For the Longest Time... - Page 2

DanaC · 11-07-2007, 04:59 PM

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See, the difference is, you adults are free to pursue whatever you like, with no authority figure above you meddling, and furthermore the societal pressure is towards romance, rather than away from it like it is in high school.

Ibram, may I respectfully suggest that we old farts have more understanding of what being young was like, having been there, than you have understanding of being an old fart, having not been there yet.

lookout123 · 11-07-2007, 05:24 PM

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And being a 37 year old manicly depressed, physically challenged, chronicly anxious individual ain't that easy either.

if you haven't figured it out, dropping that into threads all sly like doesn't make us care more. be nice. then we care. you digging at ibram doesn't make you look cool, it's like the bully that picks on the younger kids. just knock it off.

Ibram, the thing is that at nearly every stage in your life you will be looking forward to the next one, "when it gets easier" or "i'll be free to", but ironically in the next breath you'll say things like, "it was so much easier when all i had to do was follow a few rules and chase uninterested skirts". Every stage has pros and cons. at this very moment, taking a snap shot of my life i can say that i'm living "the dream" at least how i pictured it when i was your age. but i catch myself thinking how nice it was when all i had to do was pass some tests, chase some skirts, and go to concerts. it's all about perspective.

Drax · 11-07-2007, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lookout123

if you haven't figured it out, dropping that into threads all sly like doesn't make us care more. be nice. then we care. you digging at ibram doesn't make you look cool, it's like the bully that picks on the younger kids. just knock it off.

I wasn't being sly, and I wasn't trying to make you care. I was simply show ing Ibram that he's luckier than me.

At 16, Ibram may feel that he has problems, but at least he doesn't have to deal with being handicapped.

Also, I wasn't trying to be a bully, but don't you think that answering my posts with nothing other than "No" multiple times is a bit toddlerish?

lookout123 · 11-07-2007, 05:54 PM

No

lookout123 · 11-07-2007, 05:59 PM

sorry, i couldn't resist. that's the beauty of the cellar, we are all free to be dumbasses. just try not to be overly annoying about it. or something.

here's the thing, you've brought your disability into a couple of threads this week. it's not that i don't care... it's just that i don't care when it is dropped into a thread in such a way that it looks like it is meant to trump any weakness in your previous statement.

Take LJ for example. We all know he is seriously mentally challenged, and we respect and care for him because he doesn't make a point of telling us he is handicapped, he just lets us figure it out by reading his normal posts. Get the difference?

What? LJ isn't mentally challenged? and all this time I thought jinx was a saint for... aw, damn.*worldview crashes*

Drax · 11-07-2007, 05:59 PM

Don't you start with me.

lumberjim · 11-07-2007, 06:17 PM

My cock is mentally challenged.

and if lookout drew a brownish purple line on his head from crown to brow, .....from behind he'd look like a penis with ears.

Drax · 11-07-2007, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by lumberjim

My cock is mentally challenged.

and if lookout drew a brownish purple line on his head from crown to brow, .....from behind he'd look like a penis with ears.

do whut?

Aliantha · 11-07-2007, 06:44 PM

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See, the difference is, you adults are free to pursue whatever you like, with no authority figure above you meddling, and furthermore the societal pressure is towards romance, rather than away from it like it is in high school.

Ibram, if you think people stop meddling in your life when you reach your majority, I'm telling you that's simply not true.

And have a think about this. What about all the people out there who think they've got the right one, have a couple of kids and then whamo! It's all over. How hard do you think it is to find someone to take on you AND the kids you had with someone else?

Trust me, no matter what stage of life you're at, you'll face challenges in meeting the right person who happens to be traveling in the same direction as you.

Ibby · 11-07-2007, 07:20 PM

I'm not even talking about finding someone to settle down with, i'm talking about someone to have dinner with, see movies with, screw around with, and just hang out with.
Adults have a much wider range of options on that front, I'm certain. Even though some don't, its still easier for adults to find both someone to date casually or someone to hook up with.

I know I don't have the benefit of being there to be able to see for myself but i'm sure that the options are indeed wider for someone who doesnt have to worry about mommy and daddy, or whatever.

Aliantha · 11-07-2007, 07:23 PM

No, they're not.

Ibby · 11-07-2007, 07:34 PM

Whatever, dear. That wasn't even my point to begin with, i dont think. My point was mostly just bitching about not havin' anybody, and being romantically starved, and needing some kind of excitement in my life.

though note that every single one of you are getting more than I am, or at least have gotten more than I have. Case closed!

Aliantha · 11-07-2007, 07:41 PM

Well when I was your age I wasn't getting any. I had boyfriends during high school etc, but nothing much too serious really (although I thought at the time they were very serious). Hindsight is 20 20 vision though.

You're only 16. What's the big hurry anyway? You'll have plenty of time to bemoan the fact that you're not getting any when you're old and withered like the rest of us.

Maybe you should join a club?

Elspode · 11-07-2007, 09:16 PM

Adults may not have the same sort of authority figures micromanaging us, but trust me, the responsibilities that that we (apparently) willingly shoulder make me wish to fuck that I *was* 17 again. At that age, I had more sex, more money, more free time (well, okay - now that my marriage is open, I'm having more sex now, but barely) and more self-determination about who I was and what I was doing than I've seen since I became a husband and a parent.

Growing up provides a certain small amount of a very narrow range of freedoms, but the responsibilities and stress that come with it are waaaayyyy the hell out of proportion for what you get in the bargain. And if you think its tough to have a relationship *now*, at your tender age, wait until you're on the second open marriage stage of your second marriage, and you're trying to figure out how involved you want to get with a very hot alternative partner who is trying to figure out if they want to leave *their* second spouse just because you are a lot easier and more providing of escapist pleasures and you remind them of how much easier and more fun it is to not have those burdens hanging over you.

I'm tellin' ya, man...suck it up and enjoy your youth. It only gets weirder from there.

Ibby · 11-07-2007, 09:36 PM

You were making no such point, you were bitching about your problems in my bitching thread. I thought you were the one that believed in that thread ownership crap anyway?

Mm, I think I'm allowed to snap at him just this once. I've done an admirable job thus far haven't i? If it was merc tryin' to get a rise out of me I'd have already retaliated for sure. Pretty sad, really, that I care more about merc...

11-07-2007, 05:54 PM	#4
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	No __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-07-2007, 05:59 PM	#5
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	sorry, i couldn't resist. that's the beauty of the cellar, we are all free to be dumbasses. just try not to be overly annoying about it. or something. here's the thing, you've brought your disability into a couple of threads this week. it's not that i don't care... it's just that i don't care when it is dropped into a thread in such a way that it looks like it is meant to trump any weakness in your previous statement. Take LJ for example. We all know he is seriously mentally challenged, and we respect and care for him because he doesn't make a point of telling us he is handicapped, he just lets us figure it out by reading his normal posts. Get the difference? What? LJ isn't mentally challenged? and all this time I thought jinx was a saint for... aw, damn.worldview crashes __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-07-2007, 06:17 PM	#7
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	My cock is mentally challenged. and if lookout drew a brownish purple line on his head from crown to brow, .....from behind he'd look like a penis with ears. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

11-07-2007, 07:20 PM	#10
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	I'm not even talking about finding someone to settle down with, i'm talking about someone to have dinner with, see movies with, screw around with, and just hang out with. Adults have a much wider range of options on that front, I'm certain. Even though some don't, its still easier for adults to find both someone to date casually or someone to hook up with. I know I don't have the benefit of being there to be able to see for myself but i'm sure that the options are indeed wider for someone who doesnt have to worry about mommy and daddy, or whatever. __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

11-07-2007, 07:23 PM	#11
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	No, they're not. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-07-2007, 05:59 PM	#6
Drax Banned Join Date: May 2007 Location: Gallman, MS, USA Posts: 1,933	Don't you start with me.

11-07-2007, 07:34 PM	#12
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Whatever, dear. That wasn't even my point to begin with, i dont think. My point was mostly just bitching about not havin' anybody, and being romantically starved, and needing some kind of excitement in my life. though note that every single one of you are getting more than I am, or at least have gotten more than I have. Case closed! __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

11-07-2007, 07:41 PM	#13
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Well when I was your age I wasn't getting any. I had boyfriends during high school etc, but nothing much too serious really (although I thought at the time they were very serious). Hindsight is 20 20 vision though. You're only 16. What's the big hurry anyway? You'll have plenty of time to bemoan the fact that you're not getting any when you're old and withered like the rest of us. Maybe you should join a club? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-07-2007, 09:16 PM	#14
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Adults may not have the same sort of authority figures micromanaging us, but trust me, the responsibilities that that we (apparently) willingly shoulder make me wish to fuck that I was 17 again. At that age, I had more sex, more money, more free time (well, okay - now that my marriage is open, I'm having more sex now, but barely) and more self-determination about who I was and what I was doing than I've seen since I became a husband and a parent. Growing up provides a certain small amount of a very narrow range of freedoms, but the responsibilities and stress that come with it are waaaayyyy the hell out of proportion for what you get in the bargain. And if you think its tough to have a relationship now, at your tender age, wait until you're on the second open marriage stage of your second marriage, and you're trying to figure out how involved you want to get with a very hot alternative partner who is trying to figure out if they want to leave their second spouse just because you are a lot easier and more providing of escapist pleasures and you remind them of how much easier and more fun it is to not have those burdens hanging over you. I'm tellin' ya, man...suck it up and enjoy your youth. It only gets weirder from there. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

11-07-2007, 09:36 PM	#15
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	You were making no such point, you were bitching about your problems in my bitching thread. I thought you were the one that believed in that thread ownership crap anyway? Mm, I think I'm allowed to snap at him just this once. I've done an admirable job thus far haven't i? If it was merc tryin' to get a rise out of me I'd have already retaliated for sure. Pretty sad, really, that I care more about merc... __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

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