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05-27-2006, 10:46 PM | #16 | |
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I'd start implementing those "steps to healthy communications" from my earlier posts...because when it's gotten to the point of venting to [relative] strangers online the relationship talk is failing utterly.
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05-28-2006, 10:51 AM | #17 |
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Strangers? We's family.
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05-28-2006, 12:34 PM | #18 | |
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05-28-2006, 08:16 PM | #19 |
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Y'gotta admit, we're all pretty strange, here...
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05-30-2006, 02:15 PM | #20 | |
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05-30-2006, 02:29 PM | #21 |
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Sometimes its best to just vent to "Relative Strangers" that way you can say ABSOLUTELY whatever you want without real repercussions. Many times you will also get the responses you NEED not just the ones you WANT. Its amazing how you can tailor your vent to a friend to make them sympathetic to your stance whereby here "In da Cellar" you will be told in no uncertain terms exactly what the real deal is. If you are right you'll know and if you're wrong - boy will Bruce let you know
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05-30-2006, 04:27 PM | #22 |
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Tell him how it makes you feel, exactly how it makes you feel.
Then tell him to stop saying it. If he doesn't like the weeds he can pull em'. At the same time, it is true that no one can expect to be courted for life, that is just silly, unless you put-out the same amount as you did & in the same way when you were being courted while overlooking as much too. |
05-30-2006, 04:48 PM | #23 | |
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05-30-2006, 09:38 PM | #24 | |
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True but it can be a way to check if you're completely whacked before going ahead with the work.
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05-31-2006, 08:48 AM | #25 |
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"Not exactly, I'll let you know what I think, but that doesn't mean I'm right. You have to evaluate that for yourself. All I promise, is to be honest, but it's still an opinion."
Sorry Bruce - as usual you are correct - I made a poor choice of words. Maggie, I never meant to imply that it was a substitute for anything. I do think that is can be used as a trial balloon which can avoid one from having to needlessly enter into conflict management. Last edited by yesman065; 05-31-2006 at 08:58 AM. |
05-31-2006, 11:04 AM | #26 | |
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I've lways considered myself a bit of an oddball, I always go against the grain. In that respect, I feel somewhat at home here, and at the same time, I'm finding myself in unchartered waters, 'cause sometime I'm not sure what to say.
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05-31-2006, 01:19 PM | #27 |
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I often tell her exactly what she wants to hear. When I get caught it gets ugly.
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05-31-2006, 02:53 PM | #28 | |
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05-31-2006, 07:26 PM | #29 | |
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Just say what you're thinking and if someone disagrees, so what? If you're being honest you probably won't come off like an asshole. And if you do, someones is sure to tell you.
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06-01-2006, 08:35 PM | #30 |
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When I read the first post in this thread it made me think of my brother. There were only the two of us kids in our family and life wasn't always grand, but it was pretty good most of the time. We were lucky.
The thing that reminds me of my brother in the first post is that in every aspect of life, he sees the negatives eg weeds (a particular pet hate of my brothers) or spending too much on postage or just posting stuff wrongly according to his particular set of rules. I would like to say that I don't believe this particular school of thought has anything to do with anyone's sex. It's got to do with each individual school of thought. Where some people like to see the positives, others like to see the negatives. Being a positive person myself, I find it difficult to understand why people prefer to feel negatively about things. What benefit can there possibly be? Does it give them a sense of superiority to point out that you're not perfect? I think perhaps yes. At least, that's what Dr Phil would say I'm sure. Maybe it's just plain jealousy that causes someone to only see the negative things and never comment on the positives. Fortunately for me, the man in my life is very supportive and positive about everything I do, unless it's something stupid, in which case, I probably don't need him to tell me that anyway.
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