multiple times during the next lease year.

The reason is that the roommate that is moving in, Nick, is an extremely immature, cocky, and belligerent drunk who plans to drink a lot next year with the help of Eric. The problem is that
Eric gets checked both by me, I quit drinking a year ago, and my other two roommates who find him annoying when he gets into that stage. On top of that, when both Nick and Eric get together, they really feed off each other making it even worse. Plus, my other roommate that is staying, Joe, has a steady girlfriend and usually stays at their place leaving me alone with those two.

For the cleanliness problem, I recently found out that Nick's clean apartment is entirely due to his current roommate and that Nick is probably a dirty person. This previously would not bother me, I have lived in extremely dirty conditions in the past, but I personally feel I have grown past that and I really prefer having a decently clean house. Once again, I am not a clean freak by any means, but common sense here. For example, right now I try to clean up all my meals in a 24 hour time period if not right after I eat. My roommate Eric waits to clean everything for the weekend when he will clean everything up. I accept this as compromise because we usually do not run out of dishes for that week but he will do that with dishes we have limited resources of (pots for example) and not clean that up so I will be forced to clean his dishes so I can cook. If Nick is worse than Eric, along with the fact that most dishes will be mine next year (most are Charlie's at this moment), my line will most likely be crossed which is when I have to clean up other people's dishes to eat or the kitchen becomes too messy.


I am looking to prevent fights within my household since I am outnumbered 2 to 1 and it will extend into out outer groups of friends so this is what I was thinking so any comments, suggestions, or personal stories would be greatly appreciated.


As of now, the following are some extended knowledge for preventing this problem. For the belligerent aspect I have brought it up to most of my extended group of friends (ones living outside our house) and all have at least acknowledged the tendency of both to be belligerent. I also have a reputation for being calm and reasonable with my friends so with those two I will have my entire extended group of friends backing me on this issue. For the cleanliness issue, I have brought the dish issue up with Eric in private multiple times and he stubbornly refuses to clean them up after he uses them.


With that, here are my current plans to deal with this situation. For the belligerence issue, this will be the toughest on me personally but thankfully the most apparent to everyone else that does not live in the house. For this, I am planning on using my friends to help me just beat the fact that their actions are immature and should stop into their head. Both of them can respond to a group of people telling them that they are in the wrong but unfortunately that only happens when they are sober. I do not have many other ideas that will work with this. If that does not work, I can either leave when they are both drunk (very unpreferable and sometimes impossible), physically confrontation, or making an ultimatum with my friends to do something about it. Any advise with this issue would be greatly appreciated since none of my friends are going to tell them to stop drinking, they all drink besides me, and they will not have to live with them either.

For the cleanliness issue, I do have some ideas. I will bring the issue up to them personally and expect them to not do anything. My first plan will be to threaten, then follow though, on making all my dishes personal and say they can not use them. This will solve the problem but will leave them without dishes and will get them mad, leading to other problems. This will also only solve the problem with the kitchen, not anywhere else. A second plan is personal humiliation but ragging on them with my group of friends anytime anyone mentions the house being unclean. Once again, any help would be appreciated.



I apologize if this long and if it unclear or jumpy at parts.